please, with all sincerity, please let me know if I have done anything against the rules (or norms) here by posting what I did. is it a taboo topic? have I said anything wrong? let me know.bigfilsing wrote:Can anybody else hear the creeking of the thin ice nushk is on ...or is it just me
As topics like yours generally release a torrent of comments on all kinds of related issues ( and some non related as well) i was merely identifyig the precarious nature of your question (s)nushk wrote:please, with all sincerity, please let me know if I have done anything against the rules (or norms) here by posting what I did. is it a taboo topic? have I said anything wrong? let me know.bigfilsing wrote:Can anybody else hear the creeking of the thin ice nushk is on ...or is it just me
I'm not a troll. I just want some answers.
what about the fact that the maid lives with the family? the maid takes care of the children? should anything go sour, would the maid not be in a position that even the husband would not want her to be in? would the maid not later perhaps blackmail the husband? etc etc.Allibert wrote:then try asking a sensible question. Assuming that it was consensual then what difference does it make whether a scumbag sleeps with a maid, a CEO of a company or anyone else?
I find many threads here go off topic anyway, and releasing a 'torrent of comments' is not a bad thing is it? I'm not trying to stir up a storm here. I am just curious with the ways of some expats.bigfilsing wrote:As topics like yours generally release a torrent of comments on all kinds of related issues ( and some non related as well) i was merely identifyig the precarious nature of your question (s)nushk wrote:please, with all sincerity, please let me know if I have done anything against the rules (or norms) here by posting what I did. is it a taboo topic? have I said anything wrong? let me know.bigfilsing wrote:Can anybody else hear the creeking of the thin ice nushk is on ...or is it just me
I'm not a troll. I just want some answers.
Personally i dont see any issues with your post but it's not for me to say. thats what moderators are for.
You've inadvertently ranked maids below ..protitutes and "some woman" and i wish you the best of luck with that
sundaymorningstaple wrote:Are you for real?
You would be surprised at the things women who go on home leave get up to in their locals when the poor husband is try to make a living and keep from getting retrenched due to the economy and keep her in the custom that she would like to be kept. Wives can be so High Maintenance and often, because they do not work over here and generally think that they are tai-tais, they become naggers, whingers & complainers. Then they demand to go home and shop, shop, shop. Meanwhile, the poor husband has to put up with a stream of abuse and probably doing without as well as the spouse no longer "feels" like it.
So, which would be better?
1) Let the maid continue with cleaning up the mess the spouse leaves in her wake. At least, with the maid not allowed a boyfriend she's probably clean. And she is already being paid to service the family (just a little more service ) She'll appreciate the overtime probably. She, like the husband has been doing without as well.
OR, 2) He can go to Geylang and take his chances of catching something or getting rolled while the maid sneaks out to find a boyfriend and gets knocked up, thereby depriving the family of their deposit as well.
not that I would ever tolerate that, but fair enough, ok.smashme1984 wrote:Scums are scums, I dont think hiring a prostitute will be any better, if that was the case, then arguably, the scum could pay the maid a sum of money for compensation to curb his sexual tensions / needs.
And, maybe,just maybe, the wife knows about it, And "might" understand his sexual urges and desires, and would rather her husband do it with the maid, if consent was granted, rather than to fool around outside and risk diseases, affairs, and the unknown
And they do their job ever so diligently . . .bigfilsing wrote: Personally i dont see any issues with your post but it's not for me to say. thats what moderators are for.
It's sounds like one of those, I have a friend...... I want to find out for a friend........ kind of questionsVaucluse wrote:And they do their job ever so diligently . . .bigfilsing wrote: Personally i dont see any issues with your post but it's not for me to say. thats what moderators are for.
But no, I agree with you. Though this is clearly a wind-up the topic shouldn't be taboo.
Which is, ironically, almost the same thing that I said!smashme1984 wrote: And, maybe,just maybe, the wife knows about it, And "might" understand his sexual urges and desires, and would rather her husband do it with the maid, if consent was granted, rather than to fool around outside and risk diseases, affairs, and the unknown
In how many cases is this "consensual"? If the man makes the advances he is the employer and has the power to "fire" her if she doesn't do what he wants. In the corporate world that would be called sexual harrassment, in the home it would be slavery.Allibert wrote:then try asking a sensible question. Assuming that it was consensual then what difference does it make whether a scumbag sleeps with a maid, a CEO of a company or anyone else?
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