renter wrote:Shellfish wrote:What are the Steps/Planning to make in making the full use of your money for a better future? What are your advice besides save save save !
if you believe me, and if you belong to the middle income working class, you already know your answer: save. It is not as fashionable as the word "invest", but it is still the way for majority of people.
You can directly ask your financial advisors who are trying to sell you all kinds of investment vehicles: how many millionaires out there became rich by investing their salaries?
ksl: actually marriage is also the fastest way to gain a lot of money.
I'm glad you mentioned that! It's one thing i have been trying to explain to my son, why he, wastes his time on bimbo's with no other vision, than breeding like wild rabbits for the monthly hand out, i'll never know, he calls it love, i call it brains in the dick syndrome. utterly backward, and stupid(must be his mothers genes, certainly not mine) At least now he is hitched, with a degree holder, but that is not enough!
One must have self motivation to succeed, unfortunately I don't yet see that spark in my son, although i have not given up hope.
After my costly first marriage, i made a pact with myself, that i would never fall victim again, although I had the same syndrome has my son, when i was his age.
I never wanted to marry or get engaged, because i knew, that i would never look after them, I wasn't emotionally ready or financially willing.
Maybe i get flamed for being so frank, although i'm long past caring. I've been up and down the social ladder a couple of times in the UK, and even have friends in the lords & ladies circles of life and bums and winos from my working class background believe it or not.
I love both sides of my life, I have never hated my roots, far from it, I had a wonderful welsh mum, who broke her back giving me , my brother and sister a life, and an asshole of father, who was a womaniser and to put it bluntly a giglo.
He was in is 60's at the time and married a wealthy woman from UK with homes in the USA and Canada, although there where many previous females, He said to me many times, "why don't you go out to Florida, Miami, you wouldn't believe all the old dears with cash out there! All looking for a 35 yr old
Jesus, what an egoistic piece of shit he was, although it took me a long, long while to understand his mentality, and forgive him.
The bond between my mum and him, the love hate relationship, that thrived on arguments and fights was I believe the only thing they had.
What it was really all about was his infidelity, for over 20 years of my life, from the 50's. A bleak time i suppose after the war, although he did very well, neglecting his family all his life, and not having to support his kids.
I have lots of respect for women, and feel for those that struggle to get by day by day, it's not difficult for me to feel my eyes fill up.
Here in Singapore, I am often approached by charities on the street, and I decided only to give once or twice since being here, simply becuse I would really rather give to the old people here, that are selling the tissue paper, to earn a living,
I don't need all the tissue paper, although it often reminds me of my mothers hardship, and how I had to sell newspapers and wrags to the Mill and pick coal off the railwaylines for the fire, at 8 years old, so we wouldn't freeze through the winters, many a day the oilcloth on the bedroom floor was frozen and slippy.
I sincerely do hope locals read these threads, because even if one person learn's something, from other's experiences, then at least some good is passed on.
The importance of accumulating wealth is very real, if one starts a family, without an education it's a lability! So to get out of the gutter one must take the first steps to get some education, at night school, if one doesn't have education, you need other practical skills to survive.
Many so called career guys and their socialite circles actually fall with a bang, when they lose their jobs, it's a pitiful sight, with their top notch positions gone and the socialites, don't want to know your hard times, no friends, the bubble bursts and no skills to fall back on.
Although it's very different coming from the bottom up, the community is still there, and you are always welcomed, I did take a couple of aristocrats back to my area for a weekend, they specifically wanted to see what it was like in a working mens club, and to mix with all the low life.
These type of people born with a silver spoons in their mouths in UK are dwindling year by year, no family money left, to keep the estates going, so they open up to the public, to come and visit, see how the gentry live.
I also used to feast on duck & orange at a Mansion on the road between Stockbridge and Winchester in the UK and mix with the higher echelons at barn dances and hunts, shooting every weekend, it's a life one can enjoy without a doubt, although another world, and another kind of English too.
So yes, one must decide where one wants to go in life, aim for the stars, and you may fall just below.
Setting goals,with ones life is a very important need on the Maslow's pyramid, although one does have to understand how to achieve these needs, and know how and when to go after them.
Networking and socialising go hand in hand, although those at the bottom of the pit, have yet to wake up, the only tools one requires is the confidence to move on, respect, honesty and the motivation to learn, never give up learning and never believe you are a Master, even though it may well be on your papers.
Words are just words and are worthless, if you cannot do a good job!
A little advice before taking the plunge getting married, take a look in the mirror and ask yourselves, who is looking after who, and who is going to suffer financially if it doesn't work out.
believe me I did my time locked in a 6ft by 4ft cell, when I fell behind with the alimony, becuase of unemployment, and actually why I hate the fcuking UK system, is because they sent me down after I had just gained employment, to set and example to other guys, that travel the world.
So yes marry into money, and you will most likely avoid all the pitfalls, if your a man that is.
There are women that do actually go hunting for suckers, especially in the lower ranks of UK, I know some of them personally, although my respect for them dwindles, everytime i'm within earshot.
Which reminds me of the University professor who was in the papers not long ago! Well he also learnt the hard way! or did he learn anything at all, I mean he's a professor, who obviously doesn't have much common sense. Is he an Expert I wonder?
Well done Renter!