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by Bubbles » Sun, 16 Oct 2005 6:08 pm
No of course you didn't Shilo, that is what's good about forums, you get all sorts of replies. Loved Mary's first, it was so funny.
In seriousness, I had one of what now appears to be a lost and forgotten gift in my childhood.....freedom.
These days kids are watched like hawks and I don't think it does them any favours as they can end up unquestioning and soft.
Of course, it is always the correct thing to do to know where your kids are, but if you're always telling them 'No, don't, careful, what time, don't climb, don't cycle, etc' then you're not preparing them for the big real world.
I lived in the Welsh countryside and gangs of us used to be able to go out all day long, build dens, swim rivers, climb trees, have picnics, ride horses, cycle and all those exciting to kids things.
Mum would say, 'What time are you back?' and I'd say 'For my tea' and that'd be that. Yes, it was different as everyone knew whose kids we were, and we knew almost everyone. You could bet your bottom dollar if you got up to no good your mother would know the ins and outs of it before you got back home, as someone would have gone to tell her.
When I tell kids nowadays we were allowed to go for long walks in the forest and take our picnic lunch, then set up a den there, and perhaps swim in the lake, all without parents, they are absolutely amazed. And no, I don't think I'd be that keen if mine had wanted quite as much freedom, but I did try not to be OBVIOUSLY on their case. I got as much info as I could and then prayed they'd be safe. Of course I didn't let them to completely mad stuff, but you have to give them that belief in themselves as capable beings.
I remember studying for my GCSE's with a gang of others and we climbed the mountain till we got to the reservoir at the top, miles from everyone....it was a scorching summer's day and we thought it'd be a great idea to be so far away, and quiet so we'd get studying done..........of course, no such thing as the books were ignored and we spent the day eyeing the boys up and getting chucked in the water. But what fun, what memories, they can't take them away from you, no matter what. And yes, we did ok at school, even though tons of our time was spent at good old fashioned play.
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
Dylan Thomas.