MOCHS wrote: ↑Thu, 27 Oct 2022 7:54 am
Not really arranged marriage but more of matchmaking. I knew a few female Indian SCs my age & younger who had a matchmaker. They are given the freedom to find their own Mr Right but sometimes work/school makes it difficult to find a suitable partner so they are open to matchmaking.
The matchmaker & their family screens through potential guys, and she is shown their photos. If she is interested, she can just chat with them with no obligations that it becomes marriage.
Did know one female Indian SC who was matched with a guy from India. She told me they chatted via text & video, she found herself liking him. I think she flew over a couple of times to meet him in person, then they dated for a year before getting married. They had ceremonies in India & SG. Her hubby got LTVP -> EP -> PR within a few years. Helps that their union produced two boys. She is very happy now.
Yes, agree with Smoulder on this. This is how the modern arrange marriages are done in India.
In very orthodox families, the matchmakers are restricted to particular caste or community but in the end the boy and girl meet each other and decide for themselves and it is not the parents who decide.
My marriage was also arrange married. I went and met my wife in a cafe and had a quick chat on what her interests were and shared about mine. We met couple of times more and thats it, we decided it is a yes. My wife is same caste and community, we speak a common language and same cuisine etc. You guys will be surprised the number of languages we have in India, it is almost like Singapore, a malay may live his entire life in Singapore and yet not learn chinese and vice versa. So same way we have languages in India which are very different. It helps to marry within the same community if it is an arranged marriage.
BTW, many of girls and boys these days also choose their partner during their college or work and even if they are from different castes and community, they do get married, these days it is quite relaxed.
One of the biggest advantages of arrange marriage is there are lots and lots of boys and girls who left on their own will never be able to find their life partner, because it is not like the west, where we go to a disco or a pub and find our own partners. If you are an introvert, you may never find one. So arrange marriage helps in this regard.
In Indian arranged marriages both husband and wife take each other for granted yet, marriages rarely break. My brother married a white girl and is in UK, love marriage ofcourse. My brother was such a lazy guy when he was a kid, now I can imagine he needs to cook his own food and help in cleaning the house too lol. His wife also works and earns so he cannot be a lazy ass like me. I guess in Indian arrange marriages men are really spoilt
Oh biggest advantage of arrange marriages, no need to gift for aniversary, birthday, womens day, valentines day.... It is just crazy! I just dont gift anything to my wife and we are very pragmatic, I just tell her buy whatever you want.
