malcontent wrote: ↑Wed, 03 May 2023 1:42 pm
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The worst part of it all - she won’t even get proper credit for it. Because an A in Singapore is so hard to get, it is wasted effort when she goes outside Singapore, college admissions view easy A or a hard A as equal. Grade inflation around the world is making lesser students appear to be her equals. I know grades aren’t everything,
but if you knew the amount of time and dedication she put into it… she has no life, and now it feels like it was all for nothing.
The last part is a challenge and I started to detect this among various kids over the past couple of years (that had finished). Regardless of which school the kids are in and whether the target is Oxbridge, Ivys(+), local medicine, etc, some very hard working and very talented kids won’t get what they want. Unfortunately, it’s a simple imbalance between too few vacancies and too many applicants.
If it’s any consolation, the story is the same in the US. I think there are schools there that can go toe to toe with the IP schools here in terms of curriculum and what not (they may cost US$40,000 – US$60,000 per year though), and not even they can get everyone to where they want to go (maybe 30% - 40% of the cohort to Top 20/30 in some places). The student life/experience may be somewhat different (although I believe it’s less different than you’d think), but the end result is the same; unfortunately some have to move forward with Plan B.
You guys are pretty close to the end, but the sooner one accepts this the easier it is to deal with.
Option 1: know you may not get what you want/be prepared to go with a reasonable backup, and be really happy if the letters come back favourably.
Option 2: complain that something isn’t fair, be upset, and try again (which may or may not work).
Even if one sticks with Option 2 and gets lucky, in some ways the problem isn't really solved. So you get in to wherever, but what happens when you can't get the Tier 1 jobs after uni, etc? At some point, there can't be so much riding on the mere fact of winning or obtaining what is of the highest social status (among your current peers).
The good thing is your kid seems reasonably bright and hard working. There’s always been a place for those people to excel in the US. Good luck.