Singapore Expats

I seem to be the odd one out here . . . a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship was based on intimacy potentially leading to a long-term commitment.

Many things which we see as being 'special' with our spouse has been previously shared with someone else . . . why have this potential problem be a possible thorn?

I understand that relationships can turn into friendships but the history is still there.

An old girlfriend was quite upset when she 'found' a photo album featuring many of my ex partners . . . and I did see her point.

I've never asked my wife to discontinue contact with her previous ones and she hasn't asked me to either . . .

It depends on the personality


Did that make any sense?

Vaucluse wrote: I've never asked my wife to discontinue contact with her previous ones and she hasn't asked me to either . . .

It depends on the personality


Did that make any sense?

Just like the US military's current stance on gays. Don't Ask. Don't Tell.

My wife still has pictures of her former boyfriend and I've got photos of a few of my exes as well as former girlfriends. So what? The way we look at it, it's history. Not having photos doesn't erase memories (both good or bad). Photo's are history/archives. They are not relevant today, but they did represent some of the past that shaped who we are today. Again, good or bad, but as long as we realize that it's just that, history, there shouldn't be any problems. Oh, we've been married almost 27 years now.