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Postby Jolie.Ena » Thu, 06 Sep 2007 10:31 pm

My fren was recounting to us, gals, how her husband was sending a couple of hundred of messages and making calls to another married colleague in the same workplace. My fren also found out they have been gg out together. When My fren questioned her husband and of cse, initially he denied everything. When she called the other woman, she gave her fictitious name and said they were only frens and they only talk abt work. My fren's husband and the other woman were collaborating their stories.. That is when my fren knew that something fishy was gg on..My fren was livid.. She really cursed the other woman. A few weeks later, my fren's husband regrets his action and asked for her forgiveness. He also admitted he was waylaid by the other woman who made the first move by going after him.

My fren is waiting for her day.. She is so angry that she wants to really make life hell for the other woman. My fren believes in retribution. The sad thing is that the other woman has a child and doing things behind her husband back cos he works irregular hours. She thinks her husband will never know. It is only a matter of time her husband is gg to find out. People talk and she fails to realise that. My fren also knows her husband checks on her all the time so basically he doesn't trust her. So, being unfaithful is nothing new to her.

Does she think of her own child? What kind of mother and wife is she? Doesn't she have morals? What kind of values would she teach her child? I really pity her husband and child.

What is wrong with woman nowadays? Why can't they seem happy with their own life? They try to destroy other married woman lives.. is it simply they are so promiscious?

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Postby zhoumulian » Fri, 07 Sep 2007 10:21 am

why is your friend waiting to make this other woman's life hell? what about her own husband?

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Postby seasider » Fri, 07 Sep 2007 10:57 am

The other woman always gets the blame.

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Re: Straying Wives

Postby tingal79 » Fri, 07 Sep 2007 9:52 pm

I suppose you asked these questions:

Jolie.Ena wrote:...What is wrong with woman nowadays? Why can't they seem happy with their own life? They try to destroy other married woman lives.. is it simply they are so promiscious?


based on:

Jolie.Ena wrote:... A few weeks later, my fren's husband regrets his action and asked for her forgiveness. He also admitted he was waylaid by the other woman who made the first move by going after him.


Are you really that naive? Who in the right mind would admit that he's the one who made the first move?

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Postby Olivia Lim » Sat, 08 Sep 2007 10:10 am

I blamed your friend's husband and the other woman as well. He is married but then sad to say men do get tempted very easily.

It is just a matter of pushing the right buttons based on my personal experiences. Men get very flattered if a woman starts to pay attention, stoking their ego. It is nothing new. Witnessed it myself. I knew of a colleague who is single but engaged. She was new and she started liking a cute guy in office and she made sure she was always there wherever he goes. She plagued him with calls and SMSes and of cse, he revels the attention. But in the end, she almost jeopardised her own relationship and now regrets.

But in this case, the other woman is also married. She should know she is treading on dangerous grounds. What if her husband finds out? Things can go out of hand. I think she is messing with fire, destroying the family's sanctity. Why get married and then do this? It is not right.

I pity the wife coz she is a real victim here. Your friend is very naive. Both of them sure had their fun and the husband "regrets" his actions. I am not sure if the other woman's husband knows. He might suspect as these kind of stuff is quite hard to hide. It is just matter of time he will know.

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Postby zhoumulian » Sat, 08 Sep 2007 10:15 am

[quote="Olivia Lim"]I blamed your friend's husband and the other woman as well. He is married but then sad to say men do get tempted very easily.

why is it that both men and women always resort to "well men will be men" rhetoric. Who cares if men are easily tempted? He knew what he was doing and he allowed himself to be tempted. Men are not as stupid as they pretend to be or as stupid as they are perceived as being.

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Postby ravishing88 » Mon, 10 Sep 2007 11:25 am

A woman doesn't have to be good looking but all she needs to do is flirt with a man, just show a little skin and watch his reaction .It is simply amazing how a man behaves in a situation like this.
If there is no control, it goes out of hand, that is where the affairs start and frankly speaking, they never care abt morals, values and being faithful to your own spouses. Such a frightening thought!!

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Mon, 10 Sep 2007 11:46 am

ravishing88 wrote:A woman doesn't have to be good looking but all she needs to do is flirt with a man, just show a little skin and watch his reaction .It is simply amazing how a man behaves in a situation like this.
If there is no control, it goes out of hand, that is where the affairs start and frankly speaking, they never care abt morals, values and being faithful to your own spouses. Such a frightening thought!!


What cave did you crawl out of? As a former oilfield worker I saw enough of both sides. You would be surprised at what the wives of husband's stuck on oilrigs for a month or two at a time get up to. I saw it all the time while on down time and my wife saw it all the time from the stage where she sang. In lots of cases we actually knew these women (of all races and nationalities). There is enough of it going on that I know better to try to point at the other gender. You need to open your eyes and look around you instead of blindly hoping something is the case. It takes two to tango. Which is worse the married woman who flirts with other men or the other married men who take up the offers? Pot? Kettle? Black?

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Postby Superglide » Mon, 10 Sep 2007 12:40 pm

sundaymorningstaple wrote:It takes two to tango.


Exactly.

End of discussion.

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Postby cutiebutie » Mon, 10 Sep 2007 6:34 pm

It takes two to tango but only one to ask for the dance

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Mon, 10 Sep 2007 6:38 pm

cutiebutie wrote:It takes two to tango but only one to ask for the dance


But thanks to women's lib both sides now do the asking don't they. :P

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Postby cutiebutie » Tue, 11 Sep 2007 4:05 pm

sundaymorningstaple wrote:
cutiebutie wrote:It takes two to tango but only one to ask for the dance


But thanks to women's lib both sides now do the asking don't they. :P


Yes, but that does not make it rite. If someone hits on someone who is in a relationship then he/she is doing the wrong thing.

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Postby mayamomi » Tue, 11 Sep 2007 4:30 pm

cutiebutie wrote:
sundaymorningstaple wrote:
cutiebutie wrote:It takes two to tango but only one to ask for the dance


But thanks to women's lib both sides now do the asking don't they. :P


Yes, but that does not make it rite. If someone hits on someone who is in a relationship then he/she is doing the wrong thing.


"one can bring a horse to water 20 cannot make it drink... "

when someone wants to hit on the other, of cos the first question would not be "are u married?? or "are u involved with anyone at the moment??"


its up to the other if he/she would accept the dance or not.. hence, "it takes 2 to tango"... the blame should be on both parties and not on one person only...
To you, he's a dog...
To me, he's everything...

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Postby cutiebutie » Wed, 12 Sep 2007 9:30 am

Of cos you are right - just as it is wrong to lead with temptation.

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Postby tigerbabe4 » Wed, 12 Sep 2007 3:06 pm

this thread is so interesting ...its a pity that faithful wives get cheating husbands..a good marriage sounds like a farway dream this days ... :roll:


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