Husband Had Sex with Indonesian Servant in front of 5 year

durain · Post by **durain** » Wed, 19 Mar 2008 2:07 am

the first maid was 40 years old and the second one 22. so what child abuse?

LJC · Post by **LJC** » Wed, 19 Mar 2008 7:41 am

I think having sex in front of a 5 year old with a maid (or anyone for that matter) is child abuse. The best education you can give your child is how to respect and have good relationships with your partner...he has destroyed that. And stolen his innocence... I wonder what else they are doing in front him.

road.not.taken · Post by **road.not.taken** » Wed, 19 Mar 2008 8:26 am

durain wrote:the first maid was 40 years old and the second one 22. so what child abuse?

The 5 year old child in question, of course. Well said, LJC.

durain · Post by **durain** » Wed, 19 Mar 2008 10:39 am

oic.

Post by **jpatokal** » Wed, 19 Mar 2008 8:38 pm

LJC wrote:I think having sex in front of a 5 year old with a maid (or anyone for that matter) is child abuse.

Give me a break. Are you one of those hysterical parents who take their kids to a psychologist if they see you getting out of the bath nekkid?

road.not.taken · Post by **road.not.taken** » Wed, 19 Mar 2008 9:22 pm

jpatokal wrote:
LJC wrote:I think having sex in front of a 5 year old with a maid (or anyone for that matter) is child abuse.
Give me a break. Are you one of those hysterical parents who take their kids to a psychologist if they see you getting out of the bath nekkid?

There's a huge difference with being naked in front of a five year old and having sex with multiple partners in front of your children. Are you one of those 'hysterical parents' who has sex in front of their kids?

Forks · Post by **Forks** » Fri, 21 Mar 2008 9:14 pm

While sex in front of a kid is not right, I dont think the original posters husband dragged the kid in to watch his furtive couplings with the maid, maybe the kid came in once and was shooed away but probably little else and what parent hasnt either had a child wander at least once or had to lock the door to prevent it?

Gilly · Post by **Gilly** » Fri, 21 Mar 2008 11:33 pm

Thinking it's definitely a wind up. The original poster opened up to a bunch of strangers on their first post and hasn't been back since - well at least not to reply. That's a bit strange don't you think?

If its not a wind up, does she really need advice? The way the post is written suggests she knows full well what she should do. Does she need someone to tell her she's doing the correct thing by leaving? Maybe. Maybe she needs a member of her family or friends advice, if she has no friends then the gardener, the shopkeeper, anyone that knows her...but a bunch of strangers on an internet forum? No.

If I'm wrong and it's all true, and this woman is really lost and confused so much that she does want a strangers advice then I'd say... Don't leave him, shoot him. Then leave him.

road.not.taken · Post by **road.not.taken** » Sat, 22 Mar 2008 8:00 am

Forks wrote:had to lock the door to prevent it?

The point is, responsible parents lock the door...

Forks · Post by **Forks** » Sat, 22 Mar 2008 9:39 am

road.not.taken wrote:
Forks wrote:had to lock the door to prevent it?
The point is, responsible parents lock the door...

True but in the heat of the moment a person can forget.

maneo · Post by **maneo** » Sat, 22 Mar 2008 1:01 pm

Gilly wrote:Thinking it's definitely a wind up. The original poster opened up to a bunch of strangers on their first post and hasn't been back since - well at least not to reply. That's a bit strange don't you think?

If its not a wind up, does she really need advice? The way the post is written suggests she knows full well what she should do. Does she need someone to tell her she's doing the correct thing by leaving? Maybe. Maybe she needs a member of her family or friends advice, if she has no friends then the gardener, the shopkeeper, anyone that knows her...but a bunch of strangers on an internet forum? No.

If I'm wrong and it's all true, and this woman is really lost and confused so much that she does want a strangers advice then I'd say... Don't leave him, shoot him. Then leave him.

Given the very personal nature of the problem, it is not unreasonable to look outside one's circle of friends.
Unless that circle contained someone that went through the same experience, the friends in it would not fully understand and would probably be biased.

The query is a good way to ask those who should be most helpful, those already having been through the same experience.
Again, due to the sensitive nature of the problem, they might reply directly via PM.
Not everyone who replies does so on the open forum.

Gilly · Post by **Gilly** » Sun, 23 Mar 2008 2:25 am

Maneo,
You make a point, however, I don't agree.

Firstly, don't underestimate family and friends - sorry but you don't have to have experienced the same situation to give good advice.

Secondly, asking for advice from a bunch of total strangers isn't wise. Some could be nutters themselves, some could be insensitive or jokers, as you've already seen. She also wouldn't then have to hope some kind soul will PM her, and hope that the kind soul is genuine or even offers trusted advice. How would she know?

If she doesn't feel she has a supportive network of family or friends she could talk to, then there are professional helplines or websites for these subjects that she could have approached.

A message in the correct support site would have made much more sense. Making a first and one-off post on a general expat site makes it seem to be a windup.

If she's real, I hope she managed to find the correct site to post her problem.

If not, here's one I found quickly on a search...

Counselling & Care Centre ¶ Helpline for individuals, couples and families experiencing psychological, marital or family problems.

Tel: 6536 6366

durain · Post by **durain** » Sun, 23 Mar 2008 1:30 pm

maybe focus on the family can help as well? www.family.org.sg

QRM · Post by **QRM** » Tue, 01 Apr 2008 1:17 pm

When my wife saw our maid was waliking aroung in hot pants and tight vest, she got rid of her and now we have an ugly one with bad breath and doesnt speak english!!

A friends wife always checks the maids underware, G-strings etc and shes out, giant granny pants are OK

Whats more scary is not that he shagged the maid, he wanst to be baptised what is that all about? We all know the stories of dogdgy clergy.

familyof5 · Post by **familyof5** » Tue, 01 Apr 2008 3:03 pm

QRM wrote::

A friends wife always checks the maids underware, G-strings etc and shes out, giant granny pants are OK

Whats more scary is not that he shagged the maid, he wanst to be baptised what is that all about? We all know the stories of dogdgy clergy.

are we in some kind of freaky parallel universe and nobody told me?

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