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Post by Ebony Chic » Fri, 28 Nov 2008 4:13 pm

I am African-American, my hubby is from Finland.

I do think people here stare more than what would be considered appropriate in the 'States. But sometimes I stare them back;-)

Besides people did stare us in some places in the U.S. as well (more in the southern States). In Finland I often got not-so-nice looks from the women. My hubby used to joke that it was because they thought I had come there to take away their boyfriends:-P

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Post by Stoven » Fri, 28 Nov 2008 9:06 pm

You can count me in as one of the mixed marriages. I've been married to a Singaporean for 6 years living in the U.S. and am moving to Singapore so my wife can be closer to her family.

I myself am an offspring of a mixed marriage being half Japanese and half Caucasian.

I have been here for the past week and have not noticed that much staring but I normally get stares on my own since Asians can tell I'm mixed.

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Post by Saint » Fri, 28 Nov 2008 9:21 pm

Stoven wrote:You can count me in as one of the mixed marriages. I've been married to a Singaporean for 6 years living in the U.S. and am moving to Singapore so my wife can be closer to her family.

I myself am an offspring of a mixed marriage being half Japanese and half Caucasian.

I have been here for the past week and have not noticed that much staring but I normally get stares on my own since Asians can tell I'm mixed.
Got your PR and everything sort ?

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Post by Stoven » Fri, 28 Nov 2008 11:40 pm

Saint wrote:
Stoven wrote:You can count me in as one of the mixed marriages. I've been married to a Singaporean for 6 years living in the U.S. and am moving to Singapore so my wife can be closer to her family.

I myself am an offspring of a mixed marriage being half Japanese and half Caucasian.

I have been here for the past week and have not noticed that much staring but I normally get stares on my own since Asians can tell I'm mixed.
Got your PR and everything sort ?
Yep. Went to Raffles hospital on Monday for my medical exam and picked up the results on Wednesday. I Went to the ICA today and will be picking up my IC next Friday. Thanks for all the help.

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Post by stacey » Sat, 29 Nov 2008 12:04 am

what is PR ir ICA or IC, and everything else.
where is the acronym cheatsheet, has anyone compiled one?

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Post by Blue Sapphire » Sat, 29 Nov 2008 2:39 am

I'm also in a mixed marriage. Same for my parents and in-laws. We never had any difficulties.

One thing I notice here in Singapore about mixed marriages is that its acceptable if you are expats or a local with a foreigner. But among the locals, religion and society does seem to play a major role from preventing inter-marriages among the chinese, malays and indians. They dont really mix and pretty much stick to their kind. Even as an expat, wherever I see a chinese with an indian I cant help staring and wonder what their families put them through.

So I admit as an expat I stare too! Lets not point at Singaporeans only. I come from a very multi-racial country but when we see a blonde hand-in-hand with a rasta...we cant help but stare and wonder too.

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Post by sundaymorningstaple » Sat, 29 Nov 2008 2:50 pm

stacey wrote:what is PR ir ICA or IC, and everything else.
where is the acronym cheatsheet, has anyone compiled one?
Sure have:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Si ... reviations

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Post by sundaymorningstaple » Sat, 29 Nov 2008 2:58 pm

Blue Sapphire wrote:
So I admit as an expat I stare too! Lets not point at Singaporeans only. I come from a very multi-racial country but when we see a blonde hand-in-hand with a rasta...we cant help but stare and wonder too.
I kinda see it as .....
Image :wink:
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Post by stacey » Sat, 29 Nov 2008 10:47 pm

thank you!

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Re: Mixed Race Couples

Post by Bocat32 » Mon, 01 Dec 2008 1:10 am

stacey wrote:I know this concept means different things in different countries... or cities...

Just curious about what it means in Singapore, in general mostly...

But I'll throw in a specific example...

It 'seems' to me at least, in NY for example, suddenly as a new big trend (ok maybe not new but much bigger than ever) for there to be couples of mixed backgrounds all over the place, not just couples, but also groups of friends are like a mini united nations...

One combo that is extremely popular is to see a white male with an asian female, mostly of chinese, japanese, or korean descent... some women being from their original countries but also plenty asian-americans of second+ generations...)

How common is it to see this?
Is it stared at?
Is it frowned upon?
Do nobody care?

I did read a thread about a french dude with a girlfriend from SG, and he had some slight complaints on the stares, but I also read that people stare and everything so perhaps it wasnt just him..

How about the other way around, an asian man with white women?
Other other combos from personal experience?

And I dont meant exactly the expat-local mix, although I know that's related and a whole other topic altogether...!
Hi Stacey

Like a few others on here I'm a bit baffled by your question. Are you part of a mixed race couple yourself?

What is the deal with your comments on there now being mixed groups of friends - "like a mini United Nations" as you put it in the US? Do you have a problem with that?

I cannot stand segregation of any kind and if kids of different nationalities are friendly I can only see that as a good thing - and I hope and think that its not a "trend".

My husband is black African and I am white (Scottish). Yes, people have stared at us here but in the main if I catch their eye and smile they will always smile back and generally ask questions about our kids. I've never (yet) felt that anyone has looked at us in a derogatory fashion. There aren't many black people in Singapore so I think people are genuinely curious about the mix of our children.

I used to get offended back home when people did this as it was pretty blooming obvious that my husband was black - but as far as I can tell people in Singapore just haven't come across many black people!

Anyway, to get back to my original point - why were you asking this question in the first place???

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Post by kristyna » Mon, 01 Dec 2008 7:53 am

Sorry to say but I think you have got a problem yourself, don't you? :???:
Either your love is strong enough and you gotta bear the consequences of breaking all the barriers and stereotypes or just don't do it.
I am Caucasian coming from a former communist European country married to a British Indian-Arabic who is after all almost twice my age (and I was not after his money :D ). So I know very well what I am talking about. Yes, we get stared at here in Singapore more than back in Europe (especially in UK we didn't have any problems). Now and again there are people taking even pictures of us or our kids without asking for our permission as if we were f...g Brangelina or what. :x We also had an Indian guy coming to check the air cond. and he thought I must be a white maid looking after the kids as I was in the middle of the ironing :lol: But I don't blame them. Besides you will find here a huge post-colonial hangover. They are so subservient to the whites - yes, as if the sun was shining out of the white man's .... :wink: So they are quite racialist. And as said above, they don't even mix with the other ethnic groups here(Chinese stick to Chinese, Malay to Malay etc), still keeping a tremendous distance. :roll: Still long way to go in this society.
But it is a very nice, clean, safe and lush place to live and bring up the kids.
Conclusion: True love is unconditional. So ask your heart what really matters. And if you don't have the balls to break the barriers just don't do it. As simple as that. :cool:
Howgh... :wink:

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Post by AmadeusCho » Tue, 09 Dec 2008 9:13 pm

There are a lot of Wendi Deng's, Zhang Ziyi's, and Michelle Yeoh's out there!

You've probably heard the stats from the US Census Bureau:

In 2000, 25% of female Asian Americans married White American men

By 2006, this already high % increased to 41%!


For better or worse, mixed couples involving white dudes are here to stay.

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Post by sundaymorningstaple » Tue, 09 Dec 2008 11:26 pm

So I guess size does matter. :devil:
SOME PEOPLE TRY TO TURN BACK THEIR ODOMETERS. NOT ME. I WANT PEOPLE TO KNOW WHY I LOOK THIS WAY. I'VE TRAVELED A LONG WAY, AND SOME OF THE ROADS WEREN'T PAVED. ~ Will Rogers

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Post by Bocat32 » Tue, 09 Dec 2008 11:41 pm

kristyna wrote:Sorry to say but I think you have got a problem yourself, don't you? :???:
Was that aimed at me Kristyna? If it was I don't understand why.

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