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Postby doubt » Sun, 06 Dec 2009 5:09 pm

Hi all, I have questions to the below, are you able share with me if you know the answer?

Divorce:
I am mother but i am just a Singapore PR, will I still be able to get the child (singaporean)?

If i would like to own the current house we are living, what are the things to be considered and to be done to get the house if husband were to withdrawl the name?

and is it possible for me to own the house since i am just singapore PR?

thanks.

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Postby savemenow » Sat, 12 Dec 2009 12:21 pm

doubt wrote:Hi all, I have questions to the below, are you able share with me if you know the answer?

Divorce:
I am mother but i am just a Singapore PR, will I still be able to get the child (singaporean)?

If i would like to own the current house we are living, what are the things to be considered and to be done to get the house if husband were to withdrawl the name?

and is it possible for me to own the house since i am just singapore PR?

thanks.


Well, here's the response:

Doesn't matter whether you are a citizen or a PR.

1. You need to be specific about what you mean by getting the child. There are 3 issues when you deal with the child: Care, concern and custody. If your spouse is in Singapore, the courts will grant joint custody unless you make a strong case why the child shouldn't stay with your spouse. The care and concern responsibilities can be solely yours. Your spouse may have to pay maintenance.

2. Most times, the court will give you the option of buying your spouse share or the other way round or just sell it and divide the share based on the Court's ruling. If you are living in a HDB, the HDB rules apply.

Hope it helps :)

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Postby feb » Sat, 12 Dec 2009 2:43 pm

injured wrote:Another sad story is coming. 10 years relationship, coming to an end. The feeling of being ‘betrayed’ and ‘dumped’ is so painful. The pain is getting harder to calm each and every day. Currently undergoing the legal procedure. Everyday is just another day of sadness to me. Understand there is no one to help other than me helping myself. Sad to say, I have lost interest in almost everything in life.
Anyone has anything to say to me?


I could feel your heartbreaking and being hurt so much. I hate the feeling of being betrayed by someone whom we love them with whole hearted. I am also lost of focus and interest in everything, life seem to be so miserable. Hope we could motivate and support each other much more! Feel to reach me @ twentyfeb@hotmail.com

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my proble,

Postby kid2009 » Tue, 15 Dec 2009 10:32 am

i am pregnent now, hence,my husband wants to apply divorce, does he has the right to continue the divorce fight during my pregnent? I really do not want to end our relationship.

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Postby ev-disinfection » Sat, 19 Dec 2009 12:01 am

savemenow wrote:
doubt wrote:Hi all, I have questions to the below, are you able share with me if you know the answer?

Divorce:
I am mother but i am just a Singapore PR, will I still be able to get the child (singaporean)?

If i would like to own the current house we are living, what are the things to be considered and to be done to get the house if husband were to withdrawl the name?

and is it possible for me to own the house since i am just singapore PR?

thanks.


Well, here's the response:

Doesn't matter whether you are a citizen or a PR.

1. You need to be specific about what you mean by getting the child. There are 3 issues when you deal with the child: Care, concern and custody. If your spouse is in Singapore, the courts will grant joint custody unless you make a strong case why the child shouldn't stay with your spouse. The care and concern responsibilities can be solely yours. Your spouse may have to pay maintenance.

2. Most times, the court will give you the option of buying your spouse share or the other way round or just sell it and divide the share based on the Court's ruling. If you are living in a HDB, the HDB rules apply.

Hope it helps :)


Hi all,
My name is Terence and I am a local SG guy, my ex is a PR, she got care and custody of our 2 children, and 20% of our matrimonial assets.

Here are my 2 cents worth...

It was a hard time going through the divorce, but I have learnt something out of all this......which is "Once you have made a decision, the stress will be gone"
When I was going through it, it seemed like I would be going to be miserable all my life, but not true, after I made the decision to let go, the stress was gone.....
But please think through with a level head (Not easy) and make that decision... once he or she has started the divorce proceedings, there is almost 0 % chance that you will be back together again, but if you do get back together, remember that things will never be the same again..

Divorce is just a part of life, an unfortunate part of life. You can either sit and cry all day or plan your "NEW" lease of life, doing what YOU want to do. In a marriage, the chores are shared, now you just have to learn and do all the chores yourself... and while doing this exercise, you will realise that... wow, it was not easy for her to do all the housework or wow, it is not easy for him to work and support the household... and slowly but surely you will get over it, of course, you will think about the past, but that's normal...

Life always finds a way to grow itself... Life goes on... and after having gone through it, you will realise that......... ... .. .
"IT IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD"

I am now happily re-married and I see my 2 children every weekend, The SG court is fair. Contact me if you want someone to hear your story.

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Need help, pls!

Postby Flydiv11 » Tue, 29 Dec 2009 11:07 am

Well, I am more or less in the same boat..

I followed hubby here from US 2 yrs ago to be with him as he got transferred by his company. We're both US expats, married 7 yrs, no kids. Now he wants to split up and found out he's cheating, too. I also suspect he's been moving $ out of account. I want to know my options, rights, etc..

Can anyone recommend a good divorce lawyer? Thanks!

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Postby Flydiv11 » Wed, 30 Dec 2009 11:26 am

Thanks for the referral, Terrence. It's much appreciated.

Happy to know all's well with you. Happy New Year!

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Postby nyc4ever » Sat, 02 Jan 2010 3:45 am

seems to be a trend here. i've only been here 5 months, but i've already heard horror stories of expat families coming to live here in sg and getting divorced because husbands stray for young asian women. how is it that asians always look 25 years old? it's not fair - they don't age! either way, they are beautiful - can't argue there.

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Postby ev-disinfection » Sat, 02 Jan 2010 1:15 pm

Well, think about the Asian ladies here, they have to work hard to keep their local guys interested too.
The tropical climate here helps to keep their skin soft, no cold weather to wrinkle it up.
My 2 cents worth... (Local guy)

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Postby meplaa » Wed, 06 Jan 2010 11:44 pm

I never think of Divorce but it have happened to me now.

We just ROM last year May .. but he has an affair with his colleague since two months ago. Very sad .. Cry all the night but still can forgive & forget .. he is a liar .

The 3rd party wrote messages to me .. at first i tot .. just ridiculous messages .. still want to believe him.. but later on he said .. it was true .. i really cant accept .

he said .. Regret to married with me so soon & cant endure my characteristic .. Our relationship before ROM is around 3 years ..

We did not stay together since we ROM ..

Now i want is to divorce, anyone can advise me the easiest way to proceed it ?

I'm having SPR because of him, will it affect my PR status if i divorce with him ?

Any lawyer with reasonable fee for Divorce case, please let me know.

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Postby simonjq » Wed, 05 May 2010 9:11 am

It wouldn't sound good, but yes, I found it "encouraging" to read that so many people are going/gone through divorce like I do. :-)
No party was cheating in my case. We're married for 14 years, great (but confused) kids, coz me and my soon-to-be-ex-wife always have different view towards how we live life and what we're trying to achieve in life.
Well, it's been way too long to spend 19 years together (5 yrs seeing each other before marriage) to realize that it really won't work. Expectedly, all the common 'symptoms' are happening to me, the feeling, the hassles, etc. Life is just won't be the same anymore.

"And now, the end is near, and so I face, the final curtain....
-Frank Sinatra"

Yes it will be great if we have a group meeting to share and lighten ourselves, but i doubt any of us will have enough time and motivation to organize this in singapore...

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Postby ksl » Fri, 18 Feb 2011 7:12 pm

Divorce is a day for celebration, a new path to take in life, new challenges for yourself and the kids, sulking, boozing, eating, or gambling are negatives, going out dating, dancing, travelling, sport, and study is all positive.

Kids will be Kids, no matter where you live, they will grow up and leave the nest and go there own way, the damage is done and the kids will always remember it that's the saddest part of life. Though remember they will hardly bat an eye lid once they have left the nest, determined that divorce will never happen to them.

Is all the worry worth it! I must admit that I really suffered the first time, but quickly bounced back with a different attitude that i was too young to marry again, I was 28 when divorced and stayed single until i reached 50, when i thought it was time to settle down with someone that didn't need me for my financial wealth, as the first wife took it all for 12 years after the divorce. I was so relieved when she remarried, and I didn't have to pay alimony for her and her new live in lover.

My ex hasn't done bad out of 4 marriages, though after seeing her in her 50's I'm glad she divorced me when i was 28 :wink:

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Postby alfredneuman » Mon, 27 Jun 2011 10:52 pm

I did a search using the terms 'Singapore Divorce Support' , and it returned a link to a local support group at this URL: http://s3.excoboard.com/SDSG . If anyone's interested, that is. There's some help from AWARE but it's for women only. http://www.aware.org.sg/resources/information/divorce

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an update on my situation...

Postby 2nd Chance » Thu, 07 Jul 2011 4:51 pm

Still married...although forgetting is serious hard work..need to look within n to God for guidance and not lean on my partner fully this time round for my purpose in life. Feel like I've aged 10 years although I'm in my early forties...still trying to find a balance in my life and trying to live my best life still. Its tough and will share more when I remember how to add new post.Can't seem to reply to my messages as they keep telling me my post r too few...sigh:|

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Divorce Lawyers to recommend?

Postby ponerse » Thu, 14 Jul 2011 10:51 am

Hi there,

Is there any family / divorce lawyer anyone can recommend?

I need someone who is good in the UAE law as while as the Australian law in my case as my wife whom i have separated from for 1+ years is now looking into getting more settlement from what we agreed to & have paid when i asked to proceed to get a divorce.

Appreciate any advice or comments.
Thanks in advance.


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