Sad Genital Warthog

[warthog]

i've just been diagnosed of having caught genital warts from a previous ex and been having outbreaks over the past 3 months. i had them cauterised, but it came back, just small patches of rough discoloured skin on a very small area, but to me it looks just awful.

its contagious and incurable.

i'm a pretty girl, still young and i always have admirers, but lately due to the warts, i've been feeling very low, i'm scared of dating and intimate relationship, i keep on looking at the affected spot which looks so icky and embarrassing.

anyone with info, experience or advice on this?

warthog

[sundaymorningstaple]

Like Herpes, you are just going to have to learn to live with it and just admit to yourself that a lot of guys are going to just walk away when you tell them. However, you are better off telling them early before you have convinced yourself that "this one is different". It's sad, and it's rough but life must go on. Be thankful your ex did not give you HIV-AIDS. He could have done just as easily and not told you either. While you are stuck with it, at least it's not a death warrant like AIDS.

Just remember to stay sexually inactive during the flare-up periods and your partner will normally be okay. But it is only fair to let him know before you all do anything.

[jpatokal]

And it's probably only going to hang around for a year, not forever:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/sexual ... td/hpv.htm

[ksl]

i've just been diagnosed of having caught genital warts from a previous ex and been having outbreaks over the past 3 months. i had them cauterised, but it came back, just small patches of rough discoloured skin on a very small area, but to me it looks just awful.

its contagious and incurable.

i'm a pretty girl, still young and i always have admirers, but lately due to the warts, i've been feeling very low, i'm scared of dating and intimate relationship, i keep on looking at the affected spot which looks so icky and embarrassing.

anyone with info, experience or advice on this?

warthog

This is the most common sexual virus, and very easy to get rid of for men, however women, are more difficult, because they develop, them internally. You need to go to your clinic on a regular basis, until they are cleared up, refrain from sex for 3 months and always make sure the guy is protected, I also believe they may be responsible for cervical cancer. You should take a smear or pap test I think it's called.

This is more common in women! and I believe the virus can be cured, providing all the warts are treated, becuase I have seen some tests done on a guy, that had them, is test came back negative.

Although women are more difficult to cure, becuase most don't even know they have the virus, and they get inside on the vaginal wall. Don't worry too much, just stay free from sexual contact, until you get an all clear from the clinic.

http://www.mamashealth.com/stds/gwarts.asp

[warthog]

Like Herpes, you are just going to have to learn to live with it and just admit to yourself that a lot of guys are going to just walk away when you tell them. However, you are better off telling them early before you have convinced yourself that "this one is different". It's sad, and it's rough but life must go on. Be thankful your ex did not give you HIV-AIDS. He could have done just as easily and not told you either. While you are stuck with it, at least it's not a death warrant like AIDS.

Just remember to stay sexually inactive during the flare-up periods and your partner will normally be okay. But it is only fair to let him know before you all do anything.

i asked my ex about the warts, but he told me he didn't know he had warts.

i've been reading stats that almost 30-50% have been exposed to genital warts/hpv virus, but hardly anyone i've mentioned it to have even heard about it.

its fair to tell someone b4 hand, but its a real bummer to be rejected in case he's already got the warts virus but doesnt know it. like my ex, he said he didnt know he has warts.

[Bafana]

Tough luck and sad to hear - Most guys wont gte to put off if you tell them (besides theres more then one way to butter a mans bread).

Chin up and best of luck

[ksl]

Like Herpes, you are just going to have to learn to live with it and just admit to yourself that a lot of guys are going to just walk away when you tell them. However, you are better off telling them early before you have convinced yourself that "this one is different". It's sad, and it's rough but life must go on. Be thankful your ex did not give you HIV-AIDS. He could have done just as easily and not told you either. While you are stuck with it, at least it's not a death warrant like AIDS.

Just remember to stay sexually inactive during the flare-up periods and your partner will normally be okay. But it is only fair to let him know before you all do anything.

i asked my ex about the warts, but he told me he didn't know he had warts.

i've been reading stats that almost 30-50% have been exposed to genital warts/hpv virus, but hardly anyone i've mentioned it to have even heard about it.

its fair to tell someone b4 hand, but its a real bummer to be rejected in case he's already got the warts virus but doesnt know it. like my ex, he said he didnt know he has warts.

The problem with warts, are that women are normally the carriers, inspect your boyfriend cautiously, even inside his mouth, if oral sex is practised, he will certainly feel them, if in the mouth, athough no pain.

It is very possibe, that you have passed it to your boyfriend if he doesn't have any visible signs of them yet.
If you have had sexual relations, before him, what happens is the warts develop inside the vagina, and you would not always know about them. It takes several months for them to develop, so if your boyfriend doesn't have them just yet, he must still use a condom, becuase he is likely to have the virus in him and it just hasn't broken out yet.

It is no big deal, so no arguments over it, it's just one of those things, very common, also crab lice, which are probably the next most transmitted parasite, which you can also pick up from public toilets.

[Bafana]

Thrush also common lah (not that I know anything about it )

[sundaymorningstaple]

Thrush also common lah (not that I know anything about it )

Tell us more Baf! I always though it was a bird?

[seasider]

They were a lot more common pre-AIDs, warthog, when we thought the most awful thing that could happen was to get pregnant or a quick dose of something requiring antibiotics! In these days of supposed safe sex, i.e., using barrier methods of contraception, they should be a thing of the past.

I don't want to spook you but genital warts/HPV can lead to cervical cancer years down the line. I hope your doctor has told you this, but you should now have regular PAP smears (oh the jokes we can have with that term in Singapore!) even though you probably think you are way too young for cervical cancer. Should you ever get told you have "pre-cancerous cells", again don't panic. It doesn't mean you will develop cancer but you may need more cauterisation and/or a biopsy.

Not far off the mark but maybe Bafana means Candida? Again, men can be pass it on without even knowing they have it, and it can make a woman infertile.

Safe sex is the answer. Even if you think you are in a monogamous relationship.

Best of luck, warthog. If you feel the need to chat privately, PM me.

(And well done, guys, for treating this matter so sympathetically.)

[warthog]

i wanted to pm u, seasider, but not enough posts. but thanks to all for the info.

[warthog]

They were a lot more common pre-AIDs, warthog, when we thought the most awful thing that could happen was to get pregnant or a quick dose of something requiring antibiotics! In these days of supposed safe sex, i.e., using barrier methods of contraception, they should be a thing of the past.

I don't want to spook you but genital warts/HPV can lead to cervical cancer years down the line. I hope your doctor has told you this, but you should now have regular PAP smears (oh the jokes we can have with that term in Singapore!) even though you probably think you are way too young for cervical cancer. Should you ever get told you have "pre-cancerous cells", again don't panic. It doesn't mean you will develop cancer but you may need more cauterisation and/or a biopsy.

Not far off the mark but maybe Bafana means Candida? Again, men can be pass it on without even knowing they have it, and it can make a woman infertile.

Safe sex is the answer. Even if you think you are in a monogamous relationship.

Best of luck, warthog. If you feel the need to chat privately, PM me.

(And well done, guys, for treating this matter so sympathetically.)

we did use protection all the time, but its a virus in the skin, so just skin contact was enough. because of that, there are no tests for HPV STD tests for men, since its not in the blood. you just get symptoms, then you know. likewise for women, either an abnormal pap smear or symptoms.

at the doctor, and he's so cheery "not contagious if no symptoms". it helps me feel better at the clinic, but no wonder its not taken seriously and after years of no symptoms, many don't confess, so it spreads.

[ksl]

They were a lot more common pre-AIDs, warthog, when we thought the most awful thing that could happen was to get pregnant or a quick dose of something requiring antibiotics! In these days of supposed safe sex, i.e., using barrier methods of contraception, they should be a thing of the past.

I don't want to spook you but genital warts/HPV can lead to cervical cancer years down the line. I hope your doctor has told you this, but you should now have regular PAP smears (oh the jokes we can have with that term in Singapore!) even though you probably think you are way too young for cervical cancer. Should you ever get told you have "pre-cancerous cells", again don't panic. It doesn't mean you will develop cancer but you may need more cauterisation and/or a biopsy.

Not far off the mark but maybe Bafana means Candida? Again, men can be pass it on without even knowing they have it, and it can make a woman infertile.

Safe sex is the answer. Even if you think you are in a monogamous relationship.

Best of luck, warthog. If you feel the need to chat privately, PM me.

(And well done, guys, for treating this matter so sympathetically.)

we did use protection all the time, but its a virus in the skin, so just skin contact was enough. because of that, there are no tests for HPV STD tests for men, since its not in the blood. you just get symptoms, then you know. likewise for women, either an abnormal pap smear or symptoms.

at the doctor, and he's so cheery "not contagious if no symptoms". it helps me feel better at the clinic, but no wonder its not taken seriously and after years of no symptoms, many don't confess, so it spreads.

Symptoms being the actual warts! or what other symptoms are you referring to?

[warthog]

at the doctor, and he's so cheery "not contagious if no symptoms". it helps me feel better at the clinic, but no wonder its not taken seriously and after years of no symptoms, many don't confess, so it spreads.

[/quote] Symptoms being the actual warts! or what other symptoms are you referring to?[/quote]

yes, symptoms as in warts, or if u get cancer