Goose and Gander, Rues and Gender

Wind In My Hair · Post by **Wind In My Hair** » Fri, 14 Jul 2006 9:25 pm

the men's antics thread made me think about how differently women and men react to many things. the following are tongue in cheek but i do think we interpret the world differently for the most part.

she says: "we need to talk"

she thinks: "it's been a while since we had a heart-to-heart and i want to feel that we are communicating at a deeper level because you are my soulmate and best friends can talk about anything under the sun."

he thinks: "uh oh, i'm in trouble."

she says: "you don't bring me flowers anymore"

she thinks: "i need to know that you think of me often and i don't care if it's flowers or a card or a call from your office or a note on my pillow in the morning. anything that tells me you were thinking of me will make my day. please give me something, anything, even a cheap two-cent candy, which i can hold in my hand and so feel your love for me."

he thinks: "uh oh, i'm in trouble."

she says: "mary's husband just bought her a new convertible"

she thinks: "i know we can't afford a new car and i'm not asking for one but it's hard to sit and listen to mary going on and on about how good her husband is to her. i just need you to do something for me and it doesn't have to be expensive but if i could only tell my friends that you massage my feet at the end of the day or rub my shoulders or anything like that, which doesn't cost a lot but shows that you love me enough to take the trouble to make me happy. anyone can buy a stupid thing like a car, but how i wish i could tell them how much you love me too."

he thinks: "damn mary's husband. now i'm in trouble."

she says: "honey i love you so much"

she thinks: "i can't believe you actually washed the dishes / laid the table / cleared the table / drew the blinds / took out the trash tonight. when you help out around the house i feel that you care about my workload and show me you love me by your actions. and by showing my appreciation i hope you realise how much it means to me and that you will continue to wash the dishes / lay the table / clear the table / draw the blinds / take out the trash in future."

he thinks: "gee, i might get some tonight".

he says: "wanna watch a movie tonight?"

she thinks: "wow, a night out. how romantic. maybe we can have dinner at a nice restaurant before the movie and have a good heart to heart talk. and i'm sure he'll want to hold my hand during the movie and it'll be so nice to feel young and in love again. and who knows, we may even take a walk after the movie and talk about it and what we thought of the story and how we felt when the hero risked his life for his sweetheart. yes, it'll be a great night and he's so thoughtful for wanting to take me out. it's hard for him to say so in so many words but i know he loves me and this is his way of showing it."

he thinks: "wanna watch a movie tonight?"

bushbride · Post by **bushbride** » Fri, 14 Jul 2006 9:31 pm

Wind In My Hair wrote:
he says: "wanna watch a movie tonight?"

she thinks: "wow, a night out. how romantic. maybe we can have dinner at a nice restaurant before the movie and have a good heart to heart talk. and i'm sure he'll want to hold my hand during the movie and it'll be so nice to feel young and in love again. and who knows, we may even take a walk after the movie and talk about it and what we thought of the story and how we felt when the hero risked his life for his sweetheart. yes, it'll be a great night and he's so thoughtful for wanting to take me out. it's hard for him to say so in so many words but i know he loves me and this is his way of showing it."

he thinks: "wanna watch a movie tonight?"

The other option for this is:

He thinks: She will think we are spending quality time together, and I get some peace and quiet. Dude, I am too good!

Post by **sundaymorningstaple** » Fri, 14 Jul 2006 10:30 pm

bushbride wrote:He thinks: She will think we are spending quality time together, and I get some peace and quiet. Dude, I am too good!

Too much thought processes in use there. Won't happen. Now maybe he will "wonder if she'll bring some beer?". That will be the depth of his thinking. Can't spend quality time unless there is automotive grease involved!

Global Citizen · Post by **Global Citizen** » Fri, 14 Jul 2006 11:59 pm

My take on this:

I'm reminded of the nursery rhyme that I learnt when I was a young un.

Goosey, goosey, gander
Whither shall I wander,
Upstairs or downstairs
Or in the ladies chamber?

There I met an old man
Who wouldn't say his prayers,
I took him by the left leg,
And threw him down the stairs.

(sorry WIMH)

Wind In My Hair · Post by **Wind In My Hair** » Sat, 15 Jul 2006 8:03 pm

Global Citizen wrote:(sorry WIMH)

for what? the rhyme was probably in my subconscious when i posted the title. have no idea why the terms goose and gander occured to me so i'm sure there's a freudian explanation.

Global Citizen · Post by **Global Citizen** » Sat, 15 Jul 2006 8:18 pm

Wind In My Hair wrote:
Global Citizen wrote:(sorry WIMH)
for what? the rhyme was probably in my subconscious when i posted the title. have no idea why the terms goose and gander occured to me so i'm sure there's a freudian explanation.

Well, its all good then. The apology was for going off on another tangent.
BUT come to think of it, most nursery rhymes do indeed belie what's actually written.

one843 · Post by **one843** » Mon, 17 Jul 2006 8:28 am

She says: Honey come read this thread on the Singapore expat web site.

She thinks: Maybe he will get the hint and I wont have to beat around the bushes and I will get all this stuff.

He thinks: Damn! Windy is high maintanance!!!!!!!!!!

one843 · Post by **one843** » Mon, 17 Jul 2006 8:30 am

Just jokeing with you Wind in my hair.

Wind In My Hair · Post by **Wind In My Hair** » Mon, 17 Jul 2006 9:30 am

he says: just joking with you.

he thinks: uh oh, if she doesn't get the joke, i'm in trouble.

she thinks: good golly miss molly, he has a sense of humour!

Wind In My Hair · Post by **Wind In My Hair** » Mon, 17 Jul 2006 9:32 am

Wind In My Hair wrote:he says: just joking with you.

he thinks: uh oh, if she doesn't get the joke, i'm in trouble.

she thinks: good golly miss molly, he has a sense of humour!

(good to see your mood improving)

Wind In My Hair · Post by **Wind In My Hair** » Mon, 17 Jul 2006 9:33 am

what happened to the edit button???

i tried to edit and quoted myself instead.

Post by **sundaymorningstaple** » Mon, 17 Jul 2006 9:35 am

Don't know, let's try it and see!

I hit my edit button just know let's see where this ends up.

Edited again to add, looks like you missed and hit the wrong button?

Wind In My Hair · Post by **Wind In My Hair** » Mon, 17 Jul 2006 9:57 am

i'm dumb but not that dumb!

there is no edit button on my screen, nor a delete button when mine is the last post. just a quote button.

Ling2 · Post by **Ling2** » Mon, 17 Jul 2006 2:22 pm

methinks, both gender reads into words too much and choose the wrong type of communication, if both were known to practise honesty, why would one take another's words as a different meaning?

would be great to have someone that totally reads your mind, instead

Ahh...soulmate it is

Taos · Post by **Taos** » Mon, 17 Jul 2006 3:00 pm

hmmn i was begining to wonder about the edit button too...
thought i was imagining it. Is it gone forever?

Wind In My Hair wrote:what happened to the edit button???

i tried to edit and quoted myself instead.

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