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Postby DeGago » Sat, 03 Mar 2012 1:05 pm

sundaymorningstaple wrote:The best advice we could have given you would have been 8 years ago..... :(
If I know now 8 years ago, of course I would NEVER be married with her. Mistake has been made and now I have to correct it and start a new life which will be very difficult. That's why I like to meet some people who are or were in the same situation as me.
My big problem is that I have a Chinese inlaw-family from hell :devil: who are trying to change me into a Chinese and a wife that is always complaining, nagging and money orientated...
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Postby zzm9980 » Sat, 03 Mar 2012 1:14 pm

DeGago wrote:My big problem is that I have a Chinese inlaw-family from hell :devil: who are trying to change me into a Chinese and a wife that is always complaining, nagging and money orientated...
:shit:


You just described most Singaporeans :D

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Postby DeGago » Sat, 03 Mar 2012 1:47 pm

zzm9980 wrote:
DeGago wrote:My big problem is that I have a Chinese inlaw-family from hell :devil: who are trying to change me into a Chinese and a wife that is always complaining, nagging and money orientated...
:shit:


You just described most Singaporeans :D

Yes, wish I know that before... now I am looking for a way to divorce so quick as possible...

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Postby emmerald » Sun, 04 Mar 2012 1:14 pm

I know what we all need to do and that is get together to at least meet up and share experiences. For a start i would like to meet up with people who have been through all this so that I know what I can do. I am going through hell. So if you want to meet up, please email me on araliya45@hotmail.com

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Postby emmerald » Tue, 06 Mar 2012 4:30 pm

You know what I am just going to wing it. If anyone is interested to discuss divorces and support, Friday 9 March Dome, Parkway Parade, 1030 a.m.

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Postby zzm9980 » Tue, 06 Mar 2012 7:34 pm

Color me skeptical, but why do I just see "divorce support groups" as pick-up parties? Maybe that's just the male in me. Sorry :P

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Postby emmerald » Tue, 06 Mar 2012 7:46 pm

haha i guess maybe... but for those going through divorce this could be an important support group to have. Well i certainly need support.

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Postby enerimil » Fri, 09 Mar 2012 1:58 am

arrontan74 wrote:After the dust settles, we emerge, different. May be good, may be bad. Depends. A shadow within remains, that's for sure.


Couldn't agree more. Its a very very tough journey. And so the cliche saying goes, whatever doesn't kill you WILL make you stronger. I had a short marriage and had my divorce officiated last year after a 3-year separation. I have no kids with my ex, no alimony or whatsoever. Seems like a very clear-cut case but oh...the pain, was like nothing I could have imagined even as one who grew up in a emotionally abusive background. I went through hell and went to hell, back and forth and back and forth...

Years down the years, all the pain you're experiencing now will only be a distant memory. It is for me. And the most important lesson I've learnt is, to forgive the other party, forgive myself and let go. It's a very tough decision to make but the healing that comes is powerful and liberating. :)

And I'm sorry to have to say this, but do be cautious about the kind of support groups you join. There is (at least) 1 that I know of, where men prey on the ladies who are hurting and vulnerable. Sad but true...

Take many deep breaths and live a day at a time...

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Postby emmerald » Fri, 09 Mar 2012 6:27 am

thank you for your advice. I was a little shocked to hear that there are men who prey on women during their time of need. Well i should not really be. It is the worst time of my life yes. and I agree with you. Forgiveneness.

I also should be more careful. Thank you once again.

I will just wait for the right support group to come along.

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Postby friskye » Wed, 25 Apr 2012 7:04 am

Hello everyone, I'm new to this forum and new in Singapore. I'm going through a divorce as well and gosh, it is tough!

I've been going through a roller coaster of emotions since I found out about my (soon to be ex) husband's affair ... some days I feel alright but some days, just weak and sad. I know that I will need to grief and move on ... and a support group would be great ...

anyone wants to share their experience? ...

why do men cheat? why marry if you can't commit? ...

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Postby emmerald » Wed, 25 Apr 2012 8:44 am

friskye wrote:Hello everyone, I'm new to this forum and new in Singapore. I'm going through a divorce as well and gosh, it is tough!

I've been going through a roller coaster of emotions since I found out about my (soon to be ex) husband's affair ... some days I feel alright but some days, just weak and sad. I know that I will need to grief and move on ... and a support group would be great ...

anyone wants to share their experience? ...

why do men cheat? why marry if you can't commit? ...


I know what you must be going through. It is a terrible feeling. If you need to talk am available any time. Email: araliya45@hotmail.com

A bunch of us met up, small but good group.

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Postby Angel Wings » Thu, 03 May 2012 9:42 pm

Hi,

am extremely depressed a couple days back and was glad i found this thread.. i guess the experience we all have is just heartbreaking, but at the same time life changing.

thank you all for being there. it's comforting to know there are still people who cares..

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Postby emmerald » Fri, 04 May 2012 7:37 am

Angel wings, you are never alone. One thing I have found is that support is really what you need sometimes. It is hard to go through this without support. Most friends I have are already married and it is not the same talking to friends that are married. Anyway, you need to talk support is here.

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Postby Selkie » Wed, 21 Nov 2012 7:16 am

Are there any people meeting up on a regular basis ? I am looking at divorce, been seriously contemplating it for a while now, plan to go see a lawyer, but would also to meet up with people who went through or are going through the same. Have no family here in Singapore and just realised I dont have any real friends either - our few aquaintances are all his drinking buddies and serious alcoholics like him. People who dont drink so much just take one look and never return . I am a PR here, would like to make my life here with my children but not with my husband of 15 years. But how do I even approach the subject of a separation/divorce?

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Postby fallen shitzu » Fri, 30 Nov 2012 7:01 pm

Hi, ive been looking for a divorce support group for the past year but i cant seem to find any. My wife gave birth last year, and just abandoned my daughter and I straight after confinement. Abandoned all motherly duties, stopped breastfeeding and took off...leaving us in much unspeakable pain. The road has been really rough and lonely. I just wish we had some support group, where we can find true empathy and worthy advice to stay sane. Anyone interested to meet up? Not sure how long i can put up w the pain. PM me


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