Getting over the 'hump' in toddler years was not easy, but then no-one said it would be, but it was a great experience and made me and my wife better people for it.
My wife kept the house, kept the wee boy, kept up with her pals, kept up with her parents and I think I helped as well and would like to think it has been of benefit to all of us.
My wife had a part time job and our son went to nursery where
professional people were paid professional prices and it was to his benefit as he learnt to read and write and learnt social skills a bit earlier also.
In the UK many children are left with grannies and grandads while the parents try to earn a living to pay for the cars and houses and other toys the children 'need', but I do feel on the whole children need the proper family environment and benefit from it.
'Real life' to me is to see your mum and dad in the house, dad helping mum with the chores and both helping kids with the homework, mums and dads taking kids for days out, trips to the park.
In my experience I missed not having a stable family upbringing and it did mould my ideals for life.
I worked offshore and thought it was ok and my son was ok with it, but the change in him having two parents around is astounding.
He knows he can not have all our attention as we have chores in the house and we dont believe a maid will be beneficial for anyone.
The houses here are not that big and the chores are not that big and he is not that much of a handful we need help and if he was too much of a handfull...then professional help and not a maid would be required?
