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Postby AndyWillie » Thu, 22 Mar 2012 10:10 am

Any kind of marriage is gonna be hard enough itself. And then when you factor in things like 'forced conversion' into a religion, not being able to eat certain foods etc, it does put stress on both parties. I think ultimately you have to ask yourself, what are you willing to put up with for this to work..

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Postby the lynx » Thu, 22 Mar 2012 10:16 am

AndyWillie wrote:Any kind of marriage is gonna be hard enough itself. And then when you factor in things like 'forced conversion' into a religion, not being able to eat certain foods etc, it does put stress on both parties. I think ultimately you have to ask yourself, what are you willing to put up with for this to work..


"Like a sir", indeed :P

If one is not willing to put up for marriage to work, oh well...

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Postby Strong Eagle » Thu, 22 Mar 2012 12:24 pm

AndyWillie wrote:Any kind of marriage is gonna be hard enough itself. And then when you factor in things like 'forced conversion' into a religion, not being able to eat certain foods etc, it does put stress on both parties. I think ultimately you have to ask yourself, what are you willing to put up with for this to work..


Ultimately, the whole thing comes down to, "Why believe in all this clap trap, anyway?"

There is no way I would convert to any religion for any reason, and if I had a potential partner who expected me to convert, I'd have to stand back and question my own sanity... how did I manage to hook up with someone who expects me to take up the same clap trap?

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Postby Zeenit » Tue, 17 Apr 2012 12:37 pm

JR8 wrote:
Mad Scientist wrote:I think you really need to read this. I am no expert but

http://goatmilkblog.com/2010/08/24/musl ... k-debates/


Hmmm ... I understood that they could.

I.e. I understood that it was only male non-muslims that had to convert to marry a muslim. Whereas male muslims can marry who ever they like.

[handy that eh?]


Yes Muslim men can marry non muslim ladies. So he can have his can and eat it.
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Postby Hesione » Tue, 10 Jul 2012 11:08 pm

Don't have to go through the hassle.
Just go to ROM at Fort Canning Rise (it is still there, isn't it?) and get married.

There are countless, countless, countless Singapore Muslims (of Malay ancestry, of Indian ancestry etc.) who marry spouses of other faiths or of no faith without problems.

Converting or reverting? As long as one is financially independent, don't worry about what the family will say, they will come around eventually, especially once you have kids.

Plural of mouse is mice. Plural of spouse is...?

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Postby Zeenit » Tue, 10 Jul 2012 11:25 pm

Hesione wrote:Don't have to go through the hassle.
Just go to ROM at Fort Canning Rise (it is still there, isn't it?) and get married.

There are countless, countless, countless Singapore Muslims (of Malay ancestry, of Indian ancestry etc.) who marry spouses of other faiths or of no faith without problems.

Converting or reverting? As long as one is financially independent, don't worry about what the family will say, they will come around eventually, especially once you have kids.

Plural of mouse is mice. Plural of spouse is...?


Nice way of an intro. Whydrag this post up? Trying to send a pm and need more post.
But just in case that's not the reason and you decided to give advise, again why drag this up??
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Postby duckylucky » Tue, 14 Aug 2012 9:58 pm

Why doesn't she convert to being an atheist?

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Postby nakatago » Tue, 14 Aug 2012 10:50 pm

duckylucky wrote:Why doesn't she convert to being an atheist?


...because some Muslims--and a lot of these hold a lot of influence--believe apostasy is punishable by death.

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Postby offshoreoildude » Wed, 15 Aug 2012 10:31 pm

I can't be bothered reading previous replies but in short, don't do it. You have no legal protection if you disagree in the future and end up in the Syariah court, no rights to your kids if things go wrong. 56A was changed to prevent non muslims like you appealing to the High Court - the only avenue now is to the president who won't upset the apple cart.

Singapore handles many things wells but mixed muslim / non muslim marriages - by the nature of Islam (and not in a bad way) are difficult to legalize.

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Postby shmeila » Tue, 11 Sep 2012 5:53 pm

leona123, how was your Statutory Declaration drafted?

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Tue, 11 Sep 2012 8:13 pm

Her last post was in November 2010 so I doubt seriously that she will see your post.


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