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Postby earthfriendly » Thu, 18 May 2006 10:01 am

Thanks CB, for your very comforting words.

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Postby Cheekybeek » Thu, 18 May 2006 11:35 am

Was just listening to Crowded House Fall at your Feet and this lyric kind of says what I mean to say with regards to laying out your vulnerabilities and offering yourself as a friend:

Ill be waiting when you call

Hey and whenever I fall at your feet
Wont you let your tears rain down on me
Whenever I touch your slow turning pain

The finger of blame has turned upon itself
And Im more than willing to offer myself
Do you want my presence or need my help
Who knows where that might lead
I fall

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Postby serendipity » Thu, 18 May 2006 11:55 am

And on another note, when it comes to make an effort, it takes two at least to tango...

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Postby guruvishwanath » Thu, 18 May 2006 1:01 pm

Aahh! the trials of living away from you own roots and home. After living in Singapore for 10 years, I think I can empathise with serendipity. But as my dear departed mother always said "You are what you fee! ". We live in a very transient society. And I have seen friends come and go but fortunately I have had the very good fortune of making friends whom I can still count on. Maybe we dont talk every day but we make it a point to be in touch on important occasions (birthdays, wedding days, their childrens first poop and pee day etc.). :D

I still have cards that I have recieved when I was a kid. greeting cards, photos, hand written letters (emails started only mid to late 90's) so it was all by hand. At least until 1997 I used to get letters from home. Whenever I feel like a good laugh or trip down memory lane, I just open my little box of treasures and read them to have a good laugh. :-)

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Re: Loneliness

Postby bushbride » Thu, 18 May 2006 1:16 pm

serendipity wrote:'Tis indeed nice to do activities such as socialising in WNDC, FNDC, sports clubs, clubbing together, but I do notice that there are more of surface things in these things with very few chance of making it deeper, or am I asking too much? And what else is it out there anyway?
How do you cope with the feeling of coming home alone in an empty flat, yet you're not sure whom you can dial just to talk in times?


Serendipity. Don't feel alone. The number of concerned posters here show that you have friends. Very considerate and kind friends.

A very wise man once said to me, that friendship does not always need to be deep, meaningful, immediate or about giving everything of yourself. And, good friendships naturally develop over time.

Some of my greatest friends, developed from long term friendships about nothing. These friends are people that I talk only about superficial things with. Like, what is happening in Womens Weekly, and everyday every day stuff. We spend the whole time just being ourselves and joking around.

This is a great friendship. We don't need to discuss things that are pissing us off or or talk about deep and meaningful things. But, when I am feeling a little off colour, just a half hour of joking and talking about nothing with them always puts a smile on my face.

Just enjoy the superficial and naturally you will develop great friendships. Be comfortable knowing that and you will, over time, have long term friends who love you for the unique and interesting person you are. And, don't be afraid to take life a little less seriously sometimes.
- Life is pretty simple: You do some stuff. Most fails. Some works. Da Vinci -

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Postby Kats_ » Thu, 18 May 2006 1:46 pm

tiki wrote:
Things happen and at times two likeminded people meet but if it doesn't happen..


What, serendipity ? ;)

guruvishwanath wrote:At least until 1997 I used to get letters from home. Whenever I feel like a good laugh or trip down memory lane, I just open my little box of treasures and read them to have a good laugh. :-)


Yes, just emails and phone calls ...no more hand written letters and I miss them. I have a treasure box too which contain letters/greeting cards from when I was 12!

...and self-kept journals which I run through once in a year or so. Always brings a smile :)


Serendipity, just a passing phase....a warm hug from me! Now, smile! :)
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