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How happy are you with your life?

Extremely happy! Couldn't ask for a better life!
4
15%
Very happy! Rare rough patches but generally great!
5
19%
Generally happy... life can't be perfect, after all
5
19%
Neither happy nor unhappy.
2
8%
Generally unhappy... I have a good day here and then
5
19%
Very unhappy. Moments of happiness are rare...
1
4%
Extremely unhappy! Wish I had another life!
2
8%
Happiness doesn't matter to me
0
No votes
Other
2
8%
 
Total votes: 26

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Postby Mary Hatch Bailey » Thu, 06 Oct 2005 7:56 am

ksl wrote:
beenhere10years wrote:Not meaning to hijack Kimi, but here's a question I've always found fascinating:

Is happiness a choice?


Interesting thread

My opinion is that happiness is not a choice for the simple fact, that our chemistry is tarnished by the environmental toxins, that we do not see, but breathe in on a daily basis.

One can strive for happiness and never attain it, becuase of chemical imbalance within the brain, most people live with it, have good days and bad days. those effected more than others, have no choice, every day is a bad day, all they strive for is to get back to normal, and poping pills may help, but never cures.

Some actually check out in there teens or whenever, the fact remains we don't always have a choice. Pesticides, Organic phosphorus and many other man made commerical toxins have a direct effect on our swings & roundabouts.

seriously there are more factors involved that wipe out choice for many people, but that is only my opinion of what i see around me. It is a simplistic view to say we have a choice, just like saying we are all humans. many humans have defects which eliminate choice.l


Simplistic, yes. But wrong?

I believe that most of the time happiness is a choice. With the exception of catastrophic circumstances, you can choose the way you react to your surroundings.

What about the old cliche about people with Downs Syndrome always being so happy? Are they defective or fortunate?

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Postby Wind In My Hair » Thu, 06 Oct 2005 8:07 am

Mary Hatch Bailey wrote:I believe that most of the time happiness is a choice. With the exception of catastrophic circumstances, you can choose the way you react to your surroundings.

couldn't agree more.

btw welcome to the forum Mary!

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Postby Mary Hatch Bailey » Thu, 06 Oct 2005 8:21 am

Wind In My Hair wrote:
Mary Hatch Bailey wrote:I believe that most of the time happiness is a choice. With the exception of catastrophic circumstances, you can choose the way you react to your surroundings.

couldn't agree more.

btw welcome to the forum Mary!


Hey WIMH. No need to bake a banana bread -- it's me BH10Y. Still test driving. I think I like this one the best.

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Postby dot dot dot » Thu, 06 Oct 2005 8:24 am

Mary Hatch Bailey wrote:
Wind In My Hair wrote:
Mary Hatch Bailey wrote:I believe that most of the time happiness is a choice. With the exception of catastrophic circumstances, you can choose the way you react to your surroundings.

couldn't agree more.

btw welcome to the forum Mary!


Hey WIMH. No need to bake a banana bread -- it's me BH10Y. Still test driving. I think I like this one the best.


You're not suffering from MPS I hope? :cry:

Eric

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Postby Wind In My Hair » Thu, 06 Oct 2005 8:35 am

Mary Hatch Bailey wrote:Hey WIMH. No need to bake a banana bread -- it's me BH10Y. Still test driving. I think I like this one the best.

omigosh, you make me por ol head spin... :???:

how many other nics and tars you trying? now i'll think every newcomer to the site is you! 8-[

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Postby Mary Hatch Bailey » Thu, 06 Oct 2005 8:49 am

Eric from the Netherlands wrote:
Mary Hatch Bailey wrote:
Wind In My Hair wrote:
Mary Hatch Bailey wrote:I believe that most of the time happiness is a choice. With the exception of catastrophic circumstances, you can choose the way you react to your surroundings.

couldn't agree more.

btw welcome to the forum Mary!


Hey WIMH. No need to bake a banana bread -- it's me BH10Y. Still test driving. I think I like this one the best.


You're not suffering from MPS I hope? :cry:

Eric


No, no. No Sybil here.

I think I'll stick with this one. :)

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Postby Saint » Thu, 06 Oct 2005 8:57 am

All is forgiven on my part BH10Y or is it Vicroy, Iota or Mary :?

Hope this doesn't catch on as we could end up seeing Horace from holland on here soon!

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Postby babykasim » Thu, 06 Oct 2005 9:19 am

Very Happy!

I guess each person has their own definition of happiness.
For me happiness means being surrounded by families and friends.
Furthermore, I was perfectly fine - I'm not blind, deaf or mute..

Of course there's some pitfalls as well in life but I look at it as a valuable lesson and try not to repeat the same mistakes - that's why I chose Very Happy instead of Extremely Happy. :D

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Postby dot dot dot » Thu, 06 Oct 2005 9:21 am

Mary Hatch Bailey wrote:
Eric from the Netherlands wrote:
Mary Hatch Bailey wrote:
Wind In My Hair wrote:
Mary Hatch Bailey wrote:I believe that most of the time happiness is a choice. With the exception of catastrophic circumstances, you can choose the way you react to your surroundings.

couldn't agree more.

btw welcome to the forum Mary!


Hey WIMH. No need to bake a banana bread -- it's me BH10Y. Still test driving. I think I like this one the best.


You're not suffering from MPS I hope? :cry:

Eric


No, no. No Sybil here.

I think I'll stick with this one. :)


I quite like 'La Viceroy' though...

Mary sounds to 'holy' imho.

Eric

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Postby Mary Hatch Bailey » Thu, 06 Oct 2005 9:34 am

OK, special dispensation for Eric. You may call me La Viceroy. Or should it be la Vicereinne? :)

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Postby dot dot dot » Thu, 06 Oct 2005 10:29 am

You got it again of course. 'La' is of course French and feminine, so it should be 'reinne' instead of 'roy'.

And then of course you being so special:
A couple of years ago I had to travel quite a few times to the San Francisco area (silicon valley of course) for work. One of my then clients was this stylish Czech American beautyqueen, every meeting with her was a precious gift from God to me. She often took me out for dinners and tours around (poor lonely Dutchman on his own in USA) the area. One time she had bought herself a new car, a Saab convertible. Nice car indeed. And she always referred to it as "La" Car.

I then found out through her that it was the latest trend for calling that was is supposed to be special 'La' or 'Le'.

I have decided to start calling you 'La Reinne'. (Loraine?)

Let's face it, you wouldnot opt for 'vice' president, right? :D

Eric

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Postby Mary Hatch Bailey » Thu, 06 Oct 2005 10:58 am

Eric from the Netherlands wrote:You got it again of course. 'La' is of course French and feminine, so it should be 'reinne' instead of 'roy'.

And then of course you being so special:
A couple of years ago I had to travel quite a few times to the San Francisco area (silicon valley of course) for work. One of my then clients was this stylish Czech American beautyqueen, every meeting with her was a precious gift from God to me. She often took me out for dinners and tours around (poor lonely Dutchman on his own in USA) the area. One time she had bought herself a new car, a Saab convertible. Nice car indeed. And she always referred to it as "La" Car.

I then found out through her that it was the latest trend for calling that was is supposed to be special 'La' or 'Le'.

I have decided to start calling you 'La Reinne'. (Loraine?)

Let's face it, you wouldnot opt for 'vice' president, right? :D

Eric


Hey listen. I'll take it as a compliment either way. I'm sure Vaucluse and CD will lecture us ad nauseum but in their absence we can butcher the language all we want. Vice president? Nah.. Vice squad? Now that's more like it! :wink:

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Postby sapphire » Thu, 06 Oct 2005 12:22 pm

Ok, what's up with you? Getting restless? I had quite liked the Viceroy nick as well, had more 'tude to it, this one is kind of wishy-washy. :P

Besides, which one to pm you on now? Sheesh, you make it so difficult!
It's not getting any smarter out there. You have to come to terms with stupidity, and make it work for you.

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Postby ksl » Thu, 06 Oct 2005 3:41 pm

Mary Hatch Bailey wrote:
ksl wrote:
beenhere10years wrote:Not meaning to hijack Kimi, but here's a question I've always found fascinating:

Is happiness a choice?


Interesting thread

My opinion is that happiness is not a choice for the simple fact, that our chemistry is tarnished by the environmental toxins, that we do not see, but breathe in on a daily basis.

One can strive for happiness and never attain it, becuase of chemical imbalance within the brain, most people live with it, have good days and bad days. those effected more than others, have no choice, every day is a bad day, all they strive for is to get back to normal, and poping pills may help, but never cures.

Some actually check out in there teens or whenever, the fact remains we don't always have a choice. Pesticides, Organic phosphorus and many other man made commerical toxins have a direct effect on our swings & roundabouts.

seriously there are more factors involved that wipe out choice for many people, but that is only my opinion of what i see around me. It is a simplistic view to say we have a choice, just like saying we are all humans. many humans have defects which eliminate choice.l


Simplistic, yes. But wrong?

I believe that most of the time happiness is a choice. With the exception of catastrophic circumstances, you can choose the way you react to your surroundings.

What about the old cliche about people with Downs Syndrome always being so happy? Are they defective or fortunate?
Simplistic, yes. But wrong?

I believe that most of the time happiness is a choice. With the exception of catastrophic circumstances, you can choose the way you react to your surroundings.

What about the old cliche about people with Downs Syndrome always being so happy? Are they defective or fortunate?[/


Hello Mary! I just personally believe that the majority would strive for happiness, without even thinking about it.

Looking at the poll we see 10 out of 18 picking the top three questions if it where in the 1000's we may get a better idea of whats going on, but i still believe that if choice was an option, the majority would go for it.

Governments and organised life styles, rules, laws don't give much choice, to be happy, besides all the man made crap, that we eat, breathe and smell.

It's my belief that commericialism rules, and most unethical practices are tried to attain, financial success. we are but soldier ants, slaves of the ruling parties and the guinea pigs of the 21st century.

Happiness is a thought process, a natural positive and negative procedure, of balance in ones life, so generally speaking we should have a poll, that should suggest this.

I am optimistic that a poll would produce the balance of positive and negative, but if it did, it would at least prove, that the majority do not have a choice.

Actually it is quite a strange thing to consider, if we were all happy people, what would the outcome be? I'm not convinced we have a choice, but i am convinced that all people strive to be happy, without even thinking about it.

Happieness should be a well balanced evaluation, with errors for adjustment. but for choice to come into it, the figures must be at least over 50% right. Interesting!

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Postby Mary Hatch Bailey » Thu, 06 Oct 2005 4:13 pm

sapphire wrote:Ok, what's up with you? Getting restless? I had quite liked the Viceroy nick as well, had more 'tude to it, this one is kind of wishy-washy. :P

Besides, which one to pm you on now? Sheesh, you make it so difficult!


I'm going to stick to Mary Hatch Bailey for a while. I'm a sentimental sap after all & I love that move so, so much. Still such an important message, 60 years later.


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