Are you talking about the Myers-Briggs personality tests? I am not sure that "critical" is a part of that test, so maybe you're not. But it is worth noting that the Judgemental types are actually very good decision makers (not always a bad thing being judgemental!)Lost wrote:reccently my husband came home with a personality test from one of the top personality profile agency. I did the test and one of my weakness was that I was critical and judgemental. Since the test, my husband has been using those words against me when I questioned his suggestion.. it has been unbearable.
I want to know when does questioning a suggestion becomes critical and judgemental? One example was: he suggested that we drove his parents to cameron highland for a short holiday, my initial reaction upon hearing was: "wow, so far lah... in a car". He of course said, " Why are you so critical! Why cant you say something nice?" I shut up. Was it a wrong reaction? Isnt it true that it is a far drive? How would you react? Tell me please what should I do to prevent being considered critical and judgemental. Dont know what to say anymore!
well said GC. totally agree, and hope i'm aging well too!Global Citizen wrote:It does appear to me that we tend to be at our worst with those we love most; maybe because we want and expect honesty and integrity with those closest and dearest to us. The art of diplomacy is a fine art to be honed but like so many women of today, I tend to speak my mind without enough thought of the consequences. I like to think though that like fine wine, I'm getting better with age though!
Lost dear. Have you thought that you might be letting him make you more critical - critical of yourself!Lost wrote:
In any case, being positive is not a bad thing so will try to listen, be positive and spare myself any future unnecessary confrontation?
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