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Post by sundaymorningstaple » Tue, 18 Nov 2008 11:41 pm

Splat, I would have to agree with you. Course my marriage is a normal mixed marriage (Caucasian male with asian female although a bit rarer as my asian wife is Indian). I have a brother-in-law married to a Austrian girl, another married to a Filippina, and another married to a eurasian. and the last (who died last year) was married to a Brit Caucasian (Indian Catholic married to a British Jew). Family get togethers are like a mini UN general assembly. I also had a British woman working for me last year for a while who is married to a Singaporean Chinese.

There are beginning to be more and more. It's pretty much accepted here now. Now like is was back when my wife and I got married back in '82.

Let's see, off the top of my head, Myself, yourself, Saint, ksl & Breaker Morant are five on this forum that I know of off the top of my head that have mixed marriages.

edited to add RichD to the list as well even if he is currently in Turkey.
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Post by Addadude » Wed, 19 Nov 2008 11:46 am

sundaymorningstaple wrote:Let's see, off the top of my head, Myself, yourself, Saint, ksl & Breaker Morant are five on this forum that I know of off the top of my head that have mixed marriages.
You can count me in there too. Well, I'm not married yet - but I am well and truly 'spoken for'...

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Post by Saint » Wed, 19 Nov 2008 11:54 am

And you can count Mr Vaucluse, or is he just mixed up :lol:

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Post by ScoobyDoes » Wed, 19 Nov 2008 11:57 am

..... and me, in the more conventional sense.

But it helped i moved to Hong Kong when i was only 24-yrs old and single, many years ago. My son will now affectionatly be called a banana, as i read in a HK newspaper last week on a plane (it was a story about why Obama should be called a Zebra instead of "Black").

When i was about 27-yrs old i, and my then girlfriend, went back to the UK for the first time together and whilst we got a few looks on the streets (very North, not London) the only comment i got directed at us, though through my mother, was from a very elderly aunt probably in the region of 90-yrs old then.

I paid her a visit on a drive from the airport to my home, so before getting home. The first thing she did after we left was phone my mother and ask; "Just how old is she?" like i was craddle robbing......though she was 24-yrs old at the time. You can tell what my wife looked like then :D

It was this that got us the strange looks around town too i might add.

My aunt was not initially "for" it until several months later until she said to a old friend of hers "Hmmm, my nephew is going out with a Chinese girl" like it was something to be frowned upon only to get a reply; "Oh really, my son is also married to a Chinese woman" and the situation went from, um, black to white instantly.

A colleague of mine in HK, who had been there many years before me, had had a few much worse instances but that does go back 20-yrs or more now so times have thankfully changed.

Not like reading the papers yesterday about the upsurge of instances in the US since Obama was elected as President.

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Post by felicitywish » Wed, 19 Nov 2008 5:15 pm

Hey I am a British white girl about to marry a British Pakistani Male

Hey ho, we get started at everywhere we go around the world, Singapore by all the Indian guys n girls, I don’t think Asians are that bad at staring but we do get lots of looks. We have been together 6 years and passed caring what anyone else thinks

Back in the UK we lived London we got started at by the older generation Indian/Pakistani evil looks too haha in the North of England where were both from we got stared at mega and racist remarks on a number of occasions only ever happened once in London and it was scary but I shout back n scream, who's business is it anyway! We fall in love with who we fall in love with we connected

Don’t say all Asian women are looking for passport it’s not fair.....ok the better life is appealing but there is sometimes a love connection too

I can say when the guy is about 90 and the girl looks like she is still in school that screams money money money but hey ho there happy for now I mean u think any other girl would want him lol n if she is making a better life for herself off the back of him why not.

Live and let live ppl, It’s not easy being stereo typed, we have families and broken relationships because of who we have chosen as our future why should we be judged by others too. I know one thing I am the lucky one to of met someone to grow old and graceful with, to love and be loved forever amen lol,

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Post by durain » Wed, 19 Nov 2008 5:37 pm

ScoobyDoes wrote:My son will now affectionatly be called a banana, as i read in a HK newspaper last week on a plane (it was a story about why Obama should be called a Zebra instead of "Black").
i think the terms banana doesnt applies to mixed race. it is mainly refer to chinese borned in US or UK. someone was explaining this to me at the BBC (british borned chinese) gathering. the US version is the ABC. :)

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Post by ScoobyDoes » Wed, 19 Nov 2008 8:48 pm

durain wrote:
ScoobyDoes wrote:My son will now affectionatly be called a banana, as i read in a HK newspaper last week on a plane (it was a story about why Obama should be called a Zebra instead of "Black").
i think the terms banana doesnt applies to mixed race. it is mainly refer to chinese borned in US or UK. someone was explaining this to me at the BBC (british borned chinese) gathering. the US version is the ABC. :)
Incorrect.....the whole premis is based on a mix..... Yellow on the Outside, White on the Inside. Just as well we have a sense of humour ;)

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Post by stacey » Wed, 19 Nov 2008 9:03 pm

never knew bananas were white on the inside.
I still considered them yellow on the inside, at least where I come from :)
And they're green when little and black when getting old....

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Post by durain » Wed, 19 Nov 2008 9:13 pm

you learn something new everyday...

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Post by sundaymorningstaple » Wed, 19 Nov 2008 10:28 pm

They are about as white on the inside as I am white on the outside. Last time I checked, I'm not really "white" anywhere. Mostly shades of tan. Maybe I should invest in a whole shipment of SK-II! :P
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Post by stacey » Wed, 19 Nov 2008 10:35 pm

very true on the non-exactly-white comment :)

however i think bananas' white/tan/yellowish shade resembles more the shade of skin of some asians :)

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Post by ScoobyDoes » Thu, 20 Nov 2008 10:12 am

sundaymorningstaple wrote:They are about as white on the inside as I am white on the outside.
Let's say more white on the inside than the yellow on the outside, or just less yellow on the inside...... other than that :mad: :P

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Post by Rich D » Fri, 21 Nov 2008 2:24 pm

sundaymorningstaple wrote:
Let's see, off the top of my head, Myself, yourself, Saint, ksl & Breaker Morant are five on this forum that I know of off the top of my head that have mixed marriages.

edited to add RichD to the list as well even if he is currently in Turkey.
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If its looks you want then walk down the high street in the tourist free areas of this city with an Indian wife and 2 mixed race kids squabbling away in Turkish! The difference is here everyone is so friendly they are likely to stop you and engage in a conversation of genuine interest as to how you came to be there.

We were still getting looks in Little India last month, mostly from Bangla labourers rather than Singaporeans though. I deal with it now as I always have done - look them straight in the eye with a big smile and say "Hello" as if I have known them all my life. The nice ones give an embarrassed smile and hello back, the others look away and beg the ground to swallow them up.
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Post by ascq » Sat, 22 Nov 2008 11:24 pm

stacey wrote:the whiteboy-asiangirl thing I'm sure he meant...

you do see it the other way around, but you gotta be almost as cool as Bruce Lee or William Hung to pull it off...

Is it a size matters thing or racy preferences :) ?

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I know I'm late to the party, but I don't see why you're asking. Are you part of a mixed-race couple? I didn't get that from this context. Are these just your observations?

If you want to know if Singapore has "evolved," I'd say it's the same as in any big-ish city--most people don't have time to care, and the ones who do would care no matter where they live.

I hope this satisfies your curiosity.

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Post by inselaffen » Fri, 28 Nov 2008 11:16 am

I'm English and married to a Kazakh. most people havn't got a clue where she is from though. people have guessed chinese, korean, Japanese.

she feels a lot happier here as part of a mixed race couple than she did in Dubai where we met.

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