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What do you do when you get homesick?
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What do you do when you get homesick?
And "fly home" is not a smart answer! I've got the blues and I'm starting to miss home a bit and am sure this happens to a lot of other people too. So any tips on dealing with "homesickness" anyone? 

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Re: What do you do when you get homesick?
Definitely,... everyone goes through it at some point.intellectualsmuse wrote:And "fly home" is not a smart answer! I've got the blues and I'm starting to miss home a bit and am sure this happens to a lot of other people too. So any tips on dealing with "homesickness" anyone?
For me, it's when the days begin to blur into each other, or if I've been stuck between 4 walls for a little too long....
Answer is to probably mix up your week a bit, catch up with friends,. find some new interests...
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For me, it was "fly home". I didn't get homesick for the first two decades I was here. It's only in the past 6 to 8 years that I actually started really missing the farm. I don't miss the people, but I do miss the river, the woods, hunting & fishing, etc. I actually, at one point, went 13 years without stepping foot in my country - the closest being the US Embassy here to renew my Passport when it expired.
Now days, it's skype. Can talk all I want for peanuts. Still not the same but it'll do for the time being.
Now days, it's skype. Can talk all I want for peanuts. Still not the same but it'll do for the time being.
SOME PEOPLE TRY TO TURN BACK THEIR ODOMETERS. NOT ME. I WANT PEOPLE TO KNOW WHY I LOOK THIS WAY. I'VE TRAVELED A LONG WAY, AND SOME OF THE ROADS WEREN'T PAVED. ~ Will Rogers
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Miss the food, miss my house, miss my dad and especially my six naughty terriers and shitzu. Last year I went back 3 times. This year dont know yet but already went back one time last month coz my grandfather passed away. Actually he passed away like 2 weeks even before i went back but well where can i find a perfect reason to go back. The worst thing came when I arrived back home and asked my brother to take me to cemetry to pay my respect to my granddad. That's when they told me he got cremated and ashes already scattered at the river as he requested. Blimey ...i m a terrible granddaughter. 

Re: What do you do when you get homesick?
Just the usual ones: do something to have some fun. Could be for your stomach, cold be for your soulintellectualsmuse wrote:And "fly home" is not a smart answer! I've got the blues and I'm starting to miss home a bit and am sure this happens to a lot of other people too. So any tips on dealing with "homesickness" anyone?

No wonder if your whole wardrobe was purchased at M&S, go for something a bit different change of scene and all that.intellectualsmuse wrote:And "fly home" is not a smart answer! I've got the blues and I'm starting to miss home a bit and am sure this happens to a lot of other people too. So any tips on dealing with "homesickness" anyone?
Aster 100 percent agree, home is where your hat is.aster wrote:Funny this, buy I get "homesick" after leaving Singapore nowadays. Nothing puts the smile back on my face more efficiently than landing back at Changi Airport.
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Ya wore some traditional stuff and bright accessories to work this Friday, but it only made me even more MORE homesickQRM wrote:No wonder if your whole wardrobe was purchased at M&S, go for something a bit different change of scene and all that.intellectualsmuse wrote:And "fly home" is not a smart answer! I've got the blues and I'm starting to miss home a bit and am sure this happens to a lot of other people too. So any tips on dealing with "homesickness" anyone?
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For those who fight for it, life has a flavor the sheltered will never know.
The first step of any challenge is to set your goal, for self improvement.
You need to control your thoughts rather than your thoughts control you!
Accept the facts and move on with your goals, the only way forward is positive thoughts....A good cry helps, just like any other grief you have to deal with, there is a systematic process before the feel good factor comes. Search grief and read, you will identify feelings and relate to the here and now.
I've been on the move for 42 years, i cannot find my hat! It's quite sureal sometimes, like being in another world, having faith helps, though the most imortant thing is to know what is happening to yourself, you may need mild medication to give your brain a rest, if you are feeling depression, which is very possible, so ask your doctor for something to stop your thoughts.
I just set myself targets even which i cannot reach anymore becuase of my heart, so lowering my expectations keeps me alive but I do set myself small challenges still which may take my life....Like drinking
beer with people i like to meet trust me, life is really short don't waste it on homesickness, get out and see the world while you can!
The answer is tests, all through life we have tests, it's a journey of suffering and challenges making life more worth while!
If you really want the feel good factor get involved with those that are really suffering and stop thinking of what you are missing.
If you have ever had a punishment posting, you would understand how and why people strike off the days every day.
Survival is blending in with your surroundings and getting on with reaching your goals in life, to make you more stronger. Thoughts are a persons worst enemy if they are negative and will lead to depression.
You can plan your next trip home and set some goals, like you want to save an additional 10k, to spend on your family holidays.
Only hang around with positive people, have a social life, good food and keep fit.
You need to control your thoughts rather than your thoughts control you!
Accept the facts and move on with your goals, the only way forward is positive thoughts....A good cry helps, just like any other grief you have to deal with, there is a systematic process before the feel good factor comes. Search grief and read, you will identify feelings and relate to the here and now.
I've been on the move for 42 years, i cannot find my hat! It's quite sureal sometimes, like being in another world, having faith helps, though the most imortant thing is to know what is happening to yourself, you may need mild medication to give your brain a rest, if you are feeling depression, which is very possible, so ask your doctor for something to stop your thoughts.
I just set myself targets even which i cannot reach anymore becuase of my heart, so lowering my expectations keeps me alive but I do set myself small challenges still which may take my life....Like drinking
beer with people i like to meet trust me, life is really short don't waste it on homesickness, get out and see the world while you can!
The answer is tests, all through life we have tests, it's a journey of suffering and challenges making life more worth while!
If you really want the feel good factor get involved with those that are really suffering and stop thinking of what you are missing.
If you have ever had a punishment posting, you would understand how and why people strike off the days every day.
Survival is blending in with your surroundings and getting on with reaching your goals in life, to make you more stronger. Thoughts are a persons worst enemy if they are negative and will lead to depression.
You can plan your next trip home and set some goals, like you want to save an additional 10k, to spend on your family holidays.
Only hang around with positive people, have a social life, good food and keep fit.
Me too! And I've only been here 3 years!aster wrote:Funny this, buy I get "homesick" after leaving Singapore nowadays. Nothing puts the smile back on my face more efficiently than landing back at Changi Airport.
I WISH I were homesick sometimes cos I feel like a traitor. But as other posters have said here, one only has to open the newspapers from home and, in my case, see how it's dominated by Aussie Rules football and cricket and all manner of macho stuff. Nah, can really do without that and don't miss it one little bit.
As for the OP's query, I'm not sure that 'dipping' into home foods or news etc is the answer. I would imagine 'distraction' methods would be more beneficial. This has already been suggested and I agree. Get out and about, see films, join a club, group, etc and keep busy so that one isn't dwelling on the issue. And I suppose 'get home' once a year so that you have that to look forward to while you're busy distracting yourself!

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