Or when you get weak in the knees...Vaucluse wrote:Smell, schmell - it's all in the ankles!
In your signature... are you thinking to move again then Vaucluse?Vaucluse wrote:Wham wrote:are you sure that she wasn't just trying to get off that little island they call NZ?
. . . and right onto an even smaller island called Singapore?
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Which one will it be? US, Indo/OZ or UK?
Now that's scary. Isn't thinking of marriage on the first date the perogative of women?Wind In My Hair wrote:i know a couple where the guy knew within hours of meeting the girl that he would marry her and today they have two boys and are madly in love...
i hear you. i've never doubted love at first sight, just doubt if i'm personally capable of it. my experience has been that the first 6 months of a relationship are usually wonderful. the real test is the year after that. still, perhaps i'm too careful, which explains why i'm still not married, so don't take it from me.locallass wrote:WIMH, I was just telling Eric over lunch today that what would make me run off from a guy during the first meeting would be any talk of the M word or the future ahead. It's too much too fast. We haven't even gotten to know each other yet, I can't even decide if I want to see this person again and he wants to talk about the future??? The faster a relationship develops, the faster it may crumble because the foundations are not strong enough.
Seems similar to what was said to me by a policeman; "you can meet a person and know you cannot trust them in half an hour but you can know someone a lifetime and never know you can trust them".Wind In My Hair wrote:sometimes it takes two years, not two hours, to find out you're incompatible!
i know a couple where the guy knew within hours of meeting the girl that he would marry her and today they have two boys and are madly in love... sigh. the stuff of fairytales... i love hearing real life stories like these. so vaucluse, wham and other 'love at first sight' and 'happily ever after' personifications, thanks for giving the rest of us hope!
Kimi wrote:In your signature... are you thinking to move again then Vaucluse?Vaucluse wrote:Wham wrote:are you sure that she wasn't just trying to get off that little island they call NZ?
. . . and right onto an even smaller island called Singapore?
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Which one will it be? US, Indo/OZ or UK?
Considering Indonesia as well??
WIMH, I know exactly what you mean about commitment phobic sworn bachelors just fooling around. But all I want to find out during the first meeting/date is a general idea what this person is like and whether we have anything in common. And the tone of conversation kept light and humourous. If we have things in common, cool, we'll hang out and see what happens. Maybe we'll stay friends, maybe there could be something more, maybe we'll just stop seeing each other because our lives/careers have taken different directions. Let's wait and see.Wind In My Hair wrote:i don't mind if the guy mentioned that he's looking for marriage, at least you know he's not a commitment-phobic sworn bachelor just fooling around. but yes, if he stared into my eyes on the first date and saw our children there, it would certainly freak me out a little. but then again, life has a way of surprising us so don't give up hope locallass!
well i guess that's the purpose of the first date - to be potentially nightmarish! in fact i think that's a good thing. much better than a dream first date and the whole relationship turns nightmarish 6 months later. so a nightmarish first date is a success in terms of time and heartache saved.locallass wrote:Perhaps this is because I've been on nightmarish first dates... Or I'm just a cynic when it comes to love at first sight.
ha ha, good thing for me pretty boys don't turn me on. my only problem with the wndc is the "WN" part. i'm busy every wednesday night. still, when there's a chance i'd certainly like to meet you and eric and the rest. akan datang!locallass wrote:By the way, when will you start joining us for WNDC? Eric promises to invite his Dutch model friend down one day. Surely this is something you're not going to miss?
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