Right, I've read those two threads you posted links to SMS. Damned if I can make out a clear vision of what happened.
OK, I know you do not wish this to be dredged up, but the only reason I wrote was because I've had my head down these past two weeks and was shocked when I logged on again and found that war had been declared, and the battle was over, and casualties buried.
I can see that quite a few 'someones' took the hump, and ran off. What the hell the original gripe was I'll never know, and who it was with either. (AND... I'm not asking for it to be redredged, as you have asked me to 'let it lie') I will admit to being really interested in what went down.
So...please regs, PM me with the real reasons please!
Apologies, if they are needed, to whoever may take offense at my asking for the nitty gritty details. I am a woman after all, and you know how we like to know the ins and outs of a cat's b.t..m (That was an old saying of my Neini's, so don't shout, pls!!)

Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
Dylan Thomas.