Swim Mom wrote:Husband and I are moving to Singapore with children for 1 yr. My oldest child from a prior relationship will be coming with us and his dad initially agreed with the arrangement. The main concern is that Singapore is not a party to the Hague Convention, and he is afraid that I will abduct him and his rights won't be upheld in Singapore court, etc...
Does anyone have any experience with moving to Singapore and still having ex at home with joint custody? I can provide more details if needed.
Just to mention, we are not abducting our child to Singapore, my husband works in the Oil / Gas industry so we're just going until project is over / school year ends. We are already enrolled in a school over there, all of our assets will still be in the US.
Thanks!
Basically the laws of Singapore are based on the British system, out of jurisdiction of the USA.
Maybe your ex hubby needs a shrink to dispense him some tranquilizers, he's obviously worrying for nothing like parent do, all they want to do mostly, is to mess up each others life and the kids.
He can hardly have joint custody in Singapore, although he needs your reassurance and that of your new hubby, that he can still visit him, so why not pacify him with a dummy and have something drawn up with a solicitor in the USA to cover the period of time away from home, allowing him to come and visit if need be, and have legal access. International law, may cover a new document drawn up, have a word with your solicitor. or sign over the assets you are leaving behind, can't be too difficult to sort out.
But I don't think the law would cover here, although the british mentality would be, for the father, understanding, but the child is best off, with the mother, so he can work, and pay the child keep, your keep, and your new husband too. You think I'm joking?

sadly not, it does happen.
Tell him it will do him good to have a break from all the sleepless nights he has worrying about the kid being kidnapped, if he is kidnapped now! SMS may have more help than I, good luck!