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Confused friend

Postby junta421 » Fri, 18 Dec 2009 7:28 pm

Hey folks,
I am in a very vey strange situation. Hope you all men and women gonna give me a lots and lots of suggestions what to do.

Just two months before a girl shifted close to my appartment. She is beautiful and very friendly. So after 1 month of normal talking I found out that I m slowly falling in love with her. Now the problem is that after two months during normal talking I discovered she has already a boy friend who is living in her home town and visits once or twice to her in a month. But during this time I realised I am in total love with the girl.

Now the situation is like this, everytime she sees me she waves her hand and smiles cute at me. Everytime I ask her to go out or doing something together she never says no and alwas happy to join me.

At this point of time I don't know whether I will tell her I am in love with her or just wait till something happens. I really like the girl to have a long relationship with her but I m really confused.

Now I am expectiing very good suggestions from you folks what I really need to do.

Thanks and best wishes.
Your confused friend :D

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Postby ev-disinfection » Fri, 18 Dec 2009 7:56 pm

Why don't you ask her if she likes you or not? maybe she does and maybe she just treats you as a friend..

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Postby junta421 » Fri, 18 Dec 2009 8:11 pm

that may be ,,, made me confused... :D

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Postby Vaucluse » Fri, 18 Dec 2009 9:49 pm

Leave her alone and don't confuse her friendliness with sexual interest.

She is in a long-distance relationship, which is difficult enough to keep up without being hit on by every knob-tweaking hormone monkey.

Advice: leave the relationship you have now as it is = friends. If she has any interest in you on another plane she will make the first move.


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Postby mondaymorningquarterback » Sat, 19 Dec 2009 2:15 pm

ev-disinfection wrote:Why don't you ask her if she likes you or not? maybe she does and maybe she just treats you as a friend..


What ever you do, dont f--king ask her if she likes you!!! She is in a new country and its only a matter of time before she realize its not gonna work out with her hometown guy. Sooner or later shes going to be lonely and she is going to need a man and if you play your cards right you are going to be that man. 1st of all you are not in love with her. Tell me more about yourself and this chick and I will work with you on this.

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Postby Bafana » Sun, 20 Dec 2009 9:26 am

Let her other relationship fail first and try not to get to close to her in the meantime - Go out wiht her from time to time but not all the time. It's too hard to be a friend that changes into a lover. Have you never watched a chick flick??? Be a bit aloft but there to help if needs be. Otherwise forget the love part and be her friend.
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Postby pixfirewall » Mon, 21 Dec 2009 2:57 am

just continue the friendship..better yet don't see her or even talk to her for a week...try to make her miss you..

Patience is a virtue..just wait if the long-distance relationship of her doesn't work out...normally it doesn't work out most of the time..but some does..depends if her BF get to work here then you know when to back out..

Just be there..don't let your heart win over your brain...play it smart..

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Postby ksl » Mon, 21 Dec 2009 1:40 pm

Remember what goes around comes around! Hitting on someones woman when she maybe vulnerable for friendship and knowing full well, her man is away, is what i would call a scumbag of society of the worst kind!

Bad Karma man, you should be understanding of peoples needs in life, and not interfere with their destiny! Even if she approaches you for a closer relationship, there is a price to pay in the future, trust me! Keep well away from any close relationship until she has found out what she wants in life!

What you are asking is not confusing, it's a simple question of what is right and what is wrong! Keep your own ego in check.

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Postby durain » Tue, 22 Dec 2009 6:48 pm

home wreaker? also, you better find out what the bf do! just in case he is a SAS, ninja master, mosad, bomb specialist, triad, etc.

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Postby SGBoyxxx » Wed, 23 Dec 2009 11:33 am

:oops: :lol: seem like desperate housewife drama?

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Postby phil30k » Thu, 24 Dec 2009 12:07 pm

I'd remind you of the golden rule, "you don't sh*t where you eat". Move out of the building before pursuing her.

If that is too much to ask, then you're not in love.


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