JR8 wrote:Fascinating thread!
Makes me realise how damned lucky I am. (Or maybe having a few million in the bank means your SGn wife can afford to play the casual long game lol! )
My view would be that like new economies with new wealth, the people go to great lengths to display that they 'have arrived'. If this means a prata man almost prostituting himself at nights to buy a 20 year old Mercedes, well, they will probably do it. Publicly showing and demonstrating that you are apparently successful is incredibly important. As shallow as it is to more mature eyes.
I found SG women come on a few levels. One just vacuous, only shop eat and speak like Ris Low. Two, usually
law grads from overseas uni's.... very assertive and aggressive... kinda be what they think they are meant to be (often lesbians, and own several cats). Three. Imports from China to get the population up ah
Why are you specifically targeting us lawyers? I resent that
Further, I dont have any cats. Nor an inclination towards 'cats' as a euphemistic substitute!
Pig.
"assertive and aggressive"? Not all my classmates were, actually. Some, including the guys, are the most unassuming &soft-spoken people you'll ever meet. We legally-trained people are rational, almost scientific, so I deduce you're probably just sore that you can't use the "She's completely irrational" burn on us.
But I agree with (2) and (3). And yet, there is also a neutral category of girls who are perfectly nice and wife-material by our Western definition, without being at extremes. It's only that too many Asian men have bought into the whole Vietnamese mail order brides theory-- that a woman, love and lineage can be bought with cold hard cash-- that this neutral category of girls have to look elsewhere for our 白马太子.
It's also a simple matter of compatibility-- while I'd be averse to marrying a man who doesn't respect the Asian values, morality and culture I hold close to my proud lil beating heart, on the other hand, why should I accept being treated as a doormat and/or viewed as a babyfactory by you lot here? Puhleeez. Generalisations stink.