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Postby xiaoyun » Tue, 03 Apr 2012 5:16 pm

What's the most common timeframe they take to decide the outcome? Waiting for it is really a torture

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Postby dodrio » Tue, 03 Apr 2012 5:22 pm

sundaymorningstaple wrote:With ICA/MOM, the situation you find yourself in, is your doing. They really don't care about that, but care more about ensuring you can support her. For them, love doesn't enter into the equation.



Thanks for the reply so conclusion is there is really no chance of me passing through this time though?

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Postby Mad Scientist » Tue, 03 Apr 2012 5:26 pm

xiaoyun wrote:What's the most common timeframe they take to decide the outcome? Waiting for it is really a torture

Take your pick. It can from one day to one month.
Your chance 50-50
The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible.Yahoo !!!

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Postby dodrio » Tue, 03 Apr 2012 5:39 pm

Mad Scientist wrote:
xiaoyun wrote:What's the most common timeframe they take to decide the outcome? Waiting for it is really a torture

Take your pick. It can from one day to one month.
Your chance 50-50


Hi Mad Scientist,

Based on this rate, for my case it'll be a definite 0?

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Postby Mad Scientist » Tue, 03 Apr 2012 6:23 pm

dodrio wrote:
Mad Scientist wrote:
xiaoyun wrote:What's the most common timeframe they take to decide the outcome? Waiting for it is really a torture

Take your pick. It can from one day to one month.
Your chance 50-50


Hi Mad Scientist,

Based on this rate, for my case it'll be a definite 0?

Regards,
Dodrio


You want my bare skin truth. ? ??

Here it is.........you are so young just of out of NS. There are more to life then committing yourself to marriage
Marriage is all fun for the first few years before both of you have kids. That's where the problems begin. You need money almost all in your life to support your wife, kids etc..
Take it slow. Do not jump into something just because of love. LOVE IS BLIND AND IT CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY OR DESTROY YOU !!
If your gf is local then at least it solve some issues but now she is a foreigner worse of all PRC.
You do not know what you are getting into. Trust me. Do not make mistakes just because love.
Even if MOM approves your application, what lies ahead for both of you , I cannot even dare to contemplate
But seriously from zero to 10 on your application, minus 5
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Postby dodrio » Tue, 03 Apr 2012 6:31 pm

Mad Scientist wrote:
dodrio wrote:
Mad Scientist wrote:
xiaoyun wrote:What's the most common timeframe they take to decide the outcome? Waiting for it is really a torture

Take your pick. It can from one day to one month.
Your chance 50-50


Hi Mad Scientist,

Based on this rate, for my case it'll be a definite 0?

Regards,
Dodrio


You want my bare skin truth. ? ??

Here it is.........you are so young just of out of NS. There are more to life then committing yourself to marriage
Marriage is all fun for the first few years before both of you have kids. That's where the problems begin. You need money almost all in your life to support your wife, kids etc..
Take it slow. Do not jump into something just because of love. LOVE IS BLIND AND IT CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY OR DESTROY YOU !!
If your gf is local then at least it solve some issues but now she is a foreigner worse of all PRC.
You do not know what you are getting into. Trust me. Do not make mistakes just because love.
Even if MOM approves your application, what lies ahead for both of you , I cannot even dare to contemplate
But seriously from zero to 10 on your application, minus 5


Hi Mad Scientist,

Thanks for the reply, yes I agree about what might happen in the future no one can contemplate. What I believe is this relationship which I have had been in for the past years she never gave up on me which is why I am ready to commit as it is not the matter of age now, yes many may think that i am being rash on my decisions but believe me or not i have already thought through alot on this before i have even decided to research on how to go about doing all this inprocess before RoM. Since the chances are as low as that I don't think I will be able to make it through this time.

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Dodrio

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Postby JR8 » Tue, 03 Apr 2012 8:36 pm

sundaymorningstaple wrote: For them, love doesn't enter into the equation.


Nor does it in marriages of convenience. 'She' gets to stay in Singapore, 'He' gets to form a family unit and hence qualifies to buy HDB. Double convenience, and MoM know it...

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Postby Mi Amigo » Tue, 03 Apr 2012 8:43 pm

xiaoyun wrote:I am feeling really miserable now after reading so many negative comments in this thread.

The comments are not intentionally meant to be negative, but they are intended to be realistic. If you just want people to tell you not to worry because everything will be OK (regardless of the circumstances) then I'm afraid you've come to the wrong place. MS, SMS and all the regulars on here will tell it like it is, which in the end will be far more helpful that syrupy platitudes that are not based on any facts or evidence.

Hard I know, but you pays your money and you takes your choice. Well, actually you don't have to pay any money - the advice here is all free, but no less valuable for that.
Be careful what you wish for

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Postby JR8 » Tue, 03 Apr 2012 8:44 pm

dodrio wrote:Since the chances are as low as that I don't think I will be able to make it through this time.
Regards,
Dodrio


Why not move to China - end of problem - or don't you love each other quite that much?

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Tue, 03 Apr 2012 9:33 pm

JR8,

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Postby JR8 » Tue, 03 Apr 2012 9:35 pm

Who me? :oops:


lol

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Postby dodrio » Wed, 04 Apr 2012 9:59 am

JR8 wrote:
dodrio wrote:Since the chances are as low as that I don't think I will be able to make it through this time.
Regards,
Dodrio


Why not move to China - end of problem - or don't you love each other quite that much?


If that was the initial idea I wouldn't even thought of going through so much now, what i thought of was my area of work i dont think i will grow much in career there than in Singapore.

Which is why I chose to stay in Singapore if not I would have migrated else where and not serve nS in the first place lol

If people were to all think like that I think Singapore's population would have decreased by a fraction by now.

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Postby JR8 » Wed, 04 Apr 2012 3:53 pm

I didn't mean leave and never come back. I meant get married and then go and spend say 3 years there. I don't think your marriage would look like one of convenience after that time. It might on your return make getting your wife residency in SG a heck of a lot easier.

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Postby Mad Scientist » Wed, 04 Apr 2012 6:40 pm

dodrio wrote:
JR8 wrote:
If that was the initial idea I wouldn't even thought of going through so much now, what i thought of was my area of work i dont think i will grow much in career there than in Singapore.

Which is why I chose to stay in Singapore if not I would have migrated else where and not serve nS in the first place lol

If people were to all think like that I think Singapore's population would have decreased by a fraction by now.

Regards,
Dodrio


Your idea ain't gonna happen coz you have to leave SG before 13 years of age before you can be considered not liable. That procedure is worse that marrying your gf. Trust me, you would not want to know.
If marrying your gf is a bogged down issue, skipping NS is a minefield on its own.
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Postby dodrio » Mon, 16 Apr 2012 10:28 am

Hi all experts, so to say in conclusion now my chances to get approval is near 0 for my case as of now? Is there anyway I can increase the chances for now?


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