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I was never married and but I am the legal parent...

Posted: Tue, 19 Jan 2010 11:53 am
by tiyalynn
I will need to apply for a student pass for my son but one of the requirements is that you must provide your marriage certificate or divorce papers and custody papers for my child...

His father and I were never married and I am the legal guardian of my child how/do I need to prove that I am have sole custody do I need a letter of consent to migrate in another country?

Re: I was never married and but I am the legal parent...

Posted: Tue, 19 Jan 2010 12:33 pm
by ksl
tiyalynn wrote:I will need to apply for a student pass for my son but one of the requirements is that you must provide your marriage certificate or divorce papers and custody papers for my child...

His father and I were never married and I am the legal guardian of my child how/do I need to prove that I am have sole custody do I need a letter of consent to migrate in another country?
Best to get a solicitor to help you with the documentation.

You may need proof you have never been married and you will also need proof you are the legal guardian from the Courts. Register of Marriage office to certify you have not been married.

I would also recommend DNA proof the child is yours!

Travelling different countries with a child out of wedlock, maybe accepted in some Countries and not in others! Though i am looking at the worst scenario.

On the application write N/A and write never been married.

Posted: Tue, 19 Jan 2010 7:59 pm
by tiyalynn
thank you KSL...that helps alot I am going to get a letter stating that the father is allowing my son to migrate with me in another country and it will be certified by a lawyer...also he has my last name not his father's would that be any consolation?

I don't know about the rest DNA etc...that is mental such extreme measures just for a child to attend school with somewhere else...

Posted: Wed, 20 Jan 2010 3:16 pm
by ksl
tiyalynn wrote:thank you KSL...that helps alot I am going to get a letter stating that the father is allowing my son to migrate with me in another country and it will be certified by a lawyer...also he has my last name not his father's would that be any consolation?

I don't know about the rest DNA etc...that is mental such extreme measures just for a child to attend school with somewhere else...
DNA is extreme and not required if your child has your last name on the birth certificate! A signed letter from the father will be enough, maybe endorsed by the solicitor to make it legal. or the solicitor may draw up a legal document for him to sign.

Though i would believe only the fathers consent in writing will do. Ask your solicitor, no need to waste money if you can get away with just a letter from the father!

Not sure which country you are from or how much travelling you have done, but from my own experience in Countries like mainland China you must be very very careful if you have a daughter, kidnappings are very common, becuase of a shortage of women. So kids are taken while young and grow up in a family until they reach the age of marriage. To carry on the blood line, it is very well organised crime and works on supply and demand.

Years ago all the female born children were killed, because they couldn't be expected to provide for a family in the outer areas of the Cities.

All children are on the conveyer belt system and only those that have the money can pay the bribes to have a normal delivery. Though you are moving to Singapore I take it, without knowing where you are going it is not easy to give any advice.

Malaysia for example does have very high crime rates, so you need to know in advance about possible risky areas before going. And yes it may only happen to one in 10k or more....
But my guess is that it will happen to those that are not aware of the risks, even Singapore is not safe if you put your trust in the normal belief that it is.
Crimes from Singaporeans maybe very very low, but with 1 million expats from all countries, some 3rd world Countries or poverty areas around the world, you have to be on guard not to be so naïve.

i recall a time when i landed in Copenhagen airport, and had 2 bags of duty frees, I was quite stressed out and needed to talk with reception. Placing the bags down between my legs, thinking they was safe, was a mistake. Obviously I had already been picked out has a victim because of my stressed state, the bags were taken from between my legs without me seeing anything.
Life can be like that!