about to have an afffair with a married man

spice · Post by **spice** » Tue, 20 Sep 2005 5:00 pm

Just wanted to say its hard being on the single side of things and its hard to find someone that doesn't have some kind of baggage. You say there are more fish in the sea but most of them are either mutated or eaten.I hate the single scene. spice

Vaucluse · Post by **Vaucluse** » Tue, 20 Sep 2005 9:15 pm

spice wrote:Just wanted to say its hard being on the single side of things and its hard to find someone that doesn't have some kind of baggage. You say there are more fish in the sea but most of them are either mutated or eaten.I hate the single scene. spice

You have not been single long, though, have you? And as for baggage, luckily you have none.

Oh, I almost forgot your last post about having it off with a married best friend.

spice · Post by **spice** » Wed, 21 Sep 2005 7:03 am

No I haven't been single for very long, and what I've encountered so far is scary. I was married for 25 years, and whats out there now is strange. I don't have very many friends so I guess thats why I am still typing. Its hard to find any one to confide in. Also I'm really new to computers too.I'm sorry that I made evey one think I was cruel and heartless human being

(Thanks for the advice.) Of all the places to talk to someone Singapore, WOW. spice

Vaucluse · Post by **Vaucluse** » Wed, 21 Sep 2005 9:26 am

Which begs the question - why Singapore . . . ?

denise2 · Post by **denise2** » Wed, 21 Sep 2005 9:48 am

Sounds like the married man is a creep, trying to take advantage of your emotional state to get sex.

Vaucluse · Post by **Vaucluse** » Wed, 21 Sep 2005 11:55 am

denise2 wrote:Sounds like the married man is a creep, trying to take advantage of your emotional state to get sex.

Yup, exactly what Spice wants to hear - she is the victim. I've heard that victims want to have affairs with married men . . .

spice · Post by **spice** » Wed, 21 Sep 2005 1:23 pm

Why Singapore? Don't really know? Typed in a certain thing on Google and it popped up.Why are you saying I'm the victim and want to have an affair?Ithought I already cleared that up,that I CHANGED my mind.So on another note Hows the weather there. What i've read so far, its a pretty nice place.Again I thankyou for the advice.spice

Vaucluse · Post by **Vaucluse** » Wed, 21 Sep 2005 3:13 pm

Spice -being Canadian you will understand celsius.

Average temperature virtually every day of the year is 30-32 during the day. Humidity is extremely high, Singapor is almost smack on the equator.

This forum comprises locals and expats - generally foreign workers (Americans, Europeans, Aussies, otehr Asians . . .) who come here for a few years on secondment. Others stay much longer.

So, why Singapore Expats - you can't simply google without the words singapore and exptas to get here . . .

riversandlakes · Post by **riversandlakes** » Wed, 21 Sep 2005 6:02 pm

The question is, "do you think he loves you because of anything but sexual in nature?"

sex is a manifestation of love; it's not love in itself, hence why such a need to cheat on his wife?

You were a devout Christian? Say all hell broke loose; how did you end up forgetting "Do unto others as you would have done unto yourself."
If your husband didn't die of cancer, what would you feel of him sourcing up another woman (whose husband just passed away due to cancer)?

"Do unto others as you would have done unto yourself."

btw, may i suggest www.ojar.com if you were serious about getting help from a support group...

spice wrote:Vaucluse, Ihave never thought of my best friend in any sexual way in the past .Ieven tried to dis courage it.He was like a brother to me.He's the one who made all the moves .We have so much in common and are comfortable with each other and I guess somehow passion and emotions got in the way.Wasn't my intentions to try to cause any problems. But like I said Ihave these feeling for him now and don't know how to just shut them off.Of course I have feelings about his wife and feel bad about this situation.I am not a tramp or a sleeze . Iam really a caring person, that really shouldn't of got involved. But you see I think I love him not because of anything sexual ,cause that has not even happened yet. I really don't know what to do. Iam torn. spice

riversandlakes · Post by **riversandlakes** » Wed, 21 Sep 2005 6:13 pm

Is the kettle calling the pot black? Having an affair with a married man is not "mutated"?

spice wrote:most of them are either mutated or eaten.

spice · Post by **spice** » Wed, 21 Sep 2005 7:55 pm

Actually I typed in about affairs and forums and up popped this one , I thought it was strange why a singapore forum? By the the way I love hot weather. Don't seem to get enough of it here in Canada.BY THE WAY THE AFFAIR IS OFF...... If anyone feels that I shouldn't be on this forum tell me.Ithink its pretty

I'm glad I found this forum otherwise I would have made a big mistake. THANKS..... spice

spice · Post by **spice** » Wed, 21 Sep 2005 8:02 pm

By the way I didn't say having an affair with a married man was mutated.I said most men you meet today are

. There is always something wrong with them married ,gay or something. spice

shirllin · Post by **shirllin** » Wed, 21 Sep 2005 11:49 pm

Dear Spice,

Glad that the affair is off...

God Bless,
Shirllin

riversandlakes · Post by **riversandlakes** » Thu, 22 Sep 2005 1:40 am

Well, my question wasn't accusing if you thought having an affair was non-mutated. That was sarcasm; I was "asking" if you thought having an affair with a MARRIED man was NOT ALREADY considered mutated

Okay, perhaps I need to work more on my sarcasm

Imnho, it IS mutated, for "most" of the men you are accusing of being so, and then so finely rolling your eyes on.

I think you have some serious issues; since when is being married equate "something wrong"? Was it simply because you were not supposed to sleep with him that you felt there was something wrong with the society' rules of decent engagement?

spice, be careful where you tread. Freewill comes with the burden of consequences.

spice wrote:By the way I didn't say having an affair with a married man was mutated.I said most men you meet today are . There is always something wrong with them married ,gay or something. spice

spice · Post by **spice** » Thu, 22 Sep 2005 2:57 am

Sorry that isn't what I mean, Oh NO what did I say now. Marriage is a wonderful thing from GOD. Iwas gettiing at married men that want to have affairs. Theres a lot out there every where you turn around, even where I work.Society has changed alot more than I've realized. There are few good men out there today.Don't get me wrong marriage is awonderful thing,why else would Ihave been faithful all these years. Just made a mistake and regret it

Will you ever let me live this down?Surely GOD is forgiving and when asked it is wiped clean. spice

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