They say lateral thinking is lacking here as well........I clean up the whole house (vacuum and mop), I iron all his shirts and pants. I washed all the laundry in cluding his brother's and I hanged and fold the clothings.
(FYI, no one do it when I don't do and he will scold me when I don't do the housse chores)
Thank you very much fr your encouragement sundaymorningstaplesundaymorningstaple wrote:That's Young! (half my age!) and congratulations. You have your freedom again. This time slowly, slowly. Hope your life looks brighter now. Probably feels like a tonne has been lifted from your mind.
You'll probably have twinges of regret but ignore them as you will only hurt yourself in the end. Join in some group activities at first as there is safety in numbers.
Pardon my ignorance but I didn't know we are supposed to read between the lines in the forum (thought that only applies in relationships! )sundaymorningstaple wrote:In all the years I've been here I don't ever remember seeing or hearing of immigration/MOM issuing a Employment Pass that allowed the EP holder to have his brother living with him as well (without out a wife or other family). Therefore one could almost surmise that it would have to be a local. Especially as the guy apparently won't peel his own prawns either!
From OP's first post:They say lateral thinking is lacking here as well........I clean up the whole house (vacuum and mop), I iron all his shirts and pants. I washed all the laundry in cluding his brother's and I hanged and fold the clothings.
(FYI, no one do it when I don't do and he will scold me when I don't do the housse chores)
Actually girl next door may well have the same problems, and is actually living with an expat The last bit with the slippers, made me think she could be the one getting the slippers Although I would think its better to do it for money rather than love!sundaymorningstaple wrote:Nah, you're just clutching at straws that all.Girl_Next_Door wrote:
Guess I am living in a very different world...
Sorry to disappoint you guys, I am actually staying alone, and I don't even have a bf! I will probably throw the slippers at him if he expect me to fetch them!ksl wrote:
Actually girl next door may well have the same problems, and is actually living with an expat The last bit with the slippers, made me think she could be the one getting the slippers Although I would think its better to do it for money rather than love!
Girl_Next_Door wrote:Just saw this posting... I have one big question in my mind. Why did you start dating him in the first place?
A few smaller questions... you mentioned that you moved back home, so am I right to guess that you are a Singaporean? Did you start dating him because he was charming and sweet, or because he is an expat who is good looking and earns good money (and you can move out of your home to stay with him)?
I believe that there is always a reason why a person will stay on in an obviously bad relationship, and very often, it's for superficial/materialistic reasons, or the other party threaten to kill him/herself.
In your situation, its obvious that your bf is not going to kill himself over you. So the bigger question will be, what took you so long to reach to this decision? Is it because he is able to provide you with a certain lifestyle? Is it because you still love him a lot (but from your post, it doesn't seems so since you didnt mention his virtues, or your feelings for him. Merely focusing on how bad he is treating you).
There is always 3 sides to a story. Your side, his side, and the truth...
Well, I am on the same side as Patsy_sg. The first thing that came to my mind when I read your post is a damsel in distress looking for help. Plus, you are posting this on an expat forum, so bite me if I didn't realize immediately that both you and your bf are from Singapore.patsy_sg wrote:vincher, just dump him if he's making you so miserable you come to a forum of strangers to ask for advice!
also, your posts does smack of damsel in distress handsome knight please rescue me... sorry if it offends but that was the first thing that came into my mind when I read your post!
Well, I am not trying to aggravate your problems.vincher82 wrote:Hi all, I have a boy friend for 2 years plus and I am so freaking unhappy with him.
He always say I can never find anyone better than him if I leave him. He told me that he is the best....
Let me tell you how he treated me:
He doesn't allow me to go out, even going out with my girl friends for dinner or drinks also cannot, so don't talk about club and KTV.
I am that type of person that I love dancing and singing and movies!!
I use to watch lots of movies last time before I was with him.
But after when I was with him, I seldom watch movies... I would say maybe 2-3 times a year only. Boring? Tell me about that.
Because he doesn't watch horror movies, comedy,adventurous movies, love movies and not all action movies.
He ony watch some marvel movies and super duper good action movies only. So as you know, how many times a SUPER DUPER good movie come out?
I love to sing(KTV) and he doesn't, I love to dance and he doesn't.
So he doesn't allow me to go to this kinda places. So I often work work work and head home and what do I for my off days?
I clean up the whole house (vacuum and mop), I iron all his shirts and pants. I washed all the laundry in cluding his brother's and I hanged and fold the clothings.
(FYI, no one do it when I don't do and he will scold me when I don't do the housse chores)
I love seafood like Prawns, Squid..... And he doesn't eat seafood at all. So having meals with him, I can never order seafood.
He also do not eat any food with bones.... fish with bones? Chicken wings? Seafood? Brocolli and other's vegetables? ITS A NO NO TO HIM. So I can't eat as well..
My life? work and home. He is always very busy at work and kinda work 24/7. He doesn't have time for me at all and thus I always stay at home and watch TV myself..
Sometimes he told me he need to go down to sites and left home at night time 10 plus and came back in the middle of the night.
I tried calling him at 11plus but he took a very long time to pick up and after which tell me he is not convenient to talk and wants me to hang up.
When I got bullied by my colleague and my colleague lay her fingers on me, I was so angry and I went back to complain to my boy friend, I just need a shoulder to lean on, he's my boy friend isn't it?
But guess what, he say he stays nutrel and he doesn't give a shit to what happened to me.
Other than sending me to work and fetching me from work. Nothing else.... I told him about his attitude but he say there is no issue and insist he is right and that he is the best boy friend.
I am really FREAKING SICK AND TIRED OG THIS KINDA LIFESTYLE!!!!!
So tell me people, is he really that fantastic??? Tell me whether am I thinking too much or that he is really not that good aferall.
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