My 2 cents:Curiosity wrote: ↑Sat, 17 Sep 2022 1:43 pmWhat about this one? This is my own experience months ago
I dated this man few times and I found out that he is married and have kids (stupid of me )
When I asked him, why would he cheat? he said it is an experience, a journey of an adventure, for me, not him. To my opinion, he didn't answer my question.
I asked, what if I want more not just date, but commitment, life partner, etc and he said about following his heart. Again, no direct answer to my opinion.
To your opnion, what is his reason of cheating? Is it ego?
Firstly, it is very natural for both men and women to sexually desire other people than your very own partner/bf/gf. Perhaps besides the very initial stage were you both just fell in love and are crazy and blindly fascinated about yourself. All other cases boil down to self-control, honesty/integrity and avoidance of situations where you could be tempted beyond the self-control thing. When you hear somebody saying, that under no circumstance he or she will not cheat on their partners, this is a complete BS. Such person may believe in it of course but it does not mean he would be resistant if the right circumstances arrive. One good example, I read about some time ago, if you have a sister, the chances your husband/partner will cheat on you with her is like 40%. That's a lot, and the obvious reason here, this is basically an opportunity with the contacts/situations difficult to avoid.
So if you think about any relation from that perspective, you basically need (1) right person, (2) be in a good, healthy relationship. If either 1 or 2 has some problems, well, here it goes. I realize it's a cliche, but I think it's still comes to these 2 basic things. A married man not telling you upfront he is married, is not a honest person. Your 30yo bf, cheating on you with the assumption, you are ok with it, is not the right person neither. Married colleagues at work, it is probably enough they share very little with their wives other than living space and kids. Besides, you know nothing about their situation at home, so I think you should not really judge them. Perhaps their wives are also not really saints? Or their made wrong choices marrying such men, or or or.. could be many things.