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Drinking problem
Drinking problem
Can someone advice me please?
I have a drink problem and I am looking for some positive feed back on how and where to get help? My problem started about 3 1/2 years ago and at first I did not think it will go out control like this. I honestly thought I will be able to stop when I wanted to. Now it seems to have taken full control over my life and I am worried that it might lead to something very serious... such as health and financial problems if I don't do something about it now.
Your help will be much appreciated.
I have a drink problem and I am looking for some positive feed back on how and where to get help? My problem started about 3 1/2 years ago and at first I did not think it will go out control like this. I honestly thought I will be able to stop when I wanted to. Now it seems to have taken full control over my life and I am worried that it might lead to something very serious... such as health and financial problems if I don't do something about it now.
Your help will be much appreciated.
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As I mentioned elsewhere, some folks swear by AA. Others, me included, wonder why it is that one must first describe one's self as hopeless, and commit to a "higher power"? In the end, it is the individual that stops drinking. The real question is, "What is the trigger that causes the person to stop?"k1w1 wrote:There must be Alcoholics Anonymous here. Google for it.
Good luck. You are doing a good thing.
As I mentioned elsewhere, some folks swear by AA. Others, me included, wonder why it is that one must first describe one's self as hopeless, and commit to a "higher power"? In the end, it is the individual that stops drinking. The real question is, "What is the trigger that causes the person to stop?"
Thanks SE. I am looking into all you've said so far. I am seeking therapy to find that 'trigger' and hoping it won't be long before I find it and get myself out of this mess forever.
Thanks SE. I am looking into all you've said so far. I am seeking therapy to find that 'trigger' and hoping it won't be long before I find it and get myself out of this mess forever.
Fair point, SE. Some would argue that spiritual growth must happen at the same time as mental growth, however.... I don't believe that that must come in the form of a institutionalised plan either.
Perhaps I should have said "a support group" - I do think it would really help if you had support of people going through the same thing. If this is really out of control, you will probably need help. Even if you don't need it - why suffer if you don't have to?
Family members, friends etc may feel "too leaned on" to cope with serious addiction - I guess it all depends on the situation.
There's no right answer. Good luck, anyway.
Perhaps I should have said "a support group" - I do think it would really help if you had support of people going through the same thing. If this is really out of control, you will probably need help. Even if you don't need it - why suffer if you don't have to?
Family members, friends etc may feel "too leaned on" to cope with serious addiction - I guess it all depends on the situation.
There's no right answer. Good luck, anyway.
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alcohol...just say no....start today and live!
Friend,
Glad you've recognized a problem and wanting to [i]make a decision early [/i]about nipping it in the bud before it's too late...of course it only gets worse, unless you decide to change. You must [i]manage your decision daily[/i]. Example...I will not drink today. I will not go to that place today, where they're serving alcohol. I will consider carefully today who I spend my time with...are they drinking? I will not buy alcohol today. I will not drink alcohol at home, alone, today. Though you can't go back and make a new start -- you can start now and make a brand new end! I drank alcohol for over 30 years, so understand your pain. You can stop, and help is just a prayer away. You don't need 12 steps...just Jesus. I've put you at the top of my prayer list...yes, praying to God, in Jesus' name...the one and true, living God! Many choose not to believe...that's their choice...not trying to force it on anyone. God doesn't take anyone to heaven kicking and screaming...everyone has a choice to make. The Bible is for Christians...our handbook. I wouldn't go a day without it...my Spirit needs food, too. Believing in Jesus is what saved my life...He's not for everyone...as you'll continue to read on this forum...and that's their choice. God came for everyone, but many choose not to accept the free gift He offers. You must accept it. Oops, gotta get back to my handbook for life.
P.S. Would've sent you a PM but found that even though I've registered, still not authorized to send a PM. It is a mystery. 
Glad you've recognized a problem and wanting to [i]make a decision early [/i]about nipping it in the bud before it's too late...of course it only gets worse, unless you decide to change. You must [i]manage your decision daily[/i]. Example...I will not drink today. I will not go to that place today, where they're serving alcohol. I will consider carefully today who I spend my time with...are they drinking? I will not buy alcohol today. I will not drink alcohol at home, alone, today. Though you can't go back and make a new start -- you can start now and make a brand new end! I drank alcohol for over 30 years, so understand your pain. You can stop, and help is just a prayer away. You don't need 12 steps...just Jesus. I've put you at the top of my prayer list...yes, praying to God, in Jesus' name...the one and true, living God! Many choose not to believe...that's their choice...not trying to force it on anyone. God doesn't take anyone to heaven kicking and screaming...everyone has a choice to make. The Bible is for Christians...our handbook. I wouldn't go a day without it...my Spirit needs food, too. Believing in Jesus is what saved my life...He's not for everyone...as you'll continue to read on this forum...and that's their choice. God came for everyone, but many choose not to accept the free gift He offers. You must accept it. Oops, gotta get back to my handbook for life.


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