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Post by scoobydoo » Fri, 12 Sep 2008 11:08 pm

was wondering if anyoen has been thru a similar situation.
my maid joined me 2 weeks ago when the agent said that her papers had been approved in principle and that we were just waiting for the work permit. due to a mix up on my husbands employment letter the work permit cud not be picked up. there was a place where the agent and my husband forgot to sign so i have all 3 copies with me.
basically the contract is incomplete n the work permit though in my name, has not been collected.
meanwhile a part timer who was working for me tells me that this girl asked her for abortion pills coz the pt was going to the phillipines where all this is very easily accessible.
i want to fire this maid but am scared she might harm the part timer for tellimg me. meanwhile i am concerned that i may be fined 5000!!!
i mean shes been here for 2 weeks n has been out only once and that too she was at orchard the whole day coz we had to meet up to sign the papers!!
does this situation sound familiar to anyone? i dont want to keep her whether or not shes pregnant. if shes stupid enuf to not use protection then i dont want the burden.
wots the law on this? anyone know?
wud apprecaiate any info

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Post by sundaymorningstaple » Fri, 12 Sep 2008 11:23 pm

You could sell her your computer. :?
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Post by scoobydoo » Fri, 12 Sep 2008 11:33 pm

i would give it to her for free, if it would get me outta this mess!!:)

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Post by realthomo » Sat, 13 Sep 2008 9:03 am

It's easy enough to just transfer the maid or cancel the permit. Tell her you have rethought and really don't need a fulltimer, just a part-timer. Whilst this may sound harsh, what she doesn't know won't hurt her.

I understand your concern about the pregnancy and bond - a couple of my friends have had maids that got pregnant - one of them wasn't aware the maid was pregnant and she went into labour at 25 weeks and my friend was not only left wiht the $50,000 hospital bill for the maid and baby but also lost her bond. It isn't worth the worry for you. She will get another job. Hiring a maid is a business decision, so don't feel guilty if you feel she is not right for the job.

I'm not anti-maids, in fact quite the opposite as we have an amazing helper whom we adore. However, it took me a long time to find her in a very deliberate and detailed search. Often people rush into finding a maid just because they like the immediate convenience of having someone around to do the cleaning and look after their kids (though that is not why we hired ours, but I digress). A helpful hint - take your time to find someone you feel comfortable with right from the start and then you will all have a harmonious living and working relationship. And don't forget to treat them well, like you would any other human being. I see that lacking so much in this country - but then again, I have digressed. It is a business arrangement, but she will become part of your family and whilst we can't choose our relatives (and often there is so much conflict amongst rellos) we can choose whichever helper we want to live with us.

Sorry, I have rambled. Good luck!

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Post by aussiemeg » Sat, 13 Sep 2008 9:19 am

Scoobydoo... Is your part timer legal as if these two are starting to get friendly or angry and you fall out with the maid then she could turn nasty and threaten to report you!!! Heard of this before.

Maybe just ask the maid necause it could be that your part timer is a bit insecure too.

If you don't want to keep the new maid check also that it is ok that she has been working for you as you say the paperwork is not complete!

Disaster all round did you get her through an agency if so I would liaise with them

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Post by road.not.taken » Sat, 13 Sep 2008 9:19 am

Scoobydoo, it doesn't sound like English is your first language. The correct term is 'Amah Drama". :D

realthomo is right. Call the agency and tell them you've changed your mind, she's not the right maid for your family. I'd caution you to think it through though, is there any chance the part-timer wants to be a full-timer? What are her motivations?

Take your time, interview a lot of candidates. But keep in mind, if you're going to paranoid about where she goes and what she does on her days off -- maybe employing a helper is not for you.

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Sorry to divert a little bit

Post by sin2008 » Sat, 13 Sep 2008 9:59 am

Do you guys lock up one room to keep the valuables, documents, etc that you may not want the maid to see? I find it both inconvenient and awkward to do so, but my wife is strongly for it. Can't argue with your wife :)

I just want to know how you guys handle this.

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Re: Sorry to divert a little bit

Post by road.not.taken » Sat, 13 Sep 2008 10:17 am

sin2008 wrote:Do you guys lock up one room to keep the valuables, documents, etc that you may not want the maid to see? I find it both inconvenient and awkward to do so, but my wife is strongly for it. Can't argue with your wife :)
Nope. I don't care about the paperwork and I don't have much good jewelry (I bring it with me when I'm away for extended periods, like over the summer). Not because I don't trust our helpers, I just figure the house is more likely to be broken into then). I do trust them and even if you lock some things up, they can figure out the rest. If you're worried about what they can take and what they can read, how can you feel comfortable with them living in your house?

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Post by sundaymorningstaple » Sat, 13 Sep 2008 11:41 am

Interesting.

I never worried when years ago when I had a domestic (20+ years ago) but I never locked up anything. However, I always lock up my home office and our bedroom and other easily pawnable stuff every day as my MiL lives with me which means Rellies often around ~ I wouldn't trust them as far as I can throw any of 'em. :(

You're right. You can pick and choose the hired help. You can't fire the relatives short of getting a divorce! :wink:
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