I fully concur with road.not.taken about the upsides of living here. With a young family, with all upsides taken into consideration, we would not want to live anywhere else at this time.
Sure it's not perfect. It's hot and humid for starters and there's not decent beaches with clear waterways on an island, if you can imagine but really it's full of many firnedly expats and locals and making friends and finding communities is easy if you are willing to put yourself out there. This website is a good start.
I also suggest you do the research a little before you come about location of schools. The American School is near Malaysia and an American lady I know signed her 5 year old up before moving here and now had the pool girl catching a school bus at 7am to get there at 8.30 (from the River Valley Area). The there very good
International Schools much closer and the community at these will be much more diverse (some have 80 nationalities!) and that may further enrich your life.
To name a few there is United World College, Overseas Family School, Tanglin Trust, Canadian School, Australian School, Chatsworth.
Anyway, do it, you won't be sorry.