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Postby the lynx » Wed, 25 Jun 2014 12:29 pm

pisceangirl wrote:
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sundaymorningstaple wrote:I daresay, all Asian men will. They are programmed from birth to only date those at least one level beneath them.


I'm programmed that way? Really?


Try dating someone who is smarter, hotter and makes more money than you. How long can you last with her without losing your sense of pride/sanity in Asia?


It's not that I don't want to try. It's more like they never even gave it a romantic chance to begin with.

Case in point:
I asked the women arnd my age (~25) in my social group, and in the end it became a one on one "friends hangout"...I try to get close to slightly older women (early 30s) and they treat me like a kid somewhat. (heart to heart talk here, whoops)...maybe they see I don't have anything worth sharing with them, or perhaps nothing worth discovering (In their view)?

Yeah, it's possible to have income differences in this day and age. I would probably shirk away if she begins by saying, "Oh I work in Raffles Place/CBD area..." but if she's humble towards life, I would probably get drawn to her even more. I did have some issues on deciding where to take one of my dates for dinner since she's...let's say "one class higher" than me.

Perhaps I gotta get a dating coach here...dress myself more like a grown up man (I still go around to work or social activities with jeans, t-shirt, Chuck Taylors and sometimes a hoodie), read more books, watch more worldly news, go travel and experience more. Or get a pet dog. :P

PS. In my defense, when I do take them out, I would dress appropriately, even though it's just a weekday after work dinner.


I think you should want to be with someone who likes you for you right? I find all the stuff about "How to's" and "What to's" on dating very amusing because it almost sounds like a script (for someone else :P). In my opinion, there are certain basic standards of hygeine and personal grooming that both men and women should adhere to. Your dressing style is a representation of your personality and you shouldn't have to alter that too much (certainly dress for the occasion but that's different and even there you can find ways to express your individual style).

As for income differences, the thing I don't get is why you should feel the need to "level up" or take your date to a certain restaurant cause she works in CBD. In my opinion, the coolest thing about dating an independent woman is that she can buy her own bag and won't look to you for material stuff (and if she does then you need to consider if that's the kind of person you want to be with).

One of my best dates recently was a river side "picnic" where we each brought home cooked stuff. Great food(MSG free!!!) plus lovely conversation :)

Last but not the least, being with the right person can be awesome but being by yourself is infinitely better than being with the wrong one!


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Postby rajagainstthemachine » Wed, 25 Jun 2014 12:42 pm

pisceangirl wrote: there are certain basic standards of hygiene and personal grooming that both men and women should adhere to



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Postby Akimbo » Wed, 25 Jun 2014 12:57 pm

pisceangirl wrote:As for income differences, the thing I don't get is why you should feel the need to "level up" or take your date to a certain restaurant cause she works in CBD. In my opinion, the coolest thing about dating an independent woman is that she can buy her own bag and won't look to you for material stuff (and if she does then you need to consider if that's the kind of person you want to be with).

True, maybe it was just the wrong person to take out :)

One of my best dates recently was a river side "picnic" where we each brought home cooked stuff. Great food(MSG free!!!) plus lovely conversation :)

Incidentally, mine too. But that was long ago.

Last but not the least, being with the right person can be awesome but being by yourself is infinitely better than being with the wrong one!

+1 why I broke up with the last one :)
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Postby pisceangirl » Wed, 25 Jun 2014 1:05 pm

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pisceangirl wrote: there are certain basic standards of hygiene and personal grooming that both men and women should adhere to



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Oh now we're starting to share our fetishes in public huh Raj? :P
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Postby rajagainstthemachine » Wed, 25 Jun 2014 2:45 pm

what do you mean "our" fetishes, I was referring to the grooming :P
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Postby the lynx » Wed, 25 Jun 2014 2:56 pm

rajagainstthemachine wrote:what do you mean "our" fetishes, I was referring to the grooming :P


She thought you have fetish on bearded women.

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Postby nakatago » Wed, 25 Jun 2014 3:33 pm

rajagainstthemachine wrote:what do you mean "our" fetishes, I was referring to the grooming :P


Of all the images you could've used, really?!?


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Postby rajagainstthemachine » Wed, 25 Jun 2014 4:31 pm

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rajagainstthemachine wrote:what do you mean "our" fetishes, I was referring to the grooming :P


Of all the images you could've used, really?!?



your picture is a little low on the shock value :lol:
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Postby rajagainstthemachine » Wed, 25 Jun 2014 4:34 pm

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rajagainstthemachine wrote:what do you mean "our" fetishes, I was referring to the grooming :P


She thought you have fetish on bearded women.


or bearded men who dress like women.
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Postby pisceangirl » Wed, 25 Jun 2014 5:09 pm

rajagainstthemachine wrote:
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rajagainstthemachine wrote:what do you mean "our" fetishes, I was referring to the grooming :P


She thought you have fetish on bearded women.


or bearded men who dress like women.


What have you been smoking? :shock:
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Postby rajagainstthemachine » Wed, 25 Jun 2014 5:12 pm

pisceangirl wrote:
rajagainstthemachine wrote:
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rajagainstthemachine wrote:what do you mean "our" fetishes, I was referring to the grooming :P


She thought you have fetish on bearded women.


or bearded men who dress like women.


What have you been drinking?


nothing but green tea!

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Postby maneo » Thu, 26 Jun 2014 3:11 pm

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macaroonie wrote:But those men who expect their educated wives to do all the housework, cooking, cleaning etc should seriously consider marrying someone who can do those things & good at it! But if they're seriously looking for intellectual input- they will have to compromise & do some of the chores themselves


years ago someone told me why SG govt seriously bars maids from Marrying SCs ...

if no such rule the guys will realise all their life they needed a maid, not a wife ;) and all hell will break loose ...

That's what Neil Young said some time ago:
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Postby macaroonie » Thu, 26 Jun 2014 7:30 pm

Looks like men don't really reach the top of Maslows hierarchy of human needs ie don't reach self actualisation!

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Postby Fortan » Fri, 27 Jun 2014 11:06 am

macaroonie wrote:Looks like men don't really reach the top of Maslows hierarchy of human needs ie don't reach self actualisation!


Basic needs always comes first....

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Postby rajagainstthemachine » Fri, 27 Jun 2014 12:08 pm

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macaroonie wrote:Looks like men don't really reach the top of Maslows hierarchy of human needs ie don't reach self actualisation!


Basic needs always comes first....


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