Relationship Problem

[confusing]

I can't forget what she had done to me... i can forgive my husband but not that bitch i wan revenge... i wan the world to know who she is..... I found out his affair in Feb'05. by the sms she sent to my hubby & was kept in the folder describing what they have done in bed from A-Z. she paster him for a few mth by calling my house. untill finally we went to her house and confront her parents that's when it ended.

I managed to find her profile in friendster, her friends sympathised her, be'coz she got bully by a bastard, isn't she's a bitch too to be with a married man, and send those disgusting sms?
She's an Acct from ?? Poly (xx yrs old) stays in Jurong....(is this how girls/woman nowsaday >>>>>> shameless)

I really can't forget those dirty sms.... till today i still having nitemare....

[dot dot dot]

so does this help you?

Eric

[Strong Eagle]

Don't let the world know who she is on this forum or your thread will be deleted.

[briceloh]

this isn't going to help.focus more on repairing what went wrong between you and your partner.

[Vaucluse]

....(is this how girls/woman nowsaday >>>>>> shameless)

How about your hubby, he seems to be getting off lightly considering he is the one that cheated on you . . . get a grip, be real and channel your blame in the correct area and most important of all:

Please don't post this crap here! Do we know ths is authentic or are you just out to crucify someone and think a public forum is the best way to do this.

I would call on the administrators to block you from posting. (If your grievance is real then I still don't want to know your nemesis' details - keep it in your support group or get in touch with 'OUT' so you can both commiserate with one another)

Have a nice week-end

[Wind In My Hair]

dear confusing,

i can imagine what hell you went through. i caught an ex with his pants down before with another woman and the shock and disgust is quite physical... like poisoned blood running through your veins... and yes the mental image keeps coming back for a long time, so you can't forget the betrayal even if you want to.

could i just offer this comment though: your hatred is not hurting her in the least. it is hurting you, and possibly your marriage and kids. it's much much harder to do than to say i know, but you must forgive, for your own sake.

"until you are able to call your enemy your friend, a jail door is closed and a prisoner is taken. but when you open the door and release your foe from your hatred, then the prisoner is released and that prisoner is you." - max lucado

and please do not post her name here. not only will the moderators delete the post/thread, your action will say nothing about her, but say a lot about you. you cannot change what happened, but you can decide how to react to it.. you can decide what kind of person you will be.

[riversandlakes]

go to www.ojar.com

i'm also R&L there, and people are VERY helpful. not here with expats, please...

if there's anyone to blame it's the cheater, not the one he/she cheats with.

[Bubbles]

The best revenge is to get on with your life successfully and ignore the bastard!!!!

So I hear!!!!!!!!!!!!lol

[Bubbles]

That goes for the alleycat bitch too, of course.

OK, I'll shut up now.

Oh, it's good to be back, you'll be fed up with me by tonight. I have tons of things to chat about.

Bubbs.x

[Vaucluse]

go to www.ojar.com

i'm also R&L there, and people are VERY helpful. not here with expats, please...

if there's anyone to blame it's the cheater, not the one he/she cheats with.

So it's expats that are not helpful - yet you come to the same conclusion as I did - it's the husband that screwed around on her.

Why do you condone what she is doing? She clearly has a vendetta on this woman and you don't know why, but call expats unhelpful . . .

[Wind In My Hair]

go to www.ojar.com

i'm also R&L there, and people are VERY helpful. not here with expats, please...

if there's anyone to blame it's the cheater, not the one he/she cheats with.

So it's expats that are not helpful - yet you come to the same conclusion as I did - it's the husband that screwed around on her.

Why do you condone what she is doing? She clearly has a vendetta on this woman and you don't know why, but call expats unhelpful . . .

perhaps unsympathetic is a better word. come on guys, give the woman a break. can't you tell when someone is hurting?

[sapphire]

keep it in your support group or get in touch with 'OUT' so you can both commiserate with one another)

Lol, that bit was precious! No mercy Vaucluse! You kill me!

[Vaucluse]

keep it in your support group or get in touch with 'OUT' so you can both commiserate with one another)

Lol, that bit was precious! No mercy Vaucluse! You kill me!

I try to be helpful as well as honest.


(Possibly a different photo of me would be appropriate at this stage)


Damn, it's on the other laptop . . .


And WIMH, yes she might be hurting and she may be bullshiting - and putting someoen's name, work etc . . . is NOT on, doesn't matter how you slice it or dice it.

Where is 'OUT' now we need him?!

[riversandlakes]

nonono, didn't mean it that way. i meant to say she can't get the support she needs from this kind of forum. it's not a breakup/divorce forum...

www.ojar.com is. 2000+ members and dozens of newcomers (sad) every day.

i was there for 6 months.

go to www.ojar.com

i'm also R&L there, and people are VERY helpful. not here with expats, please...

if there's anyone to blame it's the cheater, not the one he/she cheats with.

So it's expats that are not helpful - yet you come to the same conclusion as I did - it's the husband that screwed around on her.

Why do you condone what she is doing? She clearly has a vendetta on this woman and you don't know why, but call expats unhelpful . . .

[Vaucluse]

Oh. Sorry.