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Is this clear enough for the guy to catch my msg?

Postby bluesky2009 » Sat, 05 Dec 2009 4:42 pm

I met this guy through an event and I sort of like him. So I sent him an sms saying if there is possibility for us to know each other a bit further, mabye we can meet up again. And he says "sure certainly,I'd like that."
I'm really really not good at this coz I never been a character to approach a guy proactively, but I feel he worths me doing so and I really want to explore the possibility of going out with him. After the last sms exchange there is no action been taken from either side so far, I don't know if he got what I mean and what I should do next. Based on his reply, anyone take a guess what's been on his mind? Shall I ask him out over a coffee or dinner immediately? Btw, I gave my instant messenger ID to him y'day(I don't have his) but so far he hasn't added me yet...I'm feeling a bit frustrated now..

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Postby mrlily » Sat, 05 Dec 2009 6:35 pm

this is what i'd do...
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Postby bluesky2009 » Sat, 05 Dec 2009 10:31 pm

sry if this not the right place to post but don't know where else to cry for help..I sent him a msg but he simply didn't reply...it's killing to drag on while waiting for him to come back. Is this a sign that I should stop dreaming abt anything?

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Postby mauvecloud » Sun, 06 Dec 2009 2:21 am

three strikes, and he's out

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Re: Is this clear enough for the guy to catch my msg?

Postby a112143 » Sun, 06 Dec 2009 5:58 pm

bluesky2009 wrote:I met this guy through an event and I sort of like him. So I sent him an sms saying if there is possibility for us to know each other a bit further, mabye we can meet up again. And he says "sure certainly,I'd like that."
I'm really really not good at this coz I never been a character to approach a guy proactively, but I feel he worths me doing so and I really want to explore the possibility of going out with him. After the last sms exchange there is no action been taken from either side so far, I don't know if he got what I mean and what I should do next. Based on his reply, anyone take a guess what's been on his mind? Shall I ask him out over a coffee or dinner immediately? Btw, I gave my instant messenger ID to him y'day(I don't have his) but so far he hasn't added me yet...I'm feeling a bit frustrated now..


Hi Bluesky,
nobody can give you any advice on what you should do with your personal life. It's your own and you need to find a way that best reconciles what you want and what you are with what you need to do to get it. Posting on a forum will only get your replies from people who think you're playing baseball.
I would suggest you take your time to think where exactly you want this to go and how you want to do it. Starting relationships can be a lot of guesswork coupled with a lot of rationalizing. And only you can do it for yourself. Good luck.

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Postby mauvecloud » Sun, 06 Dec 2009 9:12 pm

what's wrong with baseball?

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Postby morenangpinay » Mon, 07 Dec 2009 7:24 am

If he isnt asking for a date after you met him? i believe hes not interested..you might want to explore other fishes in the sea.

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Postby bluesky2009 » Mon, 07 Dec 2009 10:40 am

hey guys, thx for the advices/links. I collected enough courage to ask him out last Sun but he asked to postpone due to conflicting schedule. I guess that's it, he might be seeing some else but not yet fixed any long term relationship, hence I was sort of being hanged over there. break my head if I try to figure out why he's not prone to go out with me out of thousands possibilties. I guess I have to take a pause from here and stop coming up with reasons that he is not replying/accepting me which are not critical to defend myself..Yea, maybe he's just not that into me...

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Postby mauvecloud » Mon, 07 Dec 2009 11:35 am

see bluesky, that's three strikes already. it's all right to move on now; his loss, not yours.

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Postby bluesky2009 » Mon, 07 Dec 2009 5:58 pm

bummer..
thx mauvecloud, it hurts thou

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Postby mauvecloud » Mon, 07 Dec 2009 6:14 pm

short-term ouch better than long-term agony :D (at least that's what i read. haha booksmart ftw!)

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Postby Sergei82 » Mon, 07 Dec 2009 6:27 pm

Well, at least now bluesky2009 knows how to be in man's boots.

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Postby mauvecloud » Mon, 07 Dec 2009 6:41 pm

rejections are equal opportunity thing actually. nobody, male or female, gets accepted all the time. that's a statistical impossibility.


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