@Anju aka diva_00
For activating the pm option, you need to send 5 posts or more. Since asha1981 was fulfilling that criteria, hence suggested the option...
Since you have now made 5 posts, you should be able to use the pm function now......
Enjoy and welcome to Singapore....!!!
P.S. - Your search for only gal pals is very depressing. Most of your hobbies(excluding shopping....
) can be very common with guys as well.