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Divorce Advice

Post by onecc » Tue, 16 Feb 2010 10:54 am

I have married a Vietnamese wife with two kids 2 & 7 for 8 years. Now she already become Singapore citizen

However, recently we do not agree many matters and get quarrel every time. Now she say want to divorce.

What is the process for divorce will go? what is the fees around?

if we divorce, does her singapore citizen will still valid?

can I reapply the citizen for someone if I remarry again?

can I ask to give up her singapore citizen?

Does the flat need to share half with her? (I pay the flat 100%, she does not pay any)

How many percent I can get my kids with me? Does it base on which party has better income?

It is a painful situation I know. Anyone can help and advise

Please advise if any.
your kind advise is appreciated.
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Re: Divorce Advice

Post by jpatokal » Tue, 16 Feb 2010 4:50 pm

Getting divorced in Singapore isn't easy... start here:
http://app.subcourts.gov.sg/family/page ... ageid=3745
onecc wrote:if we divorce, does her singapore citizen will still valid?
Yes, of course.
can I reapply the citizen for someone if I remarry again?
For who? Your new wife?
can I ask to give up her singapore citizen?
You can, and she will laugh at you and say no :cool:
Does the flat need to share half with her? (I pay the flat 100%, she does not pay any)

How many percent I can get my kids with me? Does it base on which party has better income?

It is a painful situation I know. Anyone can help and advise
If you can't even agree on how you're going to divorce, then you need to get a lawyer.
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Post by sundaymorningstaple » Tue, 16 Feb 2010 5:16 pm

onecc wrote:I have married a Vietnamese wife with two kids 2 & 7 for 8 years. Now she already become Singapore citizen

However, recently we do not agree many matters and get quarrel every time. Now she say want to divorce.

What is the process for divorce will go? what is the fees around?

You will have to be separated for three years before you can apply for a divorce.

if we divorce, does her singapore citizen will still valid?

Yes

can I reapply the citizen for someone if I remarry again?

You cannot apply for citizenship. Only the other person can apply.

can I ask to give up her singapore citizen?

No.

Does the flat need to share half with her? (I pay the flat 100%, she does not pay any)

She will probably get custody of the kids. If that happens, she will get "at least" half if not more of the flat

How many percent I can get my kids with me? Does it base on which party has better income?

Unless you have grounds for divorce, the odds are almost 100% that she will get the house, kids and a large chunk of your income as well in support payments.


It is a painful situation I know. Anyone can help and advise

The best advice I can give is to try to find out what the problem is and try to resolve it. All you two are going to do is make life difficult for your children. You have not indicated any infidelity so it's hard to second guess. But I'm afraid you might very well come out on the short end of the stick if proceed. Get a lawyer if you are serious.

Please advise if any.
your kind advise is appreciated.
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Post by onecc » Tue, 16 Feb 2010 9:09 pm

Thank you for your all reply

if we divorce, does her singapore citizen will still valid?

the singapore citizen is I apply for her and pay all the fees and swean with officer. I must present with her.

so if divorce, she still can hold the citizen? what she remarry with other singaporean. feel been cheated....

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Post by onecc » Tue, 16 Feb 2010 9:16 pm

jpatokal wrote:Getting divorced in Singapore isn't easy... start here:
http://app.subcourts.gov.sg/family/page ... ageid=3745
onecc wrote:if we divorce, does her singapore citizen will still valid?
Yes, of course.
can I reapply the citizen for someone if I remarry again?
For who? Your new wife?

I mean just in case and present not mood to think about this...
can I ask to give up her singapore citizen?
You can, and she will laugh at you and say no :cool:

If she say no. I cannot do any things?
Does the flat need to share half with her? (I pay the flat 100%, she does not pay any)

How many percent I can get my kids with me? Does it base on which party has better income?

It is a painful situation I know. Anyone can help and advise
If you can't even agree on how you're going to divorce, then you need to get a lawyer.

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Post by sundaymorningstaple » Tue, 16 Feb 2010 10:43 pm

onecc wrote:Thank you for your all reply

if we divorce, does her singapore citizen will still valid?

Read my reply when you asked the first time!

the singapore citizen is I apply for her and pay all the fees and swean with officer. I must present with her.

so if divorce, she still can hold the citizen? what she remarry with other singaporean. feel been cheated....
She is a citizen of Singapore. Just like you now. Nothing you can do to change that. You may have helped her in the beginning but now it's hers and hers along. Get used to it. She got what she wanted, you obviously got what you wanted (at least for a while anyway). What happens now will have absolutely no bearing on her citizenship. My advice. See a lawyer and not a bunch of strangers on an internet forum.
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Post by mondaymorningquarterback » Wed, 17 Feb 2010 10:54 am

How about you grow the f--- up and be a good husband and father?

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Post by sundaymorningstaple » Wed, 17 Feb 2010 12:02 pm

Thank you MMQ! I can't say that! :cool:
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Post by jpatokal » Thu, 18 Feb 2010 9:49 am

mondaymorningquarterback wrote:How about you grow the f--- up and be a good husband and father?
http://www.theonion.com/content/video/n ... _marriages
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Re: Divorce Advice

Post by glf » Thu, 25 Dec 2014 2:27 pm

Hi. I am a new member. I am a Filipino married to a singaporean man for two years. We have two daughters. We are working together and he is my Boss. That's how we started. It is my second marriage. First marriage was annulled in philippines before getting married with my current husband. We have one daughter before marriage. He has gambling and womanising problem. At first he don't want our daughter. So I came back to give birth in Philippines. After few months he came back to me and we reconciled. But we broke up again after few months due to his womanising activities. I brought my baby back since we are not married yet. After 6 months his mom invited us here in singapore to celebrate her birthday. To make the story short we reconciled again. October 2012 we got married. Feb 2013 I got pregnant. He was so happy. But his womanising activities doesn't stop. We always fight and quarrel and he always gets violent. Lots of history of physical and verbal abuse from him. My last trimester was the ordeal. I found out that while I'm pregnant he is going out with few girls from ktv and pub. I wanted to leave him. He doesn't care about me during those times. Until the day I gave birth while he is outside having fun with his then gf. Due to stress and emotional turmoil my baby were born underweight. She stayed in icy. During our stay in the hospital he continue with his sweet time with his gf. I really wanted to leave but due to my baby's condition I can't. 3 weeks after giving birth he abandoned us Levington under his parents care while he stayed with his affair. He didn't give financial support giving an excuse that he is financially down. After 3 months I decided to work again. This time not with him. December 2013 he came back to me asking for my forgiveness because he is facing bankruptcy on his business. I gave him chance but he betrayed me again. After getting what he wanted from the parents using our family he declared that we cannot be together for there is no love at all. We continue to stay in his parents house. After 6 months my in laws asked for my help in their business. To repay back their kindness I agreed knowing that I will be working g with him again. He wanted a divorce then because of his woman. But never pull thru. After few months he has a project and asked me to help him. He promised that he will leave his woman. Just give him time. But he just used me. After the project he just left me devastated. I'm really decided to leave him then. Spoke to his parents. When we are about to leave he talked to me and pleaded to stay. He said he realized his mistakes. But he still stayed with the woman. I wanted our family to be complete so I tolerate all this. November when he shifted back to us. We got our own apartment. Due to stress at work we always quarrel. So I've decided to resign. That's when he got mad at me. That night itself he got back with his woman. He dont allow me to work. And he declared that our relationship is over and he cannot forgive me. So unfair. Now he wanted the kids to be back with his parents. Me living on my own. He will not divorce me so that I can can continue staying here and work to give monetary support for the kids. I'm holding an ltvp+. I don't want this set up. But my first daughter is holding a dual citizenship and my second one is a citizen here. Is there any possibilities that I will get the custody if I can find a work here and live with my two kids. I will hire a nanny for them. Please advise me......

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Post by zzm9980 » Fri, 26 Dec 2014 6:00 pm

Best advise is to seek a lawyer out. There is a strong filipino specific expat community (paging Nak) perhaps someone in it can recommend someone.

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Post by nakatago » Fri, 26 Dec 2014 6:36 pm

zzm9980 wrote:Best advise is to seek a lawyer out. There is a strong filipino specific expat community (paging Nak) perhaps someone in it can recommend someone.
Sorry, this is outside my league and circles.

All I can say is this is completely within Singapore laws so a Philippine lawyer can't do anything. A Singaporean lawyer is indeed needed.

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Post by zzm9980 » Fri, 26 Dec 2014 9:48 pm

nakatago wrote:
zzm9980 wrote:Best advise is to seek a lawyer out. There is a strong filipino specific expat community (paging Nak) perhaps someone in it can recommend someone.
Sorry, this is outside my league and circles.

All I can say is this is completely within Singapore laws so a Philippine lawyer can't do anything. A Singaporean lawyer is indeed needed.
Oh right, I just assumed there might be a PR-Filipino lawyer here who may take it cheap/pro-bono. Aren't there dedicated Filipino-in-Singapore forums? That's the reason I paged you :D

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Post by nakatago » Sat, 27 Dec 2014 3:52 am

zzm9980 wrote:
nakatago wrote:
zzm9980 wrote:Best advise is to seek a lawyer out. There is a strong filipino specific expat community (paging Nak) perhaps someone in it can recommend someone.
Sorry, this is outside my league and circles.

All I can say is this is completely within Singapore laws so a Philippine lawyer can't do anything. A Singaporean lawyer is indeed needed.
Oh right, I just assumed there might be a PR-Filipino lawyer here who may take it cheap/pro-bono. Aren't there dedicated Filipino-in-Singapore forums? That's the reason I paged you :D
None that I or anyone I know know of.

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Post by ecureilx » Sat, 27 Dec 2014 4:52 pm

nakatago wrote:
zzm9980 wrote:
nakatago wrote: Sorry, this is outside my league and circles.

All I can say is this is completely within Singapore laws so a Philippine lawyer can't do anything. A Singaporean lawyer is indeed needed.
Oh right, I just assumed there might be a PR-Filipino lawyer here who may take it cheap/pro-bono. Aren't there dedicated Filipino-in-Singapore forums? That's the reason I paged you :D
None that I or anyone I know know of.
The pinoy star magazine has a legal column, mainly to assist OFWs

Op can start there ...

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