first of all, thanks to the peacemakers CD and SE for getting involved. i do appreciate your efforts at moving the issue along.
i have taken CD's good advice to take time off to think calmly before posting again. i also fear that whatever i write now will only make things worse. still, there is no point leaving this hanging in mid-air now that we have come this far.
locallass wrote:I was pissed off though by one of your comments. What I said was, you can date a hundred guys and still not find one who’s suitable. You came back with, you’re so choosy (which is still fine) and I’m unlike you because I haven’t dated 100 men. Now I didn’t like your superior attitude, that you’re better than me or anyone else (maybe this is the kind of one upmanship you’ve accused me of?). And really, what does it insinuate about me that I’ve dated so many men?
locallass, if this is the root cause of your anger then i apologise profusely. it was meant in jest and i'm learning everyday that misunderstandings can result from humour when the boundaries of decency are crossed and it looks like i crossed that line with you. i am sorry.
this is not meant as a barb or an accusation, just an explanation of where i was coming from. what i remember saying was if i dated a hundred men and can't find a single one that i liked, then i must have pretty high standards. and anyway i don't have the stamina to date a hundred men! it was purely light-hearted, and not meant to insinuate anything about you. i don't know you in 'real' life, and have no idea if you have dated one man, ten men or a hundred, nor is it any of my business. in any case i've had my share of boyfriends and flings and failed relationships and the last thing i would do is rub that in someone else's face.
in fact when you first joined the board i was glad and hoped to have a 'partner in crime' in you, given that on the surface we have many things in common eg we are both single local chinese professional women who feel comfortable with an expat crowd. perhaps though the similarities were the precise cause of friction. i don't know. but i am truly saddened that it has come to this. still, such is life and friends have been made of bitter enemies and i hope that will be the case with us.
locallass wrote:if there's going to be a reconciliation, it has to be a fair one for both sides. That's not too demanding, don't you think?
fairness works for me too. from my perspective it's been pretty fair most of the way:
you feel wrongfully accused. i feel wrongfully accused.
i have expressed my discomfort with your posts. you have expressed your unhappiness with mine.
you have aired your grievances publicly. i have aired mine.
i have apologised...
locallass, despite all that has happened i still have great respect for you, and some goodwill. so let me make another clumsy attempt at reconciliation. firstly, why don't you tell me what you would like me to say that you will find fair and hence agree to reconcile. and secondly, please try to meet me halfway.
does that sound fair enough?
OK?
anyway i'll shut up now before creating any more trouble. 
