And 'less work' has got to be good, right ?!

That's one brave man!Wind In My Hair wrote:Sigh, I was just wondering whether any man is worth giving up my independence and sanity for. I'm dating now and had forgotten how utterly undignified and unbecoming it is to check my phone a gazillion times wondering why he hasn't called or messaged, then grinning like an idiot when he does; spending all day planning what to wear for a date, walking on air after a terrific time, then getting depressed again when I start checking my phone a gazillion times...
And this is still the easy part. It gets progressively more difficult - no more sprawling out in bed but having to keep to my side, trying not to toss and turn in case he wakes up, trying even harder not to snore because that's oh so unladylike...
Yes, definitely less work as a single. Quite mad to let a man into our lives. I may change my tune when that darn phone rings though...
ozchick wrote:as a single, it's nice not having to consider another person or feel wounded when they upset you....mm.... and what's so wrong with missing my single life anyway? It's less work for sure !
And 'less work' has got to be good, right ?!
You sound like a real woman to me!Wind In My Hair wrote:Sigh, I was just wondering whether any man is worth giving up my independence and sanity for. I'm dating now and had forgotten how utterly undignified and unbecoming it is to check my phone a gazillion times wondering why he hasn't called or messaged, then grinning like an idiot when he does; spending all day planning what to wear for a date, walking on air after a terrific time, then getting depressed again when I start checking my phone a gazillion times...
And this is still the easy part. It gets progressively more difficult - no more sprawling out in bed but having to keep to my side, trying not to toss and turn in case he wakes up, trying even harder not to snore because that's oh so unladylike...
Yes, definitely less work as a single. Quite mad to let a man into our lives. I may change my tune when that darn phone rings though...
They're all the 'right person'... until they're not.Zeenit wrote:Maybe when you meet the right person all these Big issues will be little.
Why, are you offering to help out? You're a saint!Saint wrote:That's one brave man!
So who's paying for the wedding WIMH??
And what did you think I was all this while?ksl wrote:You sound like a real woman to me!
Most definitely willfamilyof5 wrote:phwoar ksl you sound like a real catch.
pity he's taken WIMH....bet you're kicking yourself. perhaps if you get your kit off and break into his house when his missus is away he'll add you to his list of close friends...?
ksl wrote:
You sound like a real woman to me!
And what did you think I was all this while?
In our honest opinion, having babies does not make a woman real, nor does it, or should it, solely define her. We know plenty of real women in committed, stable, and functional marriages, who either individually elected not to have babies before they were married (and told their partner before they got married), or made the decision jointly with their partners.ksl wrote:... or having babies, or feeding them...
I agree 100% although women and guys expectations may change like the weather, some women quite often don't wish children, although the inner brooding can be so over powering, that even single women, go out to deliberately have a child, with unknown partners, I do know 3 in there late 30's, that have admitted to doing it, they say the urge just cannot be controlled...I also believe that is why women, who cannot have babies, resort to kidnapping them, although I'm no expert, I can see the logic in the urge for women, to have children, motherly instinct, is even more powerful, than being married, and I believe there are statistics, that show many married women, that have children to other men, without their husbands, having a clue, about it, maybe the hubby is shooting blanks, and the urge is too strong, that anyone will do.sierra2469alpha wrote:In our honest opinion, having babies does not make a woman real, nor does it, or should it, solely define her. We know plenty of real women in committed, stable, and functional marriages, who either individually elected not to have babies before they were married (and told their partner before they got married), or made the decision jointly with their partners.ksl wrote:... or having babies, or feeding them...
Just our 2 cents worth...C & P
that's a big call though. and a lot of pressure! who has that feeling after 8 years and 3 children? not me. I admit, sometimes i do get excited when he walks in the door. But usually its because the kids make a beeline for him and i can get some peace.Forks wrote:, and its companionship i want not marriage per se but companionship with the person who makes me walk on air and I get excited about seeing. When that feeling is gone you either have to get it back or get out, neither is easy but...
Definitely, yes its worth seeing the other come home so you can tag out but I mean if your going to get married that person has to be pretty special to do that, and yes it can drag after a while but you wither work at it or you watch it go for good and having realized the errors of my ways I would always advocate making time, and making it serious time, being selfish time almost, otherwise its a job and that no good but if its your companion then you can have that time for whatever it is and then go about your life. Maybe its different for other people but I dont want to wake up to someone who is not my friend and who I dont want to see, but Im not an expert, I just know what ruined it last time.familyof5 wrote:that's a big call though. and a lot of pressure! who has that feeling after 8 years and 3 children? not me. I admit, sometimes i do get excited when he walks in the door. But usually its because the kids make a beeline for him and i can get some peace.Forks wrote:, and its companionship i want not marriage per se but companionship with the person who makes me walk on air and I get excited about seeing. When that feeling is gone you either have to get it back or get out, neither is easy but...
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