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Re: Why women cheat

Post by sundaymorningstaple » Sat, 17 Sep 2022 3:42 pm

Curiosity wrote:
Sat, 17 Sep 2022 1:19 pm
The scenario of men go out earn money and wives spend their money and stay home taking care of the kids. 3 possibilities can happen here.
1. Men have a little fling during business trip or has another family in another town, or maybe he could be one of the rarest gem who stay committed to his wife
2. Wife cheat with some guy because husband is away, or she doesn't cheat.
3. They both cheat because they can.

But what about both of them work? Those that I know, they work and also take care the kids. Take time off during the day to pick up their kids from school and continue work after that. And yet, husband cheat. I thought they were one of the almost extinct species because they were loving husband and father. That was before I knew they cheat.

As for the ship captains, military personnels, navy and so on, I did happen to meet them years back.

Me and my friend met few navy guys who happened to stay at Singapore port for couple weeks. They took our RSVP area by mistake (according to them) and somehow we hang out together. 2 of my friends were interested with them. Long story short, after few times of hanging out and noticed something was not right, thanks to the PI skill of my friend, we found out that they were engaged/married. So, they decided not to meet them again.

I am not saying that these sailors, navy and so on are not good guys. I am sure some of them stay committed to their partner.

I am curious why men cheat and if I could have better understanding, maybe I could help my friends. If the root of the problem is due to medical, I could try and ask her to get help (without mentioning anything about the cheating part from the husband). If it is because there is no more spark, then they both really need to sit down and talk about it.

At least, do something about it.

By the way, I had a talk with my girls about this and they said if the men can cheat, so can we. Why stay committed to him if he cheats. Men can cheat for many reasons and so can we, women can cheat for many reasons too.

Thank you for saying I am young 8-)
Now you are cherry picking and clutching at straws in a discussion where you no longer have any solid ground. You have preconceived notions because you were hurt 20 years ago and now it seems to have festered into a cancer with regards to the opposite sex. I actually feel somewhat sorry about the wall of bias you have built up in your mind. You are probably a nice person otherwise, but when you try to tar an entire gender with the same brush you have actually portrayed something vastly different.

When a girl is virtually only half my age, I call that young. :cool: You are never to old to change.
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Re: Why women cheat

Post by Curiosity » Sat, 17 Sep 2022 6:39 pm

Hmm...Am I bias? Let's see....judging from the personal encounter experiences and seeing those who around me cheat (hubbies) their wives, probably I am bias, hope and faith are lost. Maybe it did festered into cancer. Good thing I found out early and had it removed. Had my treatment too recently. So, all good. 8-)

But then again, if I really that bias, I wouldn't be putting myself out there trying to find a good man, who can be my life companion, who doesn't cheat and would look after me. Treat me right and I will treat you right.

Final conclusion, men n women cheat because they can, for whatever reasons they have. :-({|= :shit:

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Re: Why women cheat

Post by BBCDoc » Sat, 17 Sep 2022 8:47 pm

PNGMK wrote:
BBCDoc wrote:
Sat, 17 Sep 2022 1:36 pm

That being said, it is highly known/ expected that Japanese businessmen have a proclivity to cheat with CSWs across Southeast Asia every opportunity they have…which is why we try to block any of the HQ visits to Thailand and Philippines…



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What is a CSW?
Commercial Sex Worker


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Re: Why women cheat

Post by nakatago » Mon, 19 Sep 2022 9:07 am

PNGMK wrote:
Sat, 17 Sep 2022 2:44 pm
What is a CSW?
A fellatio-inclined trollop.

BBCDoc wrote:
Sat, 17 Sep 2022 8:47 pm
Commercial Sex Worker
Yeah, that's more nightly news friendly.
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Re: Why women cheat

Post by PNGMK » Tue, 20 Sep 2022 9:44 am

I not lawyer/teacher/CPA.
You've been arrested? Law Society of Singapore can provide referrals.
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Re: Why women cheat

Post by Lisafuller » Tue, 27 Sep 2022 9:03 pm

PNGMK wrote:To all women

This is a sensitive topic to talk about and yet not a foreign topic. But I do want know why women cheat on their partner (bf, husband, companion), and yes, I am a male who write this topic. I asked because some women in my circle do that. Just to be clear, not all women cheat. There are good women too. Also men cheat too, but this topic is about women.

Examples of this I'm sure we all know of. IME women cheat because in order seek validation as they are mostly duplicitous deceitful skanks who are always looking for greener grass but others may have different opinions.

Let me know what you think?
I believe it’s not so straightforward - yes, most women cheat to pursue greener pastures, but some do it for the thrill, and others do it for seemingly no reason at all. There are even some who, for whatever reason are not able to separate from their partners, and are trapped in loveless marriages where both seek romance outside of the relationship.

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Re: Why women cheat

Post by Lisafuller » Tue, 27 Sep 2022 9:04 pm

Curiosity wrote:Lol, dude, the least you can do is to change the content. Not just replacing the word men to women. :-k

Anyway, I have not met any women who cheated their partner yet, and what is IME women? I have never heard of that before. :-k

Cheers
You’re either very young or aren’t very social because cheating is unfortunately so common nowadays.

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Re: Why women cheat

Post by Lisafuller » Tue, 27 Sep 2022 9:05 pm

tiktok wrote:I might be sheltered but the only women I know who "cheat" are married to assholes and are firmly separated.
How are they married and separated at the same time? Do you mean they’re in the separation period before divorce? Because if so, I’m not quite sure that constitutes cheating.

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Re: Why women cheat

Post by sundaymorningstaple » Wed, 28 Sep 2022 12:04 am

I'm almost an expert on that subject. If you have a legal separation agreement (there are two different forms): decree nisi; or a mensa et thoro. I've had one of each. The first becomes a full divorce after a period of time, the 2nd is just a court recorded separation agreement where you are still fully legally married but living apart. Nothing has to be done to stop it. If you reconcile you just move back in with each other as you are still legally married. If you want a full divorce just pay the lawyer his fee. Got interesting anecdote on these two that actually made me a bigamist for 6 weeks!
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Re: Why women cheat

Post by Lisafuller » Wed, 28 Sep 2022 12:22 am

sundaymorningstaple wrote:I'm almost an expert on that subject. If you have a legal separation agreement (there are two different forms): decree nisi; or a mensa et thoro. I've had one of each. The first becomes a full divorce after a period of time, the 2nd is just a court recorded separation agreement where you are still fully legally married but living apart. Nothing has to be done to stop it. If you reconcile you just move back in with each other as you are still legally married. If you want a full divorce just pay the lawyer his fee. Got interesting anecdote on these two that actually made me a bigamist for 6 weeks!
I’m aware of the first option, but didn’t really know that the second was a thing. It’s my understanding that every divorce in Singapore has to first begin with a mandatory three-year separation period. I think the government does this to try and keep more families together, but I believe the rule is open to exceptions, for example, in the case of abusive relationships.

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Re: Why women cheat

Post by Lisafuller » Wed, 28 Sep 2022 12:22 am

nakatago wrote:
PNGMK wrote:
Sat, 17 Sep 2022 2:44 pm
What is a CSW?
A fellatio-inclined trollop.

BBCDoc wrote:
Sat, 17 Sep 2022 8:47 pm
Commercial Sex Worker
Yeah, that's more nightly news friendly.
LOL!

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Re: Why women cheat

Post by Lisafuller » Wed, 28 Sep 2022 12:24 am

BBCDoc wrote:@mal

Regarding Japanese women, the culture is very messed up now. From the experience of my SIL, Japanese men are intimidated by successful career women, and such women are stuck with much older men who earn more than them. As such, she had a hard time finding a BF. It’s no surprise that once they get out of Japan, they may feel more liberated and likely to explore what is out there.

Japanese guys end up in a reclusive Otaku culture, with unrealistic expectations of women from anime.

That being said, it is highly known/ expected that Japanese businessmen have a proclivity to cheat with CSWs across Southeast Asia every opportunity they have…which is why we try to block any of the HQ visits to Thailand and Philippines…



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Completely agree, another name for this phenomenon is SDE - Small D*** energy.

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Re: Why women cheat

Post by Curiosity » Wed, 28 Sep 2022 12:03 pm

Lisafuller wrote:
Tue, 27 Sep 2022 9:04 pm
Curiosity wrote:Lol, dude, the least you can do is to change the content. Not just replacing the word men to women. :-k

Anyway, I have not met any women who cheated their partner yet, and what is IME women? I have never heard of that before. :-k

Cheers
You’re either very young or aren’t very social because cheating is unfortunately so common nowadays.
Haven't you heard, 43 is the new 23? So, yes I am young😉 in heart. I know cheating is common nowadays, for men and women. It just that, in my circle, my female friends don't cheat. Their partner cheat on them, including my ex. 🙂

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Re: Why women cheat

Post by PNGMK » Wed, 28 Sep 2022 1:44 pm

Curiosity wrote:
Wed, 28 Sep 2022 12:03 pm
Lisafuller wrote:
Tue, 27 Sep 2022 9:04 pm
Curiosity wrote:Lol, dude, the least you can do is to change the content. Not just replacing the word men to women. :-k

Anyway, I have not met any women who cheated their partner yet, and what is IME women? I have never heard of that before. :-k

Cheers
You’re either very young or aren’t very social because cheating is unfortunately so common nowadays.
Haven't you heard, 43 is the new 23? So, yes I am young😉 in heart. I know cheating is common nowadays, for men and women. It just that, in my circle, my female friends don't cheat. Their partner cheat on them, including my ex. 🙂
I don't think women readily admit to cheating, even to their other women friends. They are duplicitous.
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Re: Why women cheat

Post by Curiosity » Wed, 28 Sep 2022 2:12 pm

PNGMK wrote:
Wed, 28 Sep 2022 1:44 pm
Curiosity wrote:
Wed, 28 Sep 2022 12:03 pm
Lisafuller wrote:
Tue, 27 Sep 2022 9:04 pm

You’re either very young or aren’t very social because cheating is unfortunately so common nowadays.
Haven't you heard, 43 is the new 23? So, yes I am young😉 in heart. I know cheating is common nowadays, for men and women. It just that, in my circle, my female friends don't cheat. Their partner cheat on them, including my ex. 🙂
I don't think women readily admit to cheating, even to their other women friends. They are duplicitous.
Interesting comment :-k . I think, duplicitous applies to men and women. Women may not readily admit they cheat, so do men I suppose. Admitting only happens when you get caught :shock: Maybe my female friends cheats, maybe they don't. I am just glad that I do not see it, not like how I caught the husband cheat at with another woman.

I personally do not want to cheat because if I did, I am no different with my ex.

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