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Post by Bafana » Thu, 13 Sep 2007 9:56 am

tigerbabe4 wrote:this thread is so interesting ...its a pity that faithful wives get cheating husbands..a good marriage sounds like a farway dream this days ... :roll:
Faithful husbands also get cheating wives.
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Post by tigerbabe4 » Thu, 13 Sep 2007 5:50 pm

I guess u are right..some women cheat too but its just that I've met more women with cheating husbands than men with cheating wives so you can understand why my views are abit one sided. Recently met a neighbour that I don't really chat with but she suddenly started confiding in me about how her supposedly good husband is having an affair with a girl 20 yrs younger than him...I was naturally shocked and I'm still trying to figure out why some men go for younger women or why do younger men go for older women ..is it unspoken attraction or is there something that most women don't know ....can one of you guys sare why you think some men prefer younger or older women ...

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Post by huggybear » Thu, 13 Sep 2007 6:13 pm

men are visually attracted to other women.

Women develop more of an emotional bond with their partner and looks aren't as important.

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Post by Superglide » Thu, 13 Sep 2007 6:27 pm

Women are visually attracted as well, c'mon!
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Post by Olivia Lim » Fri, 14 Sep 2007 10:57 am

If one says that that men are visually attracted to other women , but why do men with beautiful wives go for ugly looking female.

How do u think these women do it? What make a men tick? It cannot be just looks, rite??

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Post by sourisso » Fri, 14 Sep 2007 11:06 am

well her face might be not interesting but her body may differ a bit from his wife and would attract him... or just want to be with another woman since he's bored with his wife or affraid of her or anything..
or a man find a new woman, the relation is new, he can be back to the good old times when his wife wasnt aware yet that he's not that great afterall.. multiple are the reasons...could be sexual, or mental reasons.. goes the same for womens..

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Post by sundaymorningstaple » Fri, 14 Sep 2007 2:22 pm

He could be wearing beer goggles! :P :cool:

For the sake of any moderators who cannot ascertain what is meant, It means often men have relationships due to the over intoxication due to alcohol which tends to un-inhibit and incapacitate the common sense reasoning complexes of the brain. This causes them to do things that they wouldn't even think about in a sober state. :wink:
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Post by cutiebutie » Fri, 14 Sep 2007 2:54 pm

Of course women are little different from men. The first thing we see in a man is his looks, of course. That decides the attraction, personality decides how far the relationship goes.

Oh, but not for me. I love men's brains. :D

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Post by ravishing88 » Fri, 14 Sep 2007 3:03 pm

So, the wife looks different from the day she married so the men has the rite to have an affair? It takes 2 for a marriage to work. What are the marriage vows then for?

I know of a colleague who is a mother, looks very stunning that people do a double take when they see her. She is very sexy. She is also a very good cook. She waits on her husband, being there emotionally and sexually for her husband. She is humble in character, softspoken and believes in GOD. She drops everything for her family and yet, the husband goes out and has an affair. The woman he has an affair with is also married which makes it even worse.

So, something is seriously wrong somewhere. I think many people take their spouses for granted and doesn't really care of the consequences. Some go further by having affairs. It is very selfish thinking.

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Post by Jeppo » Fri, 14 Sep 2007 3:03 pm

cutiebutie wrote:Oh, but not for me. I love men's brains. :D
Fried, boiled or steamed? :lol: :cool:

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Post by zhoumulian » Fri, 14 Sep 2007 3:25 pm

She waits on her husband,


I think there's something to be said for not becoming totally dependent on your spouse. that doesn't make the affair right, but each person also need to have a life as well.

The woman he has an affair with is also married which makes it even worse.[/quote]

affairs are wrong regardless of whether the other person is married or not

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Post by mayamomi » Sat, 15 Sep 2007 2:01 pm

Olivia Lim wrote:If one says that that men are visually attracted to other women , but why do men with beautiful wives go for ugly looking female.

How do u think these women do it? What make a men tick? It cannot be just looks, rite??
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder... whats ugly to u might not be to them...
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Post by sapphire » Sat, 15 Sep 2007 4:46 pm

There are hundreds of reasons why spouses cheat on each other. You can be one hell of a bombshell and still be cheated on. Different strokes for different folks.
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Post by Wind In My Hair » Sat, 15 Sep 2007 9:39 pm

Oh stop it people. You're making me even more paranoid about marriage. :(

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Post by lefthanded » Wed, 19 Sep 2007 10:40 am

Some are of the opinion that it takes two to tango, but what if one party of the illicit affair was oblivious to the fact that the other is already taken? Then who is to be blamed? :???:

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