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Postby Shilo2010 » Fri, 05 Aug 2005 9:23 am

:shock:
.Everyone masturbates.
Not everyone talks about it.
The best advice I have read so far is seek professional help.
This post is exhibitionism at its most blatant.
If any of you think for one minute that this post was not composed for the purposes of self gratification in the first place your having yourself on.

Masturbate, go crazy buddy, everybody does but your over thirty years old.
Is this really the kind of man you want to be ?
Creepy ?
No wonder your not married

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Postby Strong Eagle » Fri, 05 Aug 2005 10:06 am

It's an honest man who will truthfully tell you how many times a week he masturbates.

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Postby Wanker » Fri, 05 Aug 2005 6:02 pm

Once a day ain't that much when you haven't a girlfriend or wife. When I was out of work for a period, I was wanking 3-4 times a day easy.

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Postby Shilo2010 » Fri, 05 Aug 2005 10:32 pm

I think the modern issue is not so much how often we masturbate, its how far we need to push the limits to get off. As more and more pornography becomes available, sex more acceptable, we can become saturated. What was once risqué becomes normal then bland. People, particularly men, are forced to push the boundaries further and further in order to get a "thrill".
I think most men are effected by this.
The social implications of this are many.
I attribute the rise in sexual crimes to this

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Fri, 05 Aug 2005 11:40 pm

Shilo2010 wrote:I think the modern issue is not so much how often we masturbate, its how far we need to push the limits to get off. As more and more pornography becomes available, sex more acceptable, we can become saturated. What was once risqué becomes normal then bland. People, particularly men, are forced to push the boundaries further and further in order to get a "thrill".
I think most men are effected by this. The social implications of this are many.
I attribute the rise in sexual crimes to this


I would tend to disagree. I mean why not masturbate. The health benefits have been noted (although not all agree). This I have posted before.

I would rather men & women masturbate rather than go out & rape others. Frankly, even at my age and background, I have never found a need to push any boundries and I doubt that all except the weakest and those already with a bent in that direction will need heavier & heavier doses as it were. While it is a natural high, it isn't a controlled drug except as noted already by those with a natural bent anyway.

The rise in sexual crimes? I doubt if masturbation or porn have as much to do with it as is suspected. I don't deny the possibility, but I think it has more to do with economics, drugs, opportunity and the fact that more people today are willing to come forward with the fact that they are victims. I think that there are better support groups today as well. Those people molested by various christian Clergymen 20 or more years ago are a good case in point. Same with rape victims, today society is less inclined to judge the victim (as asking for it) as they were 30 or 40 years ago.

Just my thoughts.

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Postby Shilo2010 » Sat, 06 Aug 2005 2:15 am

I stand by my comment but found your remark "the fact that more people today are willing to come forward with the fact that they are victims." very insightful.
Its quite true and I had not thought of it before.
Good point.

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Postby onan_the_dragon » Tue, 09 Aug 2005 1:29 am

i was flying around this forum, and suddenly my eyes went CHOPPED on this interesting topic. lucky eh..

k this is the psychotic kind of life i have: whenever i feel like masturbating, i'll open my underwear closet, and start taking out a tight one and put it on. i don't why, it somehow ignites a feeling, and after a while i'll go wax the pole. only a certain brief will have that comfortable effect. not to mention those skinny tight jeans sticking on girls' butts, but too bad ours are on the front. :roll:

and the only way from staying away from such *taboo*, is to go commando wherever i go, if not wherever i go, i'll go get the glue out.

try hanging it free, it might work. ventilation friendly.

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Postby Plavt » Tue, 09 Aug 2005 2:31 am

Shilo, I would not want to insult your intelligence but could I suggest the book 'Manwatching: Field Guide to Human Behaviour' by Desond Morris. When I read the original some years ago he included a chapter on rape. His view is; that sex is rarely the reason for rape. Whether or not one agrees with his views is another matter but I do agree The Internet allows people such as pornographers to get ever more sordid and allows those of a perverse nature to indulge their fantasies more easily.

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Postby Plavt » Tue, 09 Aug 2005 2:42 am

Sms, you are quite right when you say victims of rape are more likely to come forward these days. When I was a teenager the Police in the UK were very unhelpful to women who reported rape. However, over time with better training and understanding of what goes on in society attitudes have changed. However, women are still at a loss in a good many countries which I will refrain from naming. Like yourself I do not think masturbation or porn have much to do with rape.

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Postby Olly » Tue, 09 Aug 2005 4:18 pm

Interesting that the thread before this one (could have changed by the time you read this, of course) is 'Great Hobby'.

Dear Mrs Palm and your five lovely daughters... Anybody else a fan of Ivor Biggun (Doc Cox)?

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Postby Guest » Tue, 09 Aug 2005 6:41 pm

Ok.
I think perhaps I failed to make my point as clear as I could have and will try and do so now.
I understand all the points made and agree.
I did not really want to go here but my hand's been forced (pun intended).
As a normal male of the species, of course I masturbate.
I love to masturbate.
Some months I can’t keep my hands off myself.
I also enjoy pornography and have a highly active imagination.
I see nothing wrong with masturbation of itself.
Its healthy, its fun, and it hurts no body.
I make this point to demonstrate that I do not base my opinion on some high moral ground. The issue I raised was more a social one, not directly connected to masturbation as an act, in and unto itself.
I base my assessment upon personnel experience and my own thoughts rather than Freud or Yung, both of whom I have read and have some understanding of.
Speaking for myself, I have noticed the degree of pornography I require and the extent my mind needs to wonder in order to get myself aroused has increased dramatically over the years. I find myself needing to look at images and think about things that just a few years ago would never have entered my mind. My sexual threshold has progressively been pushed further and further back.
I attribute this to the relaxation of social strictures and societies gradual acceptance of pornography. What was pushing the envelope fifteen years ago is now common place. What was highly erotic in 1985 today is dull is by comparison. We have been over saturated with the array of pornographic material available.
I like to think I’m pretty well adjusted (all things considered) and understand that what goes on in my head in the heights of ecstasy is fine but should not lightly be brought to fruition. I think many of us have learned this lesson the hard way at one time in our life’s.
My concerns are that not everybody is able to make these judgments I believe some men (and to a lesser degree women) , if entertaining fantasies half as wild as mine can become obsessed with their fantasies and become unable to draw this line. I simply say there is a danger here. I never once stated it was the only reason, or that other reasons are not just as valid or even more valid. Like all social issues it is a complex and multi faceted.

I do believe that the availability of such a wide and easily accessible array of pornography in our society does in fact contribute to an increase in sexual crimes.
Im also pro pornography……go figure.

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Postby Shilo2010 » Tue, 09 Aug 2005 6:48 pm

Sorry, that was me.
:)

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Postby Guest » Wed, 10 Aug 2005 4:30 am

I'm still not being clear.
Sorry.
Knew I should have left the whole masturbation topic alone.

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Postby Guest » Wed, 10 Aug 2005 8:28 am

Plavt wrote:Shilo, I would not want to insult your intelligence but could I suggest the book 'Manwatching: Field Guide to Human Behaviour' by Desond Morris. When I read the original some years ago he included a chapter on rape. His view is; that sex is rarely the reason for rape. Whether or not one agrees with his views is another matter but I do agree The Internet allows people such as pornographers to get ever more sordid and allows those of a perverse nature to indulge their fantasies more easily.


true, sex IS rarely the reason for rape- its a mental thing- and a whole range of emotions come into play such as repressed anger, control, fear just a whole can of worms... nothing to do with wanting to release a sexual urge-its whats going on in the head

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Postby Guest » Wed, 10 Aug 2005 8:56 am

Did I mention rape ?


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