Lisafuller wrote: ↑Wed, 28 Jun 2023 12:18 am
My daughter wanted to go to Phillips Exeter Academy in Massachusetts fresh out of primary school, and in retrospect, she probably would have thrived there, but she had just gotten into RGS and we wanted to let her try it out.
I don't know if we would do things differently given the chance, as she's made many great friends and done well for herself, but I do think she would've had a more well-rounded, balanced education there.
Responding to both this, your comment on Year 11 boarding school, and other replies. For me, there are several parts of Year 7 - Year 12 education;
a) what you learn (nuts and bolts)
b) bells and whistles for a) (depth, rigor, extra programmes, etc)
c) what you experience (school spirit, history, tradition, peers, etc)
d) how you parlay this into an admissions ticket for the next level.
I think maximizing c) (and b) often goes along with that) doesn't always help to optimize d), as often the competition is higher. Even for places like the school you list above, they cannot get everyone to their desired destinations. For better or worse, every university is only going to take in so many people from each country, state, school, etc. Essentially, I think people end up competing against peers (subset of the total applicants) that are most similar to them, and the aggregate university odds (admits / applicants) or a particular school's Year 12 placement stats only mean so much. Whatever the odds for both are, there are kids with dramatically higher and lower chances (depending on the circumstances).
Conversely, one can go to a well-funded public (for free) and potentially make it through too. However, the per school intakes (quotas) are probably smaller than those for some of the powerhouse feeder schools, so it is hard to know whether the odds are "better." I.e. you are one of the top ten students but if they will only take in two kids, nothing has really changed. There may be some instances where this strategy will give you a high chance at the in-state school (I'm not sure what all of the qualifying rules are any longer). If so, picking a state with UCLA/Berkeley, UNC, UVA, U Michigan, etc isn't a bad strategy; try to be reasonably sure of securing one of these and then you have an option on something above that (again, provided one wants to live in those states and can find suitable employment, visa, etc).
As for S4 O/IP4 to college or community college, I would also lean against this due to the age difference (although you will get back some of the differential due to the school calendar elsewhere). These are formative years for kids beyond just chasing an admissions ticket. Ultimately, if the above is the desired route, I would probably try to pick a school / school system, and let the kid finish Year 8 or Year 9 through Year 12 there. Of course, everyone has different constraints and some things or views develop over time, so this is not to say Year 11 or college/community college are wrong.
In the end, the university admission process and selection has got quite crazy over the years. I don't have anything against kids working hard, having ambition, and setting targets high or parents wanting the best for their kids and trying to give them every advantage possible, but it is also important not to let this whole ordeal become more than it is...