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Postby angellikes » Mon, 20 Jul 2009 7:56 pm

You can't tell me that if someone is married and maybe has children and sleeps around that it wont do any damage.....Who are you kidding?????

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Postby Strong Eagle » Mon, 20 Jul 2009 10:35 pm

I just adhere to a rule that I have had ever since becoming a junior manager so many years ago.

NEVER PUT THY ROD IN THY STAFF.

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Postby hibri2 » Tue, 21 Jul 2009 12:31 am

angellikes wrote:You can't tell me that if someone is married and maybe has children and sleeps around that it wont do any damage.....Who are you kidding?????


the damage is already done if whoever is doing whoever outside the social contract defined as marriage, who are you kidding? sex is just the effect and by far the less damaging one. your morals have no place on it.

your naiveness and lack of touch with real life is beyond limits... do you want to help me with this nigerian banker's offer to transfer millions of dollars? :-)
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Postby Avida » Wed, 22 Jul 2009 8:14 pm

Get maids that are in their late 30s or early 40s or those that are build like body wrestlers. Perhaps this could tame the libido.

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Postby hibri2 » Thu, 23 Jul 2009 1:26 pm

Avida wrote:Get maids that are in their late 30s or early 40s or those that are build like body wrestlers. Perhaps this could tame the libido.


security by obscurity, i like that... :-D

just be aware that in general asian girls of 30 and 40 look like 20 and 30...

so i will add up 10 to 20 years to those numbers you suggest. :-)
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Postby mulatto » Sat, 25 Jul 2009 8:58 am

i must say that a few maids would definitely want to sleep with their male employers, especially when the employers are caucasian... :-|

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Postby Lo1s » Sat, 25 Jul 2009 10:39 am

nushk wrote:
Allibert wrote:then try asking a sensible question. Assuming that it was consensual then what difference does it make whether a scumbag sleeps with a maid, a CEO of a company or anyone else?


what about the fact that the maid lives with the family? the maid takes care of the children? should anything go sour, would the maid not be in a position that even the husband would not want her to be in? would the maid not later perhaps blackmail the husband? etc etc.

I think my questions are quite sensible. thanks.

i hv seen many real life cases...the maids were far younger and far prettier and far sweeter and far slimmer than the wives....also, the wives sometimes abuses the maids...also, the maids are subservient to the master of the house and they might be so timid to their respective bosses and the bosses can be rather good looking and also rather wealthy...how to say no? to the boss's sexual advances? after all, they are not allowed boyfriends so they have been building cobwebs on their caves for a while...they are lacking in family love and friends from their home town...it is perfectly understandable in situations like that where the master of the house takes advantage of the situation on these poor maids...there are some cases that the maid got pregnant and the man own up to the wife and she had to go for abortion and return to her own country or the man divorces the wife and marry the maid carrying the new child.

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Postby hibri2 » Sat, 25 Jul 2009 2:49 pm

mulatto wrote:i must say that a few maids would definitely want to sleep with their male employers, especially when the employers are caucasian... :-|


and the other way around... think on what the YT employer have to deal with...

White men love asian women so much that they will go to extremes...

Take for instance the fact that asian women well into their 30s and 40s retain teen / college girl looks without the help of botox, yoga or a trendy diet (future posts). Asian women also avoid key white women characteristics such as having a mid life crisis, divorce, and hobbies that don’t involve taking care of the children

source:http://stuffwhitepeoplelike.com/

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Postby blueplanet » Sun, 26 Jul 2009 2:13 am

one thing is certain...the person who has started this topic is definitely a female...she has no idea of the male pyshe or else she would never have asked this question..

..and she is asian...indian or chinese perhaps? because somehow she perceives maids to be "below" prostitutes and "other women"...typical of traditional heirarchial societies common in these countries.

yes, sleeping with maids is common...and yes it is immoral and illegal and il-whatever...but boyz will be boyz.

yes, guys do perceive maids as clean...much safer than going to a prostitute or "another woman"...and if he is desperate and she, willing; what the heck!

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Postby Tsunamiw4ve » Sat, 01 Aug 2009 6:22 pm

I wonder what expat guys want then...Oh, i must confess. I am not an expat, but local ! Like to interact with the views of people from around the world...

So, would it be ...
1) Help Maid or
2) Hell Mate or
3) Help Mate ?

:shock:

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Sun, 02 Aug 2009 12:23 am

That one's easy. One of each, please!

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Postby vbelle » Sun, 02 Aug 2009 9:16 am

OogieBoogie wrote:
ksl wrote:
and it's worse because at least the husband is making money, and sometimes the wives is ok anyway,


worse because the husband is making money?? am i reading partially and doesnt get the whole point here??but...
how about the other way around? worse if the husband is cheating because the wife gave birth to their kids and take care of them?

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Postby Nath21 » Mon, 03 Aug 2009 10:04 am

nushk wrote:lately, over drinks and such, I've had more and more first hand information that some (caucasian) expat men in singapore sleep with their maids!


few questions: why sleep with their maids? I mean, these are married, with kids, -type of expat men. their wives live with them. sometimes, the wives and kids return to homeland for summer holidays and then these (scum) men take the opportunity to sleep with their maids. do these men not think that it is utterly degrading and hurtful to sleep with a woman who lives in the same house as the wife?! imagine the dynamics between the wife and the maid. think of the poor wife, not only being cheated on, but having to live with and communicate with the woman the husband is sleeping with - and oblivious to boot!

I mean, I do not condone extra-marital affairs (or any kind of cheating in a relationship, married or not, at all). but to sleep with one's maid is beyond scummy.. if a man really has his needs, and the wife (all presumptions) does not have s*x with her husband, then a man could hire a prostitute, or have an affair with some woman, etc.

why do these maids allow it? (this is assuming that the maids are consensual) do they do it in the hope that the man would ditch the wife and kids one day and go to her? does he pay her a lot of money that she could not refuse? all these are bordering on an abuse of power.. and I am sure the law will come down hard on these men.



most importantly, was it just a coincidence that I have been hearing these stories more frequently than ever, or is it something that goes on very often?


sigh.


There is a saying that if your interested in other people sex lives you havent got one of your own.

Its none of your business ,no one can expect to understand until they have been in that situation, certainly I dont, and what happens between individuals is of their own concern. Nushk post represents an individual getting involved and stressed (by her sigh) of something that dosent even impact her. She cant understand the moral or ethical decisions yet gets upset by them. Thats in itself is a weird thought process.

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Postby MobinSing » Thu, 13 Aug 2009 3:38 pm

From what I've read in previous topics, in Singapore, this is OK for the maids - as long as they don't use the condo swimming pool.

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Postby Nath21 » Thu, 13 Aug 2009 4:39 pm

MobinSing wrote:From what I've read in previous topics, in Singapore, this is OK for the maids - as long as they don't use the condo swimming pool.


Wrong once the extramartial affair is confirmed to condo management the wife is not allowed to swim, the maid is. Swimming rights is the only difference between a maid and a wife in Singapore.

With the heat here you can understand this is an extremely important issue.


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