Lisafuller wrote: ↑Mon, 23 May 2022 3:45 am
Hi everyone, some of you may have noticed that I’ve been on a hiatus for much of this month. I’ve been really busy helping my daughter plan out her next year in Singapore. That’s right, she decided to go with a gap year. She seems pretty pleased with her decision, and I’m happy to let her do whatever as long as she has a plan. She was hesitant until the very end but it was pretty clear to me that she had her heart set on taking a gap year, even if it wasn’t really clear to her. Appreciate any advice on what she can do to make this year extra fulfilling.
Congrats and glad to hear she is happy with her decision.
I think a gap year can mean so many different things depending on the person, so without knowing more it is hard to say. Generally, I would look at the short-term and long-term though. Short-term is the few months until the application process starts again (perhaps try the early admissions period?), so trying to come up with what you can do or show to make the application stronger. Once all of the applications are in again, there is a longer period of just waiting until school start the following year. I would consider any of the following a good use of time over this period; expand skills and experience in area likely to pursue in uni, improve one's weakest area or do something you are otherwise uncomfortable doing, volunteer to help something you are passionate about.
It may be too late for this or perhaps it is not even possible, but I may consider moving back to the US until next fall. One, she may be able to do things that are easier for people there to relate to. Two, the time spent may be able to build up some base, foundation, network, etc that can be leveraged over the four years in uni and for whatever the next game is (grad school admissions, job, etc). It's probably OK either way, as one can do all of that stuff over the 4 years once there, but it is something I may give some thought to.
In addition to all of the tangible things that could be done, I suspect many kids will just get a different perspective on how to think about the next stage of schooling and life. Some will be bored and see others progressing, and it will motivate them to get back in the game (wherever that is) and accomplish whatever it is they want to do (realize they could have worked a little harder or made more out of a few opportunities). In contrast, others may realize and become more content with the fact that we might not win at every stage of the game, and that life is still pretty good. This doesn't mean lose all ambition, but just see things a bit differently while still being successful. Either is OK and again it really depends on the kid and exactly what his/her situation is.
Regardless, I am sure she will do well this year and beyond.