zilong22 wrote:Or any non-muslim singaporeans who had a civil marriage with a muslim foreigner can kindly share your experience? I can't sent PMs yet due to too few posts. ~_~"
Also, anyone knows what is the consequences if I were to have a wedding in indonesia as a muslim? It is kind of a requirement for both the groom and bride to be of same religion to have a wedding there.
Let me put on my religious thinking cap as an Indonesian and someone that lives with Muslim in Indonesia, Singapore and Saudi Arabia. I do read the Quran and understand Arabic.
First of all I am not insulting or intent to insult any cultures nor religion
This is two part. Religion and customary
1. In Indonesia, it is customary to have a wedding and theirs is quite a deliberate occasion. More than ever if her parent is the staunch piety type , they will ask you to convert and have it the oath taking before the customary rites. Hence you will be a Muslim. It does not matter if you are not going to "chop" off your big brother or not
If they are not strict which is usually the customs there depending where she is from , then a customary wedding is sufficient and you can register your marriage under civil.
In this case you are not a Muslim. You only happen to marry a Muslim wife
In SG , if you are not a Muslim , you can go thru the process of civil marriage
To be a Muslim , you need to know the five pillars of Islam, the 6 guideline of being a Muslim and you need to take oath of reverting to Islam. For the first 6 months of being a Muslim, you are considered a "Mu'alaf" albeit a new convert. This period is debatable in two school of thought. There is a association in SG called Darul Arqam where you can get more info on this. In the words of the Quran " La Iqra ha fiddin" i.e There is no complusion in religion i.e you are not forced to become a Muslim. So if you chose to go down this route, you need to know the religion first.
Of course in the Quran, you as a non Muslim can marry the women of the book i.e the Book of Injil not the Gospel, There are two school of thoughts here. Anyway this is another matter.
If you wish to remain as status quo and live in Singapore and your future wife is cool about it then this not a major.
But I would like take your attention to a more serious matter, make sure she is allowed by MOM or ICA to get hitch to a local. Or else more complication arise as she may not be allow to reside in SG
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