Now you are cherry picking and clutching at straws in a discussion where you no longer have any solid ground. You have preconceived notions because you were hurt 20 years ago and now it seems to have festered into a cancer with regards to the opposite sex. I actually feel somewhat sorry about the wall of bias you have built up in your mind. You are probably a nice person otherwise, but when you try to tar an entire gender with the same brush you have actually portrayed something vastly different.Curiosity wrote: ↑Sat, 17 Sep 2022 1:19 pmThe scenario of men go out earn money and wives spend their money and stay home taking care of the kids. 3 possibilities can happen here.
1. Men have a little fling during business trip or has another family in another town, or maybe he could be one of the rarest gem who stay committed to his wife
2. Wife cheat with some guy because husband is away, or she doesn't cheat.
3. They both cheat because they can.
But what about both of them work? Those that I know, they work and also take care the kids. Take time off during the day to pick up their kids from school and continue work after that. And yet, husband cheat. I thought they were one of the almost extinct species because they were loving husband and father. That was before I knew they cheat.
As for the ship captains, military personnels, navy and so on, I did happen to meet them years back.
Me and my friend met few navy guys who happened to stay at Singapore port for couple weeks. They took our RSVP area by mistake (according to them) and somehow we hang out together. 2 of my friends were interested with them. Long story short, after few times of hanging out and noticed something was not right, thanks to the PI skill of my friend, we found out that they were engaged/married. So, they decided not to meet them again.
I am not saying that these sailors, navy and so on are not good guys. I am sure some of them stay committed to their partner.
I am curious why men cheat and if I could have better understanding, maybe I could help my friends. If the root of the problem is due to medical, I could try and ask her to get help (without mentioning anything about the cheating part from the husband). If it is because there is no more spark, then they both really need to sit down and talk about it.
At least, do something about it.
By the way, I had a talk with my girls about this and they said if the men can cheat, so can we. Why stay committed to him if he cheats. Men can cheat for many reasons and so can we, women can cheat for many reasons too.
Thank you for saying I am young
When a girl is virtually only half my age, I call that young. You are never to old to change.