Maddyan wrote:Dear Dickson,
Quite pissed off aren't we? What happened? A fight with a girlfriend or something?
Anyway, you do realise that matriachal society is prevalant in animals. Historians still argue about whether such a situation was present in human history or not. So, I guess saying man is born to lead would be a bit too much.
"Behind every successful man is a woman". We have heard this for a long time. Some say it should be completed and should read "Behind every successful man is a woman, waiting to take over".
But then again, I would still say (as a personal opinion) that a woman has a strong influence on a man's success be it in the form of a mother, sister, lover or wife.
Well, the reason males are strongly developed is most probably a product of evolution rather than God's decision. As a mother, the female has to take care of the kids and thus may have been weaker. But, you do realise is that in all the species, the male has to work to get the attention of the female, which well doesn't speak too high of the males.
As for the cooks who are really good, ask them if they cook at home and 90% of them would say no. The remaining 10% are most probably single.
And their starting is more often than not in their mother's kitchen learning from her. And seriously, however good a guy may be at cooking, he will still like his mom's cooking (taking into account that the mom is a good cook to begin with).
There are many tasks women are better in. It has to do with the basic wiring in our brains. Women have more interactions between the two hemispheres of the brain which allows for better verbal skills and intuition which seriously can be described as an information superhighway. Whereas men have larger hemispheres which explains their abstract reasoning power but can be only said as a crooked country road. Believe me on this, I'm researching on the brain only.
Anyway, longest post (self-written) for me. I'll rest for now and let the brickbats/bouquets fly.
Chill out a bit bro, life ain't that bad.
Cheers.
Maddy
P.S. By the way, I'm a guy. Wanted to tell you this before you start saying that I'm a female who's a member of the feminist ban the bra movement (which i thoroughly support
).
And girls, I am quite sure none of us here are masochist pigs, so lighten up a bit too. I'm too young to be telling you this but I'm the correct generation to tell you this. If strong language offends you, I am quite sure that us males can start a new thread named "adult jokes only" which you can very easily avoid unless you are interested. he he he.
maddyan,i dont know how to pronouce your name and that you are a guy. but i would like you tell you that you are still living in 20th century. dude this is 21st century so come on grow up and get a life. the things you quoted as examples were all applicable about 100 yrs ago and they were citied by historians.
present day and now,
behind every successful man is a woman, but behind her is his bitchy wife.
i have researched on human brains for more than 7 yrs now and can tell you again it is an old idea. recent studies by british born researcher john phillipe rushton a univ of western ontario psycologist reached his conclusion after scrutinising the results of univ aptitude tests taken by 100000 students aged 17 and 18. a focus on factors such as ability to quickly grasp a complex concept, verbal reasoning skillsand creativity- some of the key ingredients of intellegence indicated that male teens had IQ's which were an average of 3.63 points higher. the avg person's iq is around 100. naari jaat has advantage over males only untill adolescence because they mature faster, which makes the underlying difference. men have larger brain and a larger brain has got more neurons meaning more advantage in processing information.
naari jaat is good and men cannot live with them this is exactly what i used to tell my friends too. but after seeing all my freinds suffering after marrying indian girls in india i have started to hate the nari jaat.
you wont believe me . check this blog maintained by a naari jaat called diana sunita.
ADVICE TO INDIAN WOMEN
http://www.indiatalking.com/blog/indianwomen/1372/
Advice to Indian Women.
Advice to Modern Indian women, who is going to marry and already Married.
How to Safe guard your Future;
You have A weapon to seduce your husband to get Everything possible.
Your have to cook good food for him, better than his mother. That’s only way bring him out of clutches of his mother.
Use your fertile 3 inch, to make him happy, so you can make him your slave, but use it reasonably, to get things from him. Once he is under control, you can use him as your remote control.
Try to get money from him and save in your personal Account, if you are house wife.
If you are working, do not give money to house hold things, its mans responsibility to run home.
Ask him to make more Gold and valuables.
Ask him to buy
property / House / flat in your name.
Ask him to make Insurance with huge sum of Amount.
Tell him to keep his parents Away from your home.
Be with him whenever he talk to his parents and relatives.
Keep all his Bank Accounts / Savings Informations.
Take and Destroy all the receipts of valuables he buy for you.
Ask him to open joint Account.
Ask him to take FD in your name.
Ask him to invest in your name, tell him your name is lucky one.
Men are just Dumb, they will do as you say, once you make them SLAVES.
Sunita
HOW TO MAKE MONEY OUT OF YOUR MARRIAGE IN INDIA.
(THE NEW VERSION KAUN BANEGA CROREPATI -PART 3)
http://www.indiatalking.com/blog/indianwomen/1371/
How to make Money From Marriage.
One of my friend wrote to me how she turn her marriage to mint money.
BRAVO Mukta, these men never understand, unless there are many brave women like you. Nisha Sharma got nothing, you are the number one Fortune Hunter.
Here is the some main things she wrote to me.
My name is Mukta from Rajindar Nagara Delhi, I got married to a south Indian man, he is a NRI, after Marriage I went to USA with him, I told him till i get Green Card, not to have children and he agreed, He was Earning well and I managed to send almost 5 lac to my Account in India in 18 months. Soon after I got my Green card, I came back to India after taking all the gold he gave worth almost 10 lacs.
As soon as I reach India, I filed dowry case on him and his parents in coimbatore, my dad has some political and police influence, so they sent Arrest warrant for them and they are on run, and my husband cann`t come to India to fight for this 498a.
Meanwhile I applied for divorce and and 20 lacs alimony, lets see what happens.
Actually I wanted to marry my Boyfriend, but my husband impressed my parents, so they forced me to marry him. I enjoyed 18 months stay with him and seen half of the world at his expenses. Now I have Green Card and after Divorce and can settle in USA with my BoyFriend.
Please do not tell this to anyone, this is for your personal reference only.
Sorry Mukta, I have to encourage other women, about your efforts.
Sunita
WANTS of IndianWomen [ Demand ]
http://www.indiatalking.com/blog/indianwomen/1440/
We indian women already have some Laws favoring us, still we want more to make Equality among men.
1]. When we marry, husband has to transfer half of the property in our name.
2]. His Parents should not stay with us,husband has to move to seperate new house.
3]. If women is working also, husband should not ask money(her Salary).
4]. Selection of sex and children should be with wife.
5]. Choice of abortion should be with women,if husband force her,he should eb punished with murder charges.
6]. Child sex check should be legalised.
7]. Women should not be get arrested, for whatsoever reason, there should be some man to provoke her to commit such crime, he should be punished instead women.
8]. Man divorce petitions should not be entertained,it should delayed by at least 7 years.
9]. If women file for divorce, it should granted within 6 months giving her all her Expensus / Alimony and free government support.
10].If man is answering any women petitions, his immediatly relatives like parents and sisters should be arrested to make him be present in court.
11].Child custody should be granted to mother only.Father should not be allowed visitation for childs healthy growth.
12].Father should deposit 50,000 Rs in childs name as soon as child birth. 1 lakh if child is girl.
13].Women parents should come and stay with thier daughter as soon as she is get pregnent.
14].Father should sign Child custody papers in his wifes name,as soon as child born to avoid child custody case.
15].In Rape conviction Man sex organ should be cut into half, so in future he will never make same mistake again, and remember it Everyday when he urinate.
16].In marrisage man should give financial guarantee for women, and keep some fix amount in her name.
17].In dowry charges mans all property and assets should be frozen.
18].Husband or his parents should not tell DIL, what to wear or what to do, this will creat tension and problem in family.she has rights to do as she like.
19].Man should equally share domestic work.
20].Wife should get salary if she is housewife.
21].She should have seperate Account.
22].Man should not deny wifes family visitation and he should entertain them.
23].Man should bear expensus of study and marriage if wife has younger bother, sisters.
24].After age of 60 of wifes parents,should be allowed to stay with thier daughter legally.
25].Wife can deny sex or withold without reason.
26].Man never deny or say no to sex, as he is stronger sex.if he deny,thats should be valid reason for divorce.
KILL TWO BIRDS IN ONE STONE
http://www.indiatalking.com/blog/indianwomen/1419/
Two Birds in one Stone.
To all indian girls who are going to marry,you have to safeguard your future
for better life.
Today we have rights in Fathers Property,still it will go to Boys by default.
you have to fight for your rights, After struggle only you will get share in
Property, And you know your Fahters capacity, how much he can pay, if you are
not going to fight for your ancestors property, there is other way.
When you are going to marry, ask your Future husband about your Fathers Capacity
about his money and property, and ask him to demand your share in the name of DOWRY.
Your Father will give without any resistence,as he has to marry off you.
Try to get As much money as possible, because after marriage you will not get anything.
you have to work for your interest only. otherwise all property will go to boys,
and thier wives will enjoy your Father money.
By that, shoot 2 birds in one Attempt.
you will get Father Property, without any struggle.
And
You can trap your husband also.
As Dowry is Prohibited, and he is taken dowry from you, you can harass him life long;
and make him your pet SLAVE.No one will question you saying, you asked him to take Dowry
from your Family, Law always Blame men / Husband for that. Even you misguided him to doom.
This is the Ultimate Secret i revealed so Far, from my WMD.
HOW IS IT MEN;
WE WILL MAKE YOU DOOM SOME DAY. AND WE ALL KNOW YOU ARE DUMB.
WOMEN Rules.
Sunita.
FILING DIVORCE CASES IS OUR RIGHT
http://www.indiatalking.com/blog/indianwomen/1384/
Filing Dowry Case is our Right.
Unless Every women file 498a aganist all men, this dowry ssytem will not go.
so i request all women out there, file dowry case Against your husband, True or false, so then others will understand not to take DOWRY.
http://india.indymedia.org/en/2004/01/208541.shtml
Eliminate Dowry Not Daughters!
By WSF IMC 17/01/2004 At 16:57
'Vimochana' seminar highlights how women are killed/abused and victimised in a consumerism society by the dowry.
The Changing Face of Dowry seminar 17.01.04 WSF Mumbai, 2004.
`Vimochana` Forum for Women's Rights, Bangalore.
Dowry is a demand made in cash/or kind in connection with marriage, before, after or anytime thereafter.
Dowry is not a free and voluntary gift, a token of love, a one time payment.
Dowry is all pervasive, destructive, demanding and damning. Dowry means violence and more violence, physical and mental resulting in dowry murders.
Dowry intensifies with liberalization with consumerism. Commodifying and devaluing the woman, the feminine.
Dowry knows no caste, no religion, no class, no colour, no community.
Domestic violence is known about throughout the world, due to the women's issues becoming more visible in the last 30 years. Yet women are still dying, being killed, commiting suicide and experiencing daily abuses. WHY?
In India this continues due to dowry, used for the rising status of the male, in all classes of society, for example, to further studies, buy a rickshaw. Families with female children need to marry them as young as possible as they are a financial burden in saving for the dowry. Also families are looking to increase the status of their own family through marriage. Women are commodities sold in marriage. In Bombay, Doctors/educated men will come to look for dowries,such as gold/diamonds, put advertisements in the newspapers, 100,s of girls will be introduced to them. This is a quick way to make money. Overall the dowry issue has intensified with consumerism and subsequent greed, being exacerbated and legitimized by the media.
100,s of women are missing, not reported, not acknowledged. Dowry is a noose not a safety net. Once married, women are seen as a parasites and worthless. Many live with in laws and do not see their husbands. Demands occur for monies and if not met from the woman,s families, can result in deaths. Testimonies today have been given from women who have had death threats from their husbands, accounts of accidents ie, being hit by a car in the street is common and experiencing torture such as burning.
This forum looks into female deaths in Bangalore, often reported as cooking accidents, suicides due to a physical complaint, child illness. They go and speak to the people, gathering information.
They believe that different techniques are developing to murder these women such as poisoning.
Marriage is now a violent institution and an economic interaction between two families not based on love and respect.
This seminar calls for a whole movement to develop to campaign for the rights of women to live.
5 Questions a Man should Never ask his Woman
http://www.indiatalking.com/blog/indianwomen/1904/
5 questions a man should never ask his woman - for you never know what she might make of it
Let's face it, women have the ability to read much more into a question than is intended. For instance, a guy asks what the time is, and she hears, "I'm bored, I want to leave, I wonder if this relationship is working for me, I think I may be able to escape in the next few minutes, I wonder what I am doing here?" He wanted to know what the time was, because he needs to call up his client and fix up the meeting for the following day.
So what do the following questions mean to women?
Are you going to take long?
She hears : I am waiting for you outside while you are busy packing the baby's bag, sorting out the dog, wrapping the birthday present, dealing with YOUR mother's phonecall and locking the house. What is taking you so long?
Why does this question irritate women?
This question merely reveals the partner’s complete lack of understanding about what it takes to get ready to go on the road. And this is what makes women angry. Leave it to the man in your life, and you will arrive at the party without a present, without clean nappies for the baby, and, to top it all, a call from your neighbours telling you that your house has been broken into.
Don't you think you should start running again?
She hears : You are getting fat and I think it is because you are not getting enough exercise. Pick up two more kilos and I am out of here.
Why does this question irritate women?
It makes them feel that they are being prescribed to on how they should look, what they should wear in order to be found acceptable. Men just don't understand that many women deal with PMS, baby blues or the difficult boss and bitchy colleagues by eating a second slice of chocolate cake, followed by a cream caramel, rum 'n raisin ice cream and rounded off with a gulab jamun.
What's for dinner?
She hears: Your place is in the kitchen. I don't care if you work a full day like I do, dinner is your responsibility and I am hungry.
Why does this question irritate women?
It makes them feel as if the bulk of the household responsibilities is still theirs, even if they work fulltime or earn more than their husbands. Especially if they shopped for the food, cooked yesterday and did the washing of clothes thrice in the last one week.
What was your previous boyfriend like?
She hears: I don't like the thought of your being with anyone else, even if I didn't know you then. I really want to hear that he was a right royal jerk, useless in bed, couldn't get himself a good job and stay, and was generally disliked by all your family and friends.
Why does this question irritate women?
It makes them feel cornered - previous boyfriends are actually private territory and have nothing to do with present relationships. When women are hesitant to discuss previous relationships, men often react as if they are somehow being excluded and as if the woman has something to hide. We all have secrets and private things about which we do not wish to talk to anyone.
Who was that you were talking to?
She hears: I don't trust you. I don't like you talking to other men. You're mine, mine, mine and don't you forget it. How much did that smile really mean?
Why does this question irritate women?
It makes them feel as if they are being treated like possessions and not human beings. Everyone needs friends and women certainly do not want to sleep with every man they smile at. Heavens, that would even include that ugly 40-year-old doodh-wala who wakes them up every morning.
Mumbai Mirror
Jan 12, 2006
