Andy21, if your son's arriving in October he could be a dreamy Libra like my eldest or a wonderful optimistic just-do-it Scorpio like me
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I do not know your reasons for being pessimistic about our country, but for myself, having lived thru both the good and bad in Singapore for 2 decades, and having spent another decade overseas (Europe, USA), I have come to really appreciate Singapore very much. Not just for the food or public transport, but the schools, yes, the government, the way of life...
Of course there is much to criticise about Singapore and we can certainly change for the better, but we've only been around for 4 decades, surely we have time to figure out these changes and make them happen. And not everybody shares the same vision of how the country should be in any case...
We cannot change the size of our country, we cannot change our past and how it has so far affected our present, but collectively we are shaping our future and nobody should ever give up. Singaporeans are an impatient lot, like my mom likes to say, want fresh and cheap, and then cry father cry mother when they don't get their way.
If Singapore would allow dual nationality I will send my son home to do his NS even if he should never live, study or work in the country. I agree that if we've grown up in Singapore and choose later to move somewhere else, then we should be asked to choose between Singapore citizenship and the new nationality. But when a child is born to parents who have different nationalities, he is shared from birth and should be allowed to keep both. Maybe one day we'll come to this, but in the meantime, my son who thus far has had no opportunity to live long term in Singapore will have to choose the nationality of the country in which he was born and bred.
My old JC friend just came out of the jungle and my brother will be in reservist in a few months. They look upon it as a break from routine and a chance for compulsory shaping up. And thanks to them we get stories about hauntings and plays get staged about NS etc. None of you is doing that for niente. You participate in culture.
I am sorry though to know that you may miss your son's birth. They could indeed be more flexible about it. After all we are not at war. Though I guess if they start making exceptions for one they'll have to work out exceptions for others. A friend of mine couldn't make it to his daughter's birth because he was in industrial negotiations that had implications on thousands of jobs and the unions couldn't care a sh*t about his role as a father and hubby. Eldest son didn't see his father at birth because the doctor was very sure the baby wouldn't come out yet and insisted that the guy return home to sleep. C'est la vie.
In any case CMPB may find a reason to reject NS deferment for my son. In which case the boy will just have to come back and serve NS. I do not worry about it at all. For all you know he may discover when he's there that he likes Singapore enough to give up his other nationality. I'm Singaporean, why should I not be happy if my son decides to be one too?
In fact, now I sometimes wonder if I'm not playing God by deciding for the boy that he should give up Singapore citizenship when he's 21. I am only going by the rationale that since he doesn't live in Singapore he wouldn't want to be Singaporean. And maybe since he's so lazy he wouldn't enjoy NS. Dilema dilema...
Je pense donc je suis. Le reste du temps, je ne suis qu'une fleur.