smoulder wrote: ↑Tue, 06 Feb 2024 6:04 pm
I'm guessing that it has something to do with the Indian family dynamics - not unusual for the wife to move to her parents house to give birth and stay there while the child is young. It is an important support system for some. That and there's sheer pragmatism - the cost of medical attention is just so much lower in India.
But I do agree with SMS that it probably sends the wrong signal to the ICA... They have their own ways to judge how committed an applicant will be to Singapore and care very little about what the applicant thinks is good for themselves.
I understand that it may be seen as not showing commitment by not having your kid born here. But I am sure ica understands the psychological / emotional and physical support needed when a women is pregnant and is about to give birth.
First time child birth is really a bit anxious experience for any women and this anxiousness or stress can directly affect the mother and even child in womb. There is proven evidence that the mother should be as stressless as possible and relaxed for the health benefit of mother & child. This definitely requires some 'another' person to be in close vicinity to a woman especially if the husband has to work and could not be near her during majority of the day. Also, to have a relaxed mind your brain should feel that your surroundings are very familiar and feeling very used to living there.
An emotional or physical support to a mother in her last few months of pregnancy can only be given mostly by relatives or at least friends. I am sure many people dont go to india to give birth just for the sake of saving money. Definitely spending few thousands of dollars wont stop many from giving birth here especially after knowing that it can benefit the visa approvals for the baby (of course, i personally dont think that having foreign baby born here will increase its pr chances). For example, if you take OP's case definitely his salary can easily afford for a child birth here if he wished for it 4 years ago.
The main reason for any to go to hometown to give birth is that they have people who can support them in all ways (physical and emotional needs) at least for the last few months of pregnancy. Since they are in their hometown where the place is very familiar for them along with familiar people, it gives a huge feeling of safety. As a foreigner, it is not a good idea to insist on giving birth here if the woman feels not feeling much supportive here. Come on, you just want the husband and the pregnant wife to just give birth in a foreign land with no one to give physical or emotional support? just for the sake of getting pr? Its ok that some foreign couples give birth here if they can manage to give birth here, as they may have some good reason for doing so. But if someone just wants to give birth for the sake of getting pr, it is not something to be praised. A birth of a child is a big event in a couples life and the child & mother have every right to be celebrated with all of their grandparents and families' presence and that is the right thing to do.
Im pretty sure ICA is not so heartless to not approve pr for a foreign family just because their kid was not born here. HOWEVER, i do encourage that it is better to bring the baby to sg within few months of birth and live with parents here. Also, you should understand pregnancy can involve complications too, which may require surgery and additional care. The husband cant fight all of this alone as a foreigner. If you are a local, you can give birth here as they may have relatives to support here and even have huge subsidies for some medical emergencies during pregnancy. Asking a foreigner women to do the same thing during critical situations like pregnancy in the name of commitment is not good. Instead encourage to bring the kid to sg within few months of birth and live here.
Let me share you an example of a critical case during pregnancy of a foreign couple in sg and they almost have to go bankrupt.
https://give.asia/campaign/please-help- ... ature-baby#/